Jennifer Shannon, LMFT, is clinical director and cofounder of the Santa Rosa Center for Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy in Santa Rosa, CA. She is a diplomat of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy.
Illustrator Doug Shannon is a freelance cartoonist. He illustrated The Two-Step, a book that has been translated into several languages. He authored the nationally syndicated cartoon strip Claire and Weber from 1997 to 2000.
Foreword writer Christine A. Padesky, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and director of the Center for Cognitive Therapy in Huntington Beach, CA. She has more than thirty years of experience using cognitive behavioral therapy and is coauthor of Mind Over Mood and other books. www.mindovermood.com
This book is superb! No longer will teens need to suffer with anxiety and be on the sidelines of life. Full of clear, effective, and engaging strategies, this workbook will show teens exactly what to do to overcome their fears and shyness and will reassure them that they are not alone. Truly, every teen struggles with these issues to varying degrees. All teenagers would benefit from reading this book.
Tamar Chansky, PhD, author of Freeing Your Child from Anxiety and Freeing Yourself from Anxiety
With The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook for Teens, Jennifer Shannon has hit a bulls-eye. Each page is fun, engaging, and filled with practical strategies to help teens break free from their social fears and worries. The book is certain to become an essential resource for teens, parents, and therapists. I highly recommend it.
Michael A. Tompkins, PhD, founding partner of the San Francisco Bay Area Center for Cognitive Therapy and author of My Anxious Mind: A Teens Guide to Managing Anxiety and Panic
Teens who follow the steps described in this book can overcome shyness and social anxiety and change their life path. Shannons recommendations are based on the latest scientific findings, and are accompanied by delightful cartoons and drawings. An outstanding contribution.
Jacqueline B. Persons, PhD, director of the San Francisco Bay Area Center for Cognitive Therapy and clinical professor in the department of psychology at the University of California, Berkeley
Good basic information on social anxiety as well as how to overcome it using cognitive behavioral therapy. The concise text and abundant illustrations make the book available, easy to grasp, and engaging for teens.
Edmund J. Bourne, PhD, author of The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook
This practical and straightforward book is highly recommended for any teen who worries too much about being judged by others. These tried-and-true strategies have been shown over and over to be among the most effective methods for reducing social anxiety. Every teen who struggles with shyness should read this book!
Martin M. Antony, PhD, ABPP, chair of the department of psychology at Ryerson University and author of The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook
Publishers Note
This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.
Distributed in Canada by Raincoast Books
Copyright 2012 by Jennifer Shannon
New Harbinger Publications, Inc.
5674 Shattuck Avenue
Oakland, CA 94609
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Cover design by Amy Shoup
Interior design and illustrations by Doug Shannon
Acquired by Tesilya Hanauer
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Shannon, Jennifer.
The shyness and social anxiety workbook for teens : CBT and act skills to help you build social confidence / Jennifer Shannon ; illustrated by Doug Shannon ; foreword by Christine A. Padesky.
p. cm.
ISBN 978-1-60882-187-7 (pbk. : alk. paper) -- ISBN 978-1-60882-188-4 (pdf e-book) -- ISBN 978-1-60882-189-1 (epub)
1. Bashfulness--Juvenile literature. 2. Social phobia--Juvenile literature. 3. Cognitive therapy for teenagers--Problems exercises, etc. 4. Acceptance and commitment therapy--Problems, exercises, etc. I. Title.
BF575.B3S5193 2012
155.518232--dc23
2012005433
Contents
What is the difference between being a little shy and having a problem with social anxiety? The real question is whether you are missing out by avoiding situations due to your anxiety. It is important to understand that if you are socially anxious, you are not alone.
Being shy is not your fault. There are three main causes of social anxiety: genetics, how you were raised, and upsetting events that may have triggered your anxiety. One or more of these causes may be at the root of your problem.
This book is based on cognitive behavioral therapy, which helps us understand the connections between our thoughts, our feelings, and our behavior. Avoidance behavior, which is what shy teens do, is caused by feelings of anxiety, which are sparked by spontaneous, often unconscious, automatic thoughts.
The automatic thoughts that lead to avoidance behavior are often inaccurate and distorted. This chapter outlines six of the most common distortions in the thinking of people with social anxiety. Understanding that your thoughts are distorted helps you begin to question them.
Is not making mistakes what really matters? This chapter will outline how unrealistic it is to attempt social perfectionism and will help you identify your own values as a compass to guide how you live your life.
There are two ways of evaluating your thoughts. The first is to figure out how accurate they are, and the second is to see if that way of thinking leads you toward avoidance or toward your values.
Once you have identified your distorted thoughts, you are ready to learn how to come up with some alternative ways of thinking that will help lower your anxiety and help you face situations that are scary for you.
To master social anxiety, you will need to face your fears. There is no better way to challenge your thinking and live the life you want. But dont worry; you dont have to start with the scariest situation. This chapter will show you how to turn situations youve been avoiding into situations you can face.
Here youll learn to develop coping strategies and use realistic goals to make exposures successful.
In this chapter, watch and learn as our socially anxious teen Bella faces her fear of blushing, one rung at a time.
What do you do when you become so anxious that you dont feel like you can do your exposure? What if the thing you are afraid will happen actually happens? These are common challenges, and this chapter will give you strategies for coping with them.
Facing your fear head-on helps you really master your social anxiety. You will learn that you can cope a lot better than you thought. This understanding frees you up to embrace life and to live according to your own rules.
Foreword
When we get anxious, we often think we suffer alone. We think we are messed up and everyone else is strong and confident. This is not true. Almost everyone gets anxious about something. Some people are afraid of spiders, others worry about lots of different things, and some people get nervous when they have to give a speech or meet new people.
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