Tim Kimmel - Grace-Based Parenting: Set Your Family Tree

PRAISE FOR GRACE-BASED PARENTING

Interesting storytelling and sound biblical parallelsoverwhelmingly upbeat with hope and possibility.

Publishers Weekly

Arent you glad you worship a God of grace? Tim Kimmel has done a great job of reminding us as parents that we are the model of God in our home and we need to be good grace-based parents.

Dr. Kevin Leman
Author of Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours and First-Time Mom

Youre about to enter a much needed No Guilt Zone when it comes to parenting advice. For over twenty years, weve peaked inside the Kimmel home, seen grace-based parenting lived out in the lives of their outstanding children, and applied many of these principles with our own children. We think this book will be a bestseller because its a unique, fresh, freeing look at what really works in bringing out the best in you and your child. In fact, get two copies because youre going to want to give one to a friend.

John and Cindy Trent
Authors, speakers, president of StrongFamilies.com

I have seen firsthand that Tim Kimmel is not just a highly-skilled communicator, he is a deeply devoted dad. Put those two together, and you have the right man with the right message. Read this if you want to be equipped for lifes greatest and most challenging task.

John Ortberg

If parenting were on a payroll, it would qualify for hazardous duty. While there has always been a disconnect between generations in lifestyle, the twenty-first century parent needs the nerves of a test pilot and the patience of a brooding hen to steer children wisely. Probably no other occupation commands such a high level of commitment riding on a lifetime of impact. Few writers are as well equipped as Tim Kimmel to teach parents how to fan flames of youthful self-determination and at the same time avoid self-destruction. His longtime parental and pastoral experience thrusts his readers into the hottest contemporary issues and offers a cool anxiety-damper. Grace-Based Parenting tames the family inferno with biblical know-howa spiritual fire extinguisher for young Christian families.

Howard G. Hendricks

Dr. Tim Kimmel is Americas Parenting expert! Dont we all want to raise healthy, solid kids that love God and love us? Sure we do! Grace-Based Parenting is a hands-on road map for parents who need a sure-fire guarantee in raising kids to become healthy adults. Tim has developed these principles over a lifetime. They are clear, articulate and show a pathway of raising our kids the way God raises usthrough grace.

Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg
Hosts of Americas Family Coaches-Live! Speakers, authors and founders of Divorce Proofing Americas Marriages Campaign

Grace-Based Parenting will help parents produce a new generation of young people who are driven to be used of God in powerful ways because of the profound sense of love, purpose, and hope that they have at the core of their being.

Josh McDowell
Author and speaker

Grace-Based Parenting is a liberating, life changing book for parents who want to give a legacy of faith to their children. Parenting Gods way is the pathway of grace and Tim Kimmel gives guidance, which will produce tremendous kids and families which honor and serve the Lord Jesus Christ.

Dr. Jack Graham
Pastor, Prestonwood Baptist Church
President, Southern Baptist Convention

Tim Kimmel is a master of the wild and wooly world of parenting. He has been a light to my family reminding us that of all things to remember and to embrace Parents and children are equally in need of the glorious grace of God. Tim and Darcy are amazing parentssweet and strong and kind and bold. They write with humor, hope, and an honesty that allows us all to let down our guard and allow God to meet us in our fears and regrets. This superb book will invite you to see the privilege we have as parents to be conformed to Christ through our own children.

Dan B. Allender, Ph.D.
President, Mars Hill Graduate School
Author of The Wounded Heart and How Children Raise Parents

Tims wonderful wisdom and wit come together in this book to help all of us parent-types (and grandparent-types) get through the deep weeds of parenting with rich and workable insights.

Dr. Joseph M. Stowell
President, Moody Bible Institute

GRACE
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PARENTING

OTHER RESOURCES BY DR. TIM KIMMEL

BOOKS:

Little House on the Freeway
Raising Kids Who Turn Out Right
Homegrown Heroes
How to Deal With Powerful Personalities
Basic Training for a Few Good Men
Why Christian Kids Rebel

VIDEO STUDIES FOR SMALL GROUPS AND CHURCHES:

The Hurried Family Video Series
Raising Kids Who Turn Out Right Video Series
Basic Training for a Few Good Men Video Series
Grandparenthood: More Than Rocking Chairs

Dr. Tim Kimmel does keynote speaking and also conducts parenting, marriage, and mens conferences throughout the United States.

To obtain any of these resources or to contact Dr. Kimmel:

Family Matters
P.O. Box 14382
Scottsdale, AZ 85267-4382

www.familymatters.net
800-467-4596

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Set Your Family Free

DR.TIM KIMMEL

Dedicated to my granddaughter, Riley Grace Murray:

You are the incarnation of your mothers spirit and the personification of your middle name.

2004 Tim Kimmel. All rights reserved. No portion of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any meanselectronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or any otherexcept for brief quotation in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the publisher.

Published in Nashville, TN, by Thomas Nelson. Thomas Nelson is a trademark of Thomas Nelson, Inc.

Thomas Nelson, Inc. titles may be purchased in bulk for educational, business, fundraising, or sales promotional use. For information, please email SpecialMarkets@ThomasNelson.com.

Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations used in this book are from the Holy Bible, New International Version. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984, International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Bible Publishers.

Other Scripture references are from the following sources:

The Holy Bible, New Century Version (NCV). Copyright 1987, 1988, 1991 by Word Publishing, a Division of Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

The New King James Version (NKJV). Copyright 1979, 1980, 1982 by Thomas Nelson Publishers, Inc.

New American Standard Bible (NASB), 1960, 1977 by the Lockman Foundation.

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Kimmel, Tim.

Grace-based parenting / by Tim Kimmel.

p. cm.

ISBN-10: 0-8499-1803-0 (hc)

ISBN-13: 978-0-8499-1803-2 (hc)

ISBN-10: 0-8499-0548-6 (sc)

ISBN-13: 978-0-8499-0548-3 (sc)

1. ParentingReligious aspectsChristianity. 2. Grace (Theology). I. Title.

BV4529.K55 2004

248.8'45dc22 2003022194

Printed in the United States of America

07 08 09 10 11 RRD 15 14 13 12 11

CONTENTS

I ts a quick trip from playing little piggies with a toddlers toes to packing her up for college. And every step of the way, parents utter the universal prayer: Father, help me love this child as you loved me. Help me get this parenting thing right.

We get advice from older parents. We listen to tapes. We read books. We want more than anything to honor God by helping our children grow up spiritually strong and secure in our love.