Shaunti Feldhahn - The Good News About Marriage: Debunking Discouraging Myths about Marriage and Divorce

In the thirty-two years I have been deeply immersed in the world of marriage ministry, I have been demoralized at times by the negative statistics quoted. And now I am ecstatic as I read the truth in this incredible book. Thank you, Shaunti, for doing the hard work necessary to expose the myths and lies and for finally revealing the facts about marriage. This book and the undeniable research in it is a game changer!

J IMMY E VANS , founder and CEO of MarriageToday, senior pastor of Trinity Fellowship

This is an important book. Shaunti and Tally do an impressive job of showing that there is room for different viewpoints on divorce statistics and room for optimism about marriage. I believe that people make higher-risk choices partly because they have lost hope in marriage, and this book presents a basis for real hope.

D R. S COTT S TANLEY , coauthor of A Lasting Promise, research professor at the University of Denver

Lamenting the demise of the family has almost become a cottage industry. Theres a lot of legitimate bad news out there, but Shaunti reminds readers that the situation might not be nearly as dire as we thinkin fact, there are encouraging signs of hope. Thats a welcome message!

J IM D ALY , president of Focus on the Family

There are many bad stats out there about marriage, but Shaunti debunks those myths and provides clarity about marriage in general and how to strengthen your own marriage. The Good News About Marriage is well worth your time.

E D S TETZER , P H D, president of LifeWay Research

Every Christian leader in America needs to read the groundbreaking, hope-filled research in this book. Then they need to recommend that everyone in their sphere of influence read it as well! This is one of the most important marriage books Ive ever read, and it will change how all of us think and talk about marriage and divorce.

L YSA T ERKEURST , New York Times best-selling author, president of Proverbs 31 Ministries

This book is great news about marriage! Every pastor, coach, or counselor will find a new zeal for working with marriages after learning the truth about the state of marriage today. I cannot wait to have Shaunti share these truths with the Catalyst audience.

T YLER R EAGIN , executive director of Catalyst

The Good News About Marriage offers an important word of encouragement to believers who wonder if faith makes a difference in modern married life. Believers who put their faith into practicewho worship together and pray togetherare much more likely to enjoy stable and happy marriages. This is good news indeed.

W. B RADFORD W ILCOX , director of the National Marriage Project, associate professor of sociology at the University of Virginia

Academically rigorous, honest, and refreshingly bold, this book will make you question what youve always heard about the bad news of marriage. A seminal work, this book could change the social narrative about marriage for generations. This is a must-read for academics, marriage educators, and couples alike.

R ON L. D EAL , director of FamilyLife Blended, best-selling author of The Smart Stepfamily

This groundbreaking research gives us a whole different framework to think about marriage, divorce, and relationships. This is fantastic material that provides powerful tools to help us improve our personal relationships and those in our communities.

J UD W ILHITE , author of The God of Yes , pastor of Central Christian Church

Shauntis thoroughly researched book will inject life and hope, not only into our national consciousness about marriage, but also into every individual marriage in the country.

D R . T IM C LINTON , president of American Association of Christian Counselors, executive director of Center for Counseling and Family Studies at Liberty University

Shaunti takes aim at marriage myths that have spread like cancer through our culturemyths that have become self-fulfilling prophecies. This book is packed with game-changing revelations! Bravo to Shaunti for her outstanding research.

E MERSON E GGERICHS , best-selling author of Love and Respect

This is some of the most important information on marriage for this generation, and Shaunti brings practical inspiration on every page. This is the new go- to book for facts on marriages in Americaand its much better news than we often hear.

D R . J IM B URNS , president of HomeWord, author of Creating an Intimate Marriage and Closer

Youve read the bad news about marriagethe cohabiting couples, extramarital affairs, and soaring divorce rates. But this book shows theres a lot of good news about marriage today, and its about time someone said so!

B OB L EPINE , co-host of FamilyLife Today

Its impossible to overstate the importance of these findings. Our beliefs directly influence our actions, and our beliefs about marriage have been wrong. Shaunti and Tally provide genuine hope that is based on truth. This book changes everything.

C HRISTOPHER M C C LUSKEY , best-selling author, president of Professional Christian Coaching Institute

Shaunti Feldhahn presents profound truth in the most relatable way. We have consistently used her books to help lay foundations for strong marriages in our church and to gain tremendous perspective about our own relationship. Now, in The Good News About Marriage, Shaunti gives us the gifts of a positive perspective and a practical strategy to make the most of our marriages.

S TEVEN AND H OLLY F URTICK , lead pastor of Elevation Church, author of the New York Times bestseller Greater

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Feldhahn, Shaunti Christine.
The good news about marriage : debunking discouraging myths about marriage and divorce / Shaunti Feldhahn, with Tally Whitehead. First Edition.