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Copyright Shwetabh Gangwar, 2019
ISBN: 9789388754439
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I dedicate this book to the two people I admire the most in my lifemy mom and my wifey. I thank my mom for her indomitable strength that protected the child I was. That protection allowed me to shape the individual in me. I thank my wife for her strong determination and values in life, which influence that individual to become better.
Hey, buddy, how are you doing? Arent you glad that you bought this book! Well, we are going to go on a journey together. And as long as you are reading this book, I will be your friend. The only case in which this doesnt apply is if you illegally downloaded this book, in which case, fuck you.
This book is about insanely practical ideas to free you from all bullshit. Let me start by saying this: a lot of this was supposed to be your parents job. I am not gonna say anything bad about your parents. All I am saying is: if people were products, then what we see around us are really shitty ones. So, clearly, parents are royally fucking up their jobs.
Let me give you an introduction of the world you have been brought into:
The world doesnt give a flying fuck about you. This world is a place full of people that will come in the form of friends, lovers and well-wishers; in the form of emotional adhesives, neatly packaged dreams and aspirational lollipops; in the form of saviours, fixers and salespersons. We are gonna talk about them all.
Anyway, when the time comes, a lot of them will take complete advantage of you, rid you of your emotional innocence and turn your world upside down. It will most definitely happen, history tells you that, no matter who you are or what you dorich, talented, genius, pretty, strong, powerful, polite, kind, or careful.
So, do you feel prepared?
Lets start with you. You are a product. You are a product with hope attached to it. What does that mean? It means that, one day, you are meant to become this awesome, functional unit capable of choosing jobs, careers, relationships, environments and economies on your own volitionthats the hope. The better the choices, the better the product you arethats the simple law on the basis of which the world judges you.
So, here are a few things about you:
A person is not born ready.
A person has to be made ready.
The person is emotional in nature.
The person does not know how to learn in the beginning; it knows how to absorb, which means it learns whatever it absorbs from its surroundings. I am talking about when you were a kid.
The person has to learn how to learn.
The person can think, but does not know how to think, which is why it cannot learn how to learn. This may be confusing, but it will become clear later in the book.
A persons emotional responses to different experiences create interpretations of those experiences, which the person assumes to be true. Therefore, emotional responses become one of the earliest teachers of the person.
Emotional responses is a garbage teacher, because as a kid, the emotional intelligence is underdeveloped.
Because the person learns by absorption, the parents and surroundings become the other teachers. Instead of teaching the person how to think, parents and surroundings teach what to thinkthereby becoming terrible teachers themselves.
Teaching what to think stops the product from learning how to think and since the person doesnt learn how to think, it grows up to be confused and clueless regarding how to deal with this world.
In conclusion, the product is very likely to be screwed. The product is you.
NOBODY IS BORN AN IDIOT
You may have said this on many occasions in your life: people are fucking idiots.
But nobody is born an idiotwe unknowingly choose to be idiots because we are not taught the methodologies of how to think . When devoid of this knowledge, people unconsciously view what they have learned from parents, surroundings and emotional responses as factual learnings .
As you grow older and life becomes harder, without the ability of how to think, one naturally falls back on what one knowswhich strengthens these factual learnings even more, so much so that at a certain age, they can become unchangeable ideas, biases, prejudices and practices that the individual can no longer abandon.