Gary Chapman - Life-Changing Cross-Cultural Friendships: How You Can Help Heal Racial Divides, One Relationship at a Time

Life-Changing Cross-Cultural Friendships is a practical application of Kingdom Race Theology. It provides doable steps, helping Christians go beyond reading or talking about race relations to tangible acts to make a lasting difference for unity in the world in which we live.

Dr. Tony Evans, senior pastor, Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship; founder and president, Urban Alternative

Very grateful to have people exercise humility and grace to dive into this conversation in a healthy way. This book will be helpful for many.

Lecrae, Grammy Awardwinning artist

Recently, Ive asked several Black brothers and sisters, How do I help with the racial division in our country? Without exception, their response has included the pursuit of interracial friendships. Even with the best of intentions, this advice goes unheeded if we dont know how to navigate the barriers and potential triggers in such relationships. Gary and Clarences book is sensitive, compelling, and informative in spelling out the how. Its advice and example will do much to heal the wounds of the Western church, one relationship at a time.

Juli Slattery, PsyD, president and cofounder, Authentic Intimacy

No scolding, no guilt trips, just powerful reminders and solid counsel on how to start healing the rifts between cultures. Eschewing the clich of pretending colorblindness, Drs. Chapman and Shuler have learned to appreciate and love each other. I feel honored to call Gary and Clarence friends.

Jerry B. Jenkins, bestselling author; founder, Jerry Jenkins Writers Guild

Gary Chapman and Clarence Shuler require no introduction. Their decades of groundbreaking work speak for themselves. Im thankful that God has led them to bring their expertise into the sphere of cross-cultural, multiracial relationships. In a world marked by racial division and political upheaval, Chapman and Shulers voices guide people of faith back to the foundation of the gospel and the love of Christ, which breaks all cultural barriers and acknowledges the differences that make us unique image-bearers of God.

Samuel Rodriguez, lead pastor, New Season; president and CEO, NHCLC; author, Persevere with Power and What Heaven Starts, Hell Cannot Stop!; executive producer, Breakthrough and Flamin Hot

In Life-Changing Cross-Cultural Friendships, Gary Chapman and Clarence Shuler both beautifully express how to live out the gospel of Jesus Christ in a racially divided world. Through the chapters in this book, they show how to overcome hurdles through establishing relationships of trust, authenticity, respect, sacrifice, honor, friendship, and commitment. Ultimately, they reflect a friend who sticks closer than a brother, our creator and reconciler, Jesus Christ!

Huron Claus, president and CEO, CHIEF, Inc., a ministry to Native American people

I have never met these authors, but I have been in conversation with Clarence Shuler for many years. I trust these brothers, and I highly recommend their work. They are living what they write. Trust them and learn how to become effective agents of reconciliation in this divided world.

William Pannell, emeritus professor of preaching, Fuller Theological Seminary; author, The Coming Race Wars: A Cry for Justice, from Civil Rights to Black Lives Matter

Forty years ago, I became a US citizen, embracing all the goodness, corruption, and racism of this country. As a Latino in the USA married to a Chinese, I understand the challenges of living across cultures. I was truly touched by this book; specifically, I found the lists of different types of friendships helpful and I was educated by the steps outlined to create cross-cultural friendships. This book has taught me important ways I can narrow the differences that exist in my world.

Wolfgang D. Fernndez, global citizen; NextGen mentor; HeartCore changer

When confronted with profoundly complex problems and crises, sometimes the most important step is the initial one. Gary Chapman and Clarence Shuler offer an example of the necessary first step in the journey toward healing in our world. The power of friendship that embodies the important work of Christian witness and Gods justice is demonstrated in a beautiful and real way through the story of these two individuals.

Soong-Chan Rah, Robert Munger Professor of Evangelism, Fuller Theological Seminary; author, The Next Evangelicalism and Prophetic Lament

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Life-Changing Cross-Cultural Friendships

Copyright 2022 by Gary Chapman and Clarence Shuler

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Epub Edition March 2022 9780310365020

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Names: Chapman, Gary D., 1938- author. | Shuler, Clarence, author.

Title: Life-changing cross-cultural friendships : how you can help heal racial divides, one relationship at a time / Gary Chapman, Clarence Shuler.

Description: Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2022. | Includes bibliographical references. | Summary: After decades of knowing each other, bestselling author Gary Chapman and counselor and diversity trainer Dr. Clarence Shuler have come to believe that if each of us formed Life-Changing Cross-Cultural Friendships, it would radically transform race relations in our countryand it all starts with you making one new friendProvided by publisher.

Identifiers: LCCN 2021061614 (print) | LCCN 2021061615 (ebook) | ISBN 9780310365013 (trade paperback) | ISBN 9780310365020 (ebook)

Subjects: LCSH: Friendship. | Intercultural communication. | Interracial friendship. | Social exchange. | Interpersonal relations.

Classification: LCC HM1161 .C43 2022 (print) | LCC HM1161 (ebook) | DDC 302--dc23/eng/20220202

LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2021061614

LC ebook record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2021061615

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