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2012, 2016 by Jim and Lynne Jackson
Published by Bethany House Publishers
11400 Hampshire Avenue South
Bloomington, Minnesota 55438
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Bethany House Publishers is a division of
Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Michigan
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Previously published by Connected Families
Ebook edition created 2016
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Library of Congress Control Number: 2016938458
ISBN 978-1-4412-3059-1
Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations are from the Holy Bible, New International Version. NIV. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com
Scripture quotations identified NLT are from the Holy Bible , New Living Translation, copyright 1996, 2004, 2015 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.
Scripture quotations identified N A SB are from the New American Standard Bible, copyright 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995 by The Lockman Foundation. Used by permission. (www.Lockman.org)
Scripture quotations identified NRSV are from the New Revised Standard Version of the Bible, copyright 1989, by the Division of Christian Education of the National Council of the Churches of Christ in the United States of America. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
Scripture quotations identified NKJV are from the New King James Version. Copyright 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
Scripture quotations identified T HE M ESSAGE are from THE MESSAGE. Copyright by Eugene H. Peterson 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002. Used by permission of NavPress. All rights reserved. Represented by Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.
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Endorsements
Theres nothing worse than feeling youre losing the parenting battle. But theres nothing better than having a roadmap away from all that hurt and toward closeness and health that you knew parenting could be like! Youll find a way forward in this new book, and new look at connecting caring and correction that can change your and your childs life. I highly recommend this to stressed-out and just-starting-out parents at all ages and stages.
John Trent, PhD, Moody Theological Seminary; author, The Blessing and LifeMapping
In the age of helicopter parenting and global anxiety about the future, Jim and Lynne Jackson bring a grace-filled message of hard-won wisdom for weary parents like me. Their four essential messages will connect with your kids and launch them into the world as confident and capable human beings.
Steve Wiens, senior pastor, Genesis Covenant Church, Minneapolis; author, Beginnings: The First Seven Days of the Rest of Your Life
Discipline That Connects With Your Child s Heart has been more transformational for our family than any other book. The peace process, in particular, has changed conflict from a wedge that drives us apart into an opportunity to grow together.
Chad and Liz Caswell, changed parents of three
The DTC material has been a game-changer with my family. Additionally, I have partnered with Connected Families as a pastor and military chaplain and have presented the material to my church and airmen families in base retreats. This is a biblical, practical, and simple approach to parenting.
Capt. Michael Golay, chaplain, USAF
This book has changed how I parent! Thank you to the Jacksons for sharing these needed actionable parenting strategies in an authentic and even vulnerable voice. I needed it. I used it. It worked. Thank you.
David Horsager, CEO, Trust Edge Leadership Institute; bestselling author, The Trust Edge
This is a why book and a how book. The Jacksons speak into a way of thinking, acting, and being that forms us and changes our collective character, habits, and practices. Parents will be helped. Children will be glad. Homes, schools, and communities will be transformed.
Joel Johnson, senior pastor, Westwood Community Church, Minneapolis
Good , solid , practical advice and insights for parents with some surprisingly simple and effective ways to discipline that may never have occurred to you . You ll enjoy this book !
Cynthia Ulrich Tobias , author , The Way They Learn and You Can t Make Me! ( But I Can Be Persuaded)
The Jacksons empower parents to reframe problem behaviors to invitations for connection with God, with each other, and with the needs of the world. They trumpet the call for parents to offer messages of safety, love, value, and responsibility while simultaneously examining their own lives. This is a great book!
Dr. Denise Muir Kjesbo, PhD, Children and Family Ministry chair, Bethel College
Typical parenting books offer strategies intended to control your childwhat a setup! The Jacksons equip you with insights and practical tools to be the parent God created you to be. As parents lead with grace, kids follow and grow in wisdom and true respect. This book will bring peace and joy to you and your home.
Peter Larson, PhD, and Heather Larson, MA, authors, Great Dates : Connecting Faith , Love & Marriage
Being the mom to four young boys, Ive struggled to balance grace, training, and boundaries (often more like a mix of yelling, threatening, and frustration). Thankfully, God led me to Jim and Lynne Jackson and their straightforward approach in Discipline That Connects . Now I can confidently communicate the four messages while driving carpool, sitting around the dinner table, or tackling bedtime chaos.
Heather MacFayden, blogger, God Centered Mom
As the mom of three young (and full-of-life) kids, I want to prayerfully raise kids who follow God but who also choose love and connection over a bunch of shoulds and should-nots. Because of this, Discipline That Connects With Your Child s Heart immediately appealed to me. I was not disappointedinside the pages I found helpful tips, connection-based ideas, and best of all the encouragement I needed to connect with my kids as I disciple them.
Erin MacPherson, author, Christian Mama s Guide and Free to Parent
Its obvious after reading just a few pages of this book that the Jacksons know the true meaning of the word discipline : to train. Parents and caregivers alike will find practical help from the many stories and examples in each chapter on how to touch a childs heart by helping them feel safe, loved, called and capable, and responsible. This book even helps a grandparent like me. I will be assigning it in my Family Ministry courses.
Scottie May, PhD, associate professor, Wheaton College; author, Children Matter: Celebrating Their Place in the Church, Family, and Community
A practical, proven, and powerful framework for parenting. Every concept and example in the book illuminates its central message: Love kids with the same grace and insight that weve received through Jesus. I intend to cherish this resource as a parent and will refer to it many times over.
Matt Norman, regional president, Dale Carnegie Training; former 40 Under 40, Minneapolis/ St. Paul Business Journal
In Discipline That Connects , we found not only an amazing philosophical parenting resource, but a non-formulaic, practical parenting discipleship tool. Our family is forever changed by applying these biblical principles to our parenting journey. Weve gained peace, direction, and vision as we implement the books messages in our home.