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abandonment, fear of

accepting divorce

acknowledgment

of co-parents needs

of feelings

of kids in communication

acting out. See behavior and discipline

action figures

active listening

Ames, Jeanne

anger. See also conflict

childrens fear of

in communication with co-parent

defiance and

grief and

annoying behavior

anxiety

art. See also expression

clay

drawing

meaning in

responding to

attachment relationship

acting out and

insecurity and

parental neediness and

and self, healthy sense of

attention-seeking behavior

babies and development behavior and discipline

bad behavior

boilerplate courtesies

cheat sheet

choices to make

communication linked with

co-parent and

defiance

demanding behavior

discipline, meaning of

discouraged children

disrespectful behavior

divorce, special challenges from

divorce as excuse

engaging vs. ignoring

entrenched habits and self-concept

insecurity and

Kids Turn guide to effective parenting

logical or natural consequences

and loss of family structure

motivations and expectations

overcontrolling behavior

parenting style and

response, gauging

retaliatory behavior

rewards systems

self-reliance

sense of self and negative attention

teenagers and

temperament and

temper tantrums and whining

time-outs

timing of

belonging, sense of

blame

children blaming themselves

of co-parents

boundaries, establishing

brain, habits of

business model of co-parenting

Cameron, Julia

Cassou, Michelle

cheat sheet for divorce

chemical feedback loop

child information memo

childs point of view

clay, expression through

communication with co-parent

overview

acknowledging needs

checklist for

conflict and control

deciding to improve

e-mail

goals for

go-betweens, kids as

honesty with yourself

I statements and active listening

keeping your cool

memos

outcomes, focusing on

phone appointments

positive

rage, guilt, and anger in

thick skin, developing

tips for talking

communication with kids. See also

expression; listening

overview

acknowledgment of feelings

behavior and

children being heard or not

connection, power, and reassurance, need for

defiance and

and feelings about co-parent

goals and guidelines

honesty

I-messages

listening for understanding

question asking

roadblocks to

staying in touch

talking as expression

telling kids about divorce

understanding and reflecting feelings

yelling and screaming

communication with others about divorce,

conflict. See also behavior and discipline

boilerplate courtesies

custody and visitation in high conflict

developmental effects

emotional security and

hot households

kids hurt by

womens and mens reactions to

yelling and screaming

connection, kids need for

consequences, logical

consistency for the child

contact time, fitting in

continuity between households form

control issues

co-parenting

overview

as business relationship

clean as a whistle

establishing boundaries

etiquette

family types and

fathers

forms, useful

in high-conflict situation

marriage separated from parenting

moving kids between homes

Parenting Plans

parenting project

parenting styles

relationship constellation and

stepfamilies

strategies

co-parents. See also communication with

co-parent

childrens fear of anger between

communication with kids, and emotions about

defined

discipline and

parent and spouse roles, separating

positive communication between

sleeping together

courtesies, boilerplate

creative work and loss

Cubley, Stewart

custody and visitation

at age four to six

at age seven to ten

conflict and

development and

honoring decisions

newborns and infants and

teenagers and

temperament and

toddlers and

decision-making plans

defense mechanisms

defiance

demanding behavior

developmental issues

overview

conflict and

control issues

custody and visitation and temperament,

custody and visitation decisions and

custody and visitation issues by age,

defense mechanisms

expression, learning, and growth

family structure, loss of

kids blaming themselves

perfectionism and

play and pleasure and

primary process vs. secondary process thinking

self and self-image

supporting healthy development

temperament and parent-child relationship

diaries

The Diary Project

discipline. See behavior and discipline

discouraged children

disrespectful behavior

divorce process. See emotional trajectory of divorce

dolls

drawing

e-mail

etiquette of

with kids

emotional intelligence

emotional trajectory of divorce. See also

feelings of kids about divorce

overview

better emotional habits

brain and emotions

childs emotional security and

conflict and hot households

erosion of marriage

facing feelings

fathers and

flooding, emotional

freedom

and keeping connected with kids

learning from your choices

loss, getting over sense of

mediation and

negative intimacy

new personal growth

new relationships

reconciliation attempts

self-image, changing

self-understanding

threat to parenthood

encouraged vs. discouraged children

ethnic families

etiquette of e-mail

expectations and behavior

expression

overview

clay

dolls and other stand-ins

drawing

interpretation of

Kids Turn newsletter

learning and growth tied to

loss, positive role of

make-believe

responding to

rules, unconscious

storytelling

talking and

teenagers, reaching

failure

fairy tales

family, anthropological definition of

family structure

ethnic

loss of

never-married parents

same-sex

fantasy

fathers

faxing

fear of abandonment and loss

fear of anger

feedback loop, chemical

feelings, reflecting

feelings of kids about divorce

overview

blaming themselves

divorce words, learning

emotional security and

fear of abandonment and loss

fear of anger between co-parents

frustration and not being heard

loyalty issues

moving between homes, frustration over

normalizing divorce

shame and nonbelonging

truth, positive take on

wanting parents to get back together

frustration

gay parents

go-betweens, kids acting as

Goleman, Daniel

Gottman, John

groups. See support groups

guilt

head of household role

home

meaning of

moving between two homes

homework

honesty in communication

Huntington, Dorothy

I-messages

I statements

independent true self

infant development

information sharing

interpretation of expression

intimacy, negative,

itinerary form

Jenson, Anabel