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Rejection
Reset

Restore Social Confidence, Reshape Your Inferior Mindset, and Thrive In a Shame-Free Lifestyle

nd Edition Revised and Updated

By Scott Allan

Copyright 2017 by Scott Allan

Rejection Reset: Restore Social Confidence, Reshape Your Inferior Mindset, and Thrive in a Shame-Free Lifestyle / Scott Allan. 2 nd ed.

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Disclaimer

This book Rejection Reset is meant to help you on your journey to self-love, personal development and to discover the greatest human being that who has ever lived: You .

This book deals with a lot of sensitive issues that people struggle with, and they often need more help than a book can offer. This book does not replace real therapy. This book is only for informational and educational purposes and should not be considered therapy or any form of advanced treatment.

The author is not able to respond to specific questions or comments about personal situations, appropriate diagnosis or treatment, or otherwise provide any clinical opinions. If you think you need immediate assistance, call your local emergency number or the mental health crisis hotline listed in your local phone books government pages.

The resources in this book are provided for informational purposes only, and should not be used to replace the specialized training and professional judgment of a health care or mental health care professional.

Neither the author nor the publisher can be held responsible for the use of the information provided within this book. Please always consult a trained professional before making any decision regarding treatment of yourself or others.

Contents

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Dedication

For all the brave men and women who struggle with rejection and refuse to be defeated. You are showing the rest of us that our dreams matter. Keep pushing forward .

One of life's fundamental truths states, 'Ask and you shall receive.' As kids we get used to asking for things, but somehow we lose this ability in adulthood. We come up with all sorts of excuses and reasons to avoid any possibility of criticism or rejection.

Jack Canfield

Introduction:
The Pains of Rejection

Have you ever been in a social situation where you felt fearful and too intimidated to speak? Do you believe you have nothing to contribute to a conversation so you keep quiet most of the time? Do you feel rejected around people and feel that nobody sees the real you? Are you afraid to express your ideas openly because you might get a verbal put-down?

If this sounds like a familiar story, you are not alone. The fear of rejection is a dilemma that affects everyone to varying degrees: at home, at work, and in society we are continuously at war with criticism, judgment, opinions, and our desire to be accepted.

Why Rejection Hurts

According to researcher Michael Murphy at the University of British Columbia, Targeted rejection is central to some of lifes most distressing experiences things like getting broken up with, getting fired, and being excluded from your peer group at school, said Murphy, in an article appearing in the Huffington Post .

Rejection can be compared to any other illness in that, if it goes untreated, it grows worse. In fact, the rejected person can actually experience intense feelings of emotional and physical pain .

In an article published in the Michigan News, a recent study reveals: The same regions of the brain that become active in response to painful sensory experiences are activated during intense experiences of social rejection.

Rejection can cause severe emotional pain, very similar to the pain we experience when we are physically injured. For example, being excluded from a party when everyone else you know gets invited, suddenly being dumped in a relationship, or being treated as if we dont matter. All of these can cause depression, headaches and elicit psychological fear.

The University of Michigan social psychologist, Ethan Kross states in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences:

"On the surface, spilling a hot cup of coffee on yourself and thinking about how rejected you feel when you look at the picture of a person that you recently experienced an unwanted break-up with may seem to elicit very different types of pain. But this research shows that they may be even more similar than initially thought."

Psychologist and author Guy Winch , Ph.D., states that, Many times rejection does 50% of the damage and we do the other 50%. What he is referring to is that when we get rejected, we begin with a stream of negative self-talk that spirals into a form of self-rejection, and, in some cases, self-hatred for oneself.

This negative self-talk could stem from any situation in which we experience rejection from a romantic relationship, a coworker, or friend who ignores us in passing. Your emotions turn into a hypersensitive radar that starts to see rejection everywhere.

Guy Winch also states in his book, Emotional First Aid , Rejections elicit emotional pain so sharp it affects our thinking, floods us with anger, erodes our confidence and self-esteem, and destabilizes our fundamental feeling of belonging.