If you are my regular reader and are familiar with my previous works, you know that my books are very execution oriented and have zero fluff.
I do not eat up your precious time by going on and on for dozens of pages about the theory and philosophy behind the issue at hand and then leave you high and dry without any actionable instructions.
Rather, my works are chock full of step-by-step techniques, that you can immediately start implementing and practicing within hours of getting my book.
I take pride in this ability of mine to quickly help people in need and want to promise you that this book will be no different.
Finally, this is a book on gaining emotional mastery. If that wasn't your desire in buying this eBook, then you can return it within seven days for a full refund from Amazon.
Introduction
Let us first understand how emotions are created in our brain;
Whatever happens around us or the circumstances that we find ourselves surrounded in, creates thoughts in our mind.
We are naturally designed to not let these thought be, rather to investigate various aspects of these thoughts based on our past experiences and memories, this is what we call as thinking.
When we indulge in thinking, the gradual next step we cannot resist is visualizing situations that are supplementary to the initial thought.
Our mind is so powerful that this visualization induces actual physical changes in our body, like secretion of a certain hormone, increased heart rate, increased rate of breathing, sweating etc.
These physical reactions then amplify the effect of the initial thought, and thus lead to creation of an emotion.
For eg.-
A pleasant sensory input even like a FB notification informing you that someone has liked your profile picture and has given you a like or a love will induce you to think good about your appearance and looks, also inducing your brain to give itself a micro shot of dopamine, the feel good hormone and this will trigger addition of positive, feel good vibes into your default emotional state, taking you into a net positive emotional state of being HAPPY.
To better understand our emotions and their origins, I highly recommend you watch this Youtube video from the channel What Ive Learned;
Where do emotions come from?
Dont read ahead until youve seen the video.
Default Emotional Level
When we say that someone has an optimistic outlook towards life, and doesnt get bogged down by petty issues and very confident about his own abilities, we are acknowledging the fact that they have a net positive default emotional level.
Similarly, someone having a pessimistic attitude and who worries constantly and finds justification that everything happening around them is somehow harmful to them and some sort of conspiracy against their well being, will be categorized as an individual with a net negative default emotional level.
Our default emotional levels dont fall out of thin air, they are a direct and natural result of how we have lived our lives so far. They are based on our past life experiences, the memories that are created in our brain after those experiences, the people that were in our life and their behaviors, the people that currently are a part of our life, our peers, our existing circumstances and most importantly our behavior/reaction towards the things that happened to us.
Ego
The one thing that interferes with our default emotional levels and messes up our lives is our Ego.
It is that false feeling of assumed supremacy combined with us being nosy creatures imagining that everything that is happening around us has a sinister, negative intention against our well being, when things go against our wishes.
It is this Ego of ours that leads us to think that everything happening around us has us at its epicenter. Every conversation happening around us, which we are not privy to, is also about us and then we focus particularly on the negative aspects of it and think how these things will negatively affect our self-imagined status.
Here is how our Ego interferes with our default emotional levels;
In this case our Ego cancels out the positivity and our life feels emotionally hollow.
In this case our Ego contributes to increasing our net negativity and this leads to an extremely pessimistic attitude.
Designing your new normal / Phase-I
The first step to create a new normal and have a High Net Positive score is to work towards increasing your positivity awareness and removing your Ego from the equation.
We achieve that by using a unique combination of four secret techniques of the ancient Indian seers, viz., the SoHum meditation, Positivity Awareness meditation, Visualization aided Ashwaratna mudra and Happiness inducing Hamsi mudra.
Practice of these four techniques will help us in establishing a net positive, highly optimistic foundation for our emotions, which wont get out of sync easily and keep us positive and emotionally stable.
This would be Phase-I and will give us a much needed and stable positive emotional foundation.
Dealing with Negative Triggers / Phase-II
In phase-II we deal with four triggers that cause us to become more negative in our outlook and throw ourselves into a state of emotional instability.
The triggers that we deal in this book are;
- Negative Overthinking
- Constant Fear and Worry
- Lack of Willpower and Self-Confidence
- Dependence on modern lifestyle driven digital Addictions (email, social media etc.)
The way we deal with these four triggers is simple, I call it the Zero Thought Technique, but to understand it you would have to first acknowledge how negativity begets more negativity and keeps us in a perpetual downward spiral.
The simple trick to break out of this spiral is to break the chain of negative thoughts using what I call as the zero thought techniques.
Once the chain of negativity is broken then we follow up with specific targeted techniques to overcome these triggers.
With practice the positivity awareness meditation from phase-I, will alert you about the negative trigger that is about to come your way, so that you get ready to take the necessary steps beforehand.
How to use the techniques you will learn in this book?
In this book I will teach you 24 techniques, they comprise of Mudra (hand gestures), Meditation techniques and Pranayama (regulated breathing) that will enable you to master your emotions.
These techniques are essentially micro-exercises, which will work wonders for you when you include them in your daily routine and cultivate them as habits.
Practice the 4 techniques from phase-I daily to have a stable emotional level, and then pick and choose other techniques from phase-II depending upon the negativity trigger.
Maintain your practice for 4-6 weeks and then you will find out by experience that a few techniques work really well for you more than the others, depending upon your lifestyle and occupational conditions. Then inculcate those techniques as habits in your daily routine.