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Although the examples in this book reflect real-life situations, they arent necessarily descriptions of actual people, but in some cases are composites created from my years of working with countless different parents in many varied contexts.
The conscious parent : transforming ourselves, empowering our children / [Shefali Tsabary].
1. Parenting--Psychological aspects. 2. Child rearing--Psychological aspects. 3. Parent and
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The Conscious Parent
Shefali Tsabarys invaluable book shows how the challenges of parenting can become a great opportunity for spiritual awakening. Becoming a fully conscious parent is the greatest gift you can give your child.
Eckhart Tolle , author of The Power of NOW and A New Earth
The Conscious Parent is a wonderful contribution to a deeper inquiry into what it means to parent well. Bringing body, mind and spirit together in a new parental paradigm is essential, and The Conscious Parent helps us get there.
Marianne Williamson , author of A Return to Love and Age of Miracles
The Conscious Parent shows how children can lead us to the discovery of our own true being. A beautiful and practical guide for raising children to live an authentic, aware, and fulfilled life.
Marci Shimoff , NY Times bestselling author of Happy for No Reason and Chicken Soup for the Womans Soul
The Conscious Parent is a spiritual vision of how to care for a childs body and soul. This book is practical and full of love and hope for both parents and children.
Michael Gurian , New York Times bestselling author of The Wonder of Boys and The Wonder of Girls
Dr. Tsabarys gentle, thoughtful, and beautifully written book embraces the lovely idea of a mutually respectful and loving parentchild dyad. Readers are sure to profit enormously from its essential messagethat of the profound importance of treating ones children with great openness, respect, and empathy. As Dr. Tsabary writes and as Joni Mitchell once sang, there is so much said in listening. There are great lessons here for parents and parents-to-be.
Barry Farber, Ph.D . Professor of Psychology and Education, Director of Clinical Training, Teachers College, Columbia University
Move over Dr. Spock! This is the book every parent must have to raise well-adjusted, responsible children. The surprise may be that to accomplish that, the true work at hand will be your own. Face every truth in this wonderful book and enjoy your parenting ride.
Laura Berman Fortgang , author of The Little Book on Meaning and The Prosperity Plan
The Conscious Parent will introduce the reader to a set of principles that, if followedand, perhaps most importantly, used in the spirit it recommendswill help parents and children form relationships that focus on shared responsibility and deep communication.
Eva Leveton , Author of Adolescent Crisis
This isnt one of the hundreds of parenting books offering various behavioral strategies. If you are a parent or a counselor and have tried numerous quick-fix techniques, you will know that they dont work. The Conscious Parent offers a very lucid and clear explanation of why they dont work: they are informed by the same source from which the problems originateunconsciousness. As The Conscious Parent states, parenting consciously isnt for the fainthearted, as it requires a courageous excavation of the roots of our own emotional wounds in order to elevate our relationships with our children into the realm of sacred, where our children are our spiritual partners, even leaders, leading us to our own spiritual transformation. Only when we bravely open ourselves to the unknown in order to transform ourselves and evolve do we raise our children to be whole and healthy. Who can disagree with The Conscious Parents insistence that our children deserve parents who live with awareness and clarity? This is a parenting bible for all the Parents of Now who are dedicated to raising the Children of the Future.
Lana Rados , MA, RCC, Individual and Family Counselor www.lanarados.com
This is the parents owners manual we always wish had come with our kids.
Will Hale , Family Music Entertainer
One gift our children give us is that the directions for how to best raise them arrive with them. Dr. Shefali Tsabary, in The Conscious Parent, has created a guidebook to help us find and read these directions.
Roni Beth Tower , Ph.D. Clinical Psychologist
Few of us enter into the sacred journey of parenthood with the tools necessary for success. Instead, we rely on the misguided strategies our parents used to raise us, and we inevitably experience deep ambivalence toward our children. The Conscious Parent offers a detailed map to guide us through the complex emotional and spiritual terrain we will traverse on this voyageboth inner and outer. In my thirty-three years as a parent and professional marriage and child therapist, I have not found a more profound book on parenting.
Estelle Frankel , psychotherapist and author of Sacred Therapy: Jewish Spiritual Teachings on Emotional Healing & Inner Wholeness
What a simple and lovely premisehow liberating for parents to feel like they can really let go and let their children just be. Its funnyinitially Im reminded of how traditional Indian parents obsess over which hand their baby uses most predominantly. They will literally grab utensils out of a young childs left hand and place it in the right hand because they equate left-handedness with being odd and straying from the norm. Clearly, they need to read this book!
Adrienne Longworth , Third grade teacher in the Indo-Canadian school system
Dedication
To my husband Oz. My wizard.
Acknowledgments
Constance Kellough for having a vision for this book and birthing it with such love, unwavering conviction, and unconditional support. My deepest appreciation.
David Robert Ord for your genius. You are an editor like no other. There are no words to express my gratitude.
The many clients I have worked with through the years for allowing me to enter your lives.
My friends and family for always being there. You know who you are and what you mean to me: the world.
My husband Oz and my daughter Maia words will never capture the feeling. Nothing I do or am exists separate from your presence.
Thank You.