Ph. J. D Carducci - Shyness: the ultimate teen guide

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44. Shyness: The Ultimate Teen Guide, by Bernardo J. Carducci, PhD, and Lisa Kaiser, 2015.

Shyness

The Ultimate Teen Guide

Bernardo J. Carducci, PhD, and Lisa Kaiser

It Happened to Me, No. 44

ROWMAN & LITTLEFIELD

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Copyright 2015 by Bernardo J. Carducci

All rights reserved . No part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any electronic or mechanical means, including information storage and retrieval systems, without written permission from the publisher, except by a reviewer who may quote passages in a review.

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Carducci, Bernardo J.

Shyness : the ultimate teen guide / Bernardo J. Carducci, Ph.D, and Lisa Kaiser.

pages cm. (It happened to me ; no. 44)

Includes bibliographical references and index.

ISBN 978-1-4422-3046-0 (hardback : alk. paper) ISBN 978-1-4422-3047-7 (ebook) 1. Bashfulness in adolescenceJuvenile literature. I. Kaiser, Lisa. II. Title.

BF724.3.B36C367 2015

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To Caiden, my granddaughter; Rozana, my only child; and Seth, the best son-in-law a father-in-law could ask for. Thank you all for bringing me so much joy and happiness.

Bernardo J. Carducci

To the adventurous spirit of John Larsen Kaiser.

Lisa Kaiser

Contents

Acknowledgments

T here are plenty of individuals who helped make Shyness: The Ultimate Teen Guide possible. First of all, we want to thank Tina P. Schwartz, our literary agent, for suggesting the possibility of this book and finding just the right publisher. The right publisher for this book was Rowman & Littlefield. At Rowman & Littlefield, we offer much gratitude to Arlene Hirschfelder, our editor. Arlene provided the right combination of editorial supervision and creative freedom that authors can only dream of in an editor. We would also like to thank graphic designer David Zylstra for his contributions to this book. Finally, we must express our gratitude to those shy people who shared the candid and enlightening stories about their experiences with shyness that you will read about throughout this book. Such stories helped to add a highly personal touch to the pages of Shyness: The Ultimate Teen Guide.

Some Words of Thanks from Bernardo J. Carducci

First and foremost, I wish to acknowledge the support I received from Lisa Kaiser, my coauthor, research associate, and longtime friend. Lisa makes the difficult process of writing a book so much fun. Through our many collaborative efforts over the last fifteen years, I have come to count on Lisa and trusted her to help me craft my message to help shy individuals of all ages and around the world deal more effectively with their shyness than I ever would have been able to do alone. At Indiana University Southeast, I am grateful to Gabrielle Carr, Melanie Hughes, Bonita Mason, Maria Accardi, Kate Moore, Marty Rosen, and Jacqueline Johnson for being the type of reference librarians who were always there to help me find the many references and resources necessary to write this book, even when I gave them almost no time to do so. I would like to express my gratitude to M. Justin Miller for his efforts as a research assistant to do what needed to be done in a timely and conscientious manner when asked to do so. Finally, I must acknowledge the special friendship provided to me by Kathleen Bailey. While writing this book, Kathleen was always there to keep me on track, make me laugh, and provide me with encouragement when writers block seemed to get the better of me.