Shwetabh Gangwar - THE RUDEST BOOK EVER : Powerful Perspectives to Free Your Mind

I dedicate this book to the two people I admire the most in my life my mom and my wife. I thank my mom for her strength that protected the child I was. That protection allowed me to shape the individual in me. I thank my wife for her strong determination and values in life, which influence that individual to become better.

Introduction

A small yet important introduction:

This book is a collection of ideas, principles and perspectives.

It is written out of love for humans to be able to avoid humans.

This book does not mean to teach but teaches all the time nonetheless, which is an ode to how humans function.

I dare you to be offended by this book.

It is not the rudest book ever but nobody had claimed that prior to this. Superlatives are stupid. Rudeness that is intended and forced is childlike and childish. Rudeness is spicy and delectable only when it is interpreted from indifference, not intended.

The ideas in this book can completely change your life or not change anything at all.

You are an anime character. I have talked more about it in the book. Read it.

If you start this book, finish it. Even if it takes twenty years. Even if whosoever gifted you this book is long gone from your life, has crossed the river Styx and into the gates of hell, please, finish it.

Here is a cool quote in case you need to be convinced of this books depth: I think, therefore I am, but if I think well, then who am I?

This is not going to be a very deep book; after all it is about practical learnings. About making slight changes in the way you see things, which may help you avoid a lot of headache. Deep thoughts require understanding, practical thoughts require application. This book is about the latter, which is not to say that it wont have anything deep in it, but that is not the objective of this book.

I might be lying about the above.

Enjoy the book.

Products and Persons

Hey, buddy, how are you doing? Arent you glad that you bought this book? Well, we are going to go on a journey together. As long as you are reading this book, I will be your friend. The only case in which this doesnt apply is if you have illegally downloaded this book, in which case, go fuck yourself.

Let me give you an introduction of the world you have been brought into: this world doesnt care about you, not because it has an attitude problem but because of the rules by which it works. Those rules are not geared towards making you happy nor any of the billions of homo sapiens in it. Also, it is filled with people who will come in the form of friends, lovers, well-wishers, emotional parasites, attractively packaged dreams, aspirational lollipops and as saviours, fixers and salespersons. At the desired moment, a lot of them will take advantage of you emotionally, financially, physically or in other ways possible.

Such experiences in those moments will turn your world upside down. This will most definitely happen; history tells you that, no matter who you are or what you do rich, talented, genius, pretty, strong, powerful, polite, kind and careful. It doesnt matter. By the way, not all people are going to be like that. Some are going to be kind to you, most of whom you are going to ignore, probably depends on you.

Do you feel prepared?

Lets start with you : in this world, you are a product with hope attached to it. That means it is expected of you that one day you will transform into a smart, able unit capable of choosing jobs, careers, relationships and environments for yourself. The better those choices, the better a product you are that is how, in general, homo sapiens judge the social worth of an individual. Not very bright, I know. In short, when you grow up, it is expected that you would become great at decision-making.

Here are a few things about people:

• A person is not born ready.
• A person has to be made ready.
• A person is emotional by nature.
• A person does not know how to learn in the beginning (as a child).

It knows how to absorb, copy and mirror behaviours, language, speech, accent, inflections, ideologies, attitudes, and things that it comes across. It learns by absorbing from its surroundings. This applied to you too when you were a kid.

• Every person has to learn HOW TO LEARN.

Absorbing is not a great method for the long-term development of decision-making abilities, but it is useful at the very beginning (when thou art a kid). As a tiny kid, our brain has superhuman learning abilities one can learn several languages but also the reasoning abilities of a puppy or a cow. So learning is great, but understanding is a problem area. That is why one has to learn HOW TO LEARN. Otherwise, kids who learn toxic behavioural patterns, ideologies and harmful ways of looking at certain things (or people) from their environments wont ever be able to unlearn them.

The more a person holds on to what they have learnt in their childhood the old ways the harder it becomes for them to develop HOW TO LEARN. The new and unfamiliar is harder to accept out of fear, prejudice and lack of openness.

HOW TO LEARN can be brokered into three things: a) being open to learning new things, thinking in new ways and experiencing new environments (openness); b) throwing away the old ways when needed (detachment and unlearning); and c) figuring out new and more efficient ways to solving things (problem solving and ingenuity).

A lot of people fail to let go of their biases and prejudices. Perhaps you have seen this in your parents or relatives (grown-ups) with regard to their strict black-and-white approach to things like career, jobs, business, race, religion, relationships, marriage, sexuality, etc. You might think that they dont want to change, that they are ignorant or prejudiced. The truth is, they werent taught HOW TO LEARN in their childhoods just like, I am assuming, you werent either. And also, they never cared to learn it because there is a high chance that they have no idea what it is. Most people dont.

• A person can think but does not know HOW TO THINK.

How to think basically means you have a habit of analysing information in an objective manner. Not all information. Its humanly not possible to analyse all information that enters your brain. But the information that matters, that engages in opinions about some human being, about society, about some system. Before accepting the claims made by people about themselves or x y z, you like to think about them first by looking at them objectively. Like a car mechanic would. To verify the claims made about a car.

Some basic tenets of HOW TO THINK are: a) you dont blindly rely on some friend or a group of humans to tell you what to think; b) you dont blindly rely on the group norms from where you come or currently stay to tell you what to think; c) you dont excessively rely on some bearded or non-bearded online replacement of your parents to tell you the same either. Some of you may think, I dont listen to my friends, society or what the internet tells me either. I am an InDePenDeNt cRiTiCaL tHiNkEr.

No. Thats why I said a car mechanic. A decent car mechanic is knowledgeable, skilful and experienced. That helps them to a) accurately judge the state of the parts or claims in terms of durability and long-term use; b) make assessments about car parts by considering multiple scenarios, for example, different terrains, weather, climate, temperature hence, using multiple perspectives; and c) recognize patterns from previous problems on which they have worked. Serious stuff, I know. Before you call yourself a critical thinker, compare yourself to a good car mechanic. You have to be in thinking what they are with cars.