What people are saying about
Growing Kids with Character
Hettie Brittz invites you to an enriching and educational counseling session that answers every possible question regarding your childs temperament and associating traits. Hettie addresses the reader in such a personal and loving way that parents, as well as professionals, will feel equipped to meet the challenges of parenthood and to better understand their children, or clients or patients. This book not only changed the way I parent my own children but also enhanced my therapy with my patients, both children and parents.
Jo-Marie vdM-Bothma,PhD (Psych)
This phenomenal book combines authenticity from an author who lives out the wisdom she offers, practical help that takes into account the uniqueness of your family, and a healthy dose of grace, because none of us have it all perfectly worked out and yet our heavenly Father loves us unconditionally.
Graeme Schnell, CEO of Focus on the Family Africa
For the last three decades I have worked closely with kids of various ages in various countriesas a teacher, an aunt, a youth group leader, and in a leadership role with Compassion International. I wish I had had access to Hetties insights through Growing Kids with Character years ago! It would have been a helpful lens into the souls of the kids who crossed my path. Whether youre a parent or not, if you regularly work with children, this book is a must-read.
Adle Booysen, DMin, chief adventure guide at BlueThread.Life
Relationships! Life hinges on relationship with God and man. I have seen families being transformed when parents understand the need-behaviors of their children, and learn to adapt and respond to these needs. Hettie Brittz has developed a psychometric tool that succinctly aligns child behaviors to tree images, to help parents and children understand the dynamics of intra- and interpersonal relationships for life.
Dr. Khoo Oon Theam, international coach in psychometric instrumentation, leadership, and organization behavior
While I can safely claim that the content of this book rescued me from a number of parenting blunders, it also enriched my work with parents and children. Hettie Brittz offers creative and spot-on explanations for challenging parent-child interactions, and her discipline advice lends itself to a balanced approach to childhood development. Hettie manages to make the journey both light and deeppointing you to the mileposts of good communication and effective behavior management, while keeping your sanity about you.
Professor Rika Swanzen, PhD, program leader of child and youth care at Monash South Africa
At age twenty-eight, I married a widower and father of six children. Despite my experience as a teacher, I felt overwhelmed, trying to understand seven different personalities all at once. I leaned heavily on the information about the different character tree types in Growing Kids with Character. I absolutely love how the descriptions allow me to visualize and remember what each character type embodies as we navigate this journey we are on. I strongly encourage anyone, especially parents in blended families, to read what Hettie has written. This knowledge empowers and brings light where we cannot see the way.
Chani Zimmerman, instant mother of six
GROWING KIDS WITH CHARACTER
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eISBN 978-0-8307-7275-9
2018 Hettie Brittz
The Team: Alice Crider, Erin Healy, Nick Lee, Jack Campbell, Susan Murdock
Cover Design: Amy Konyndyk
First Edition 2018
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CONTENTS
Acknowledgments
Thank You, Lord Jesus, for putting me in parenting ministry despite my parenting mistakes (past, present, and future). It is Your grace that I treasure most! Please extend the same to each home through these pages.
What I know about parenting is perhaps like a building. I would like to thank my parents, Petru and Ida Grbe, for the foundation, walls, and roof. The rest is just furnishingsyou gave me a worthy example, biblical truth, and your brand of common sense.
My childrenIdalise, Pero, and Simonthank you for the windows of enlightenment (usually installed in hindsight and replaced many times over, of course!) through which I now look at other kids and their parents with a lot less arrogance. And thank you for not breaking, locking, or hiding my laptop, even though it had been your enemy for so many months.
Louis, you are so much more than just my husband. Thank you for believing in my ability to climb this mountain. Thank you for the late-night coffee next to my computer and for taking the kids on outings when I had to put in long hours of work. You see my shortcomings as a parent on a daily basis. Thank you for completing me rather than complaining about me at such times!
A big thank-you to all the parents who share their struggles and joys with me. I learn a lot from you and your children. Thank you for the encouragement to write this book. Thank you for your numerous questions, which helped me to bring theory and practice closer together.
Thank you to Carpe Diem Media, the first publisher of this book in Afrikaans, my mother tongue. You turned me into a writer. Thank you, Alice, Matt, Cris, and the team at David C Cook, who turned me into an international author.
I also have to acknowledge all the authors and speakers who have inspired me with their passion for parenting. I have listed your life-changing books in the notes section and in the featured quotes throughout these pages. Even when I dont quote you page and verse, you speak in my head, from the same Source of wisdom I try to tap into. I can think of no greater honor than to stand next to you and equip parents with creative solutions to grow kids with character, perfect for their purpose in God.