David E Clarke - Enough Is Enough: A Step-by-Step Plan to Leave an Abusive Relationship with Gods Help

David has given us a biblically based, psychologically informed, thoroughly researched, practical resource. It is written with wisdom, grace, and a wealth of both clinical and practical experience. This valuable resource provides more than just good information. It will help you reframe how you view your situation, and then give you practical ways to respond rather than merely react. It brings both clarity and comfort in ways that will lead to both healing and hope. I have over fifteen books in my personal library that address abuse, and this is the one that I will recommend.

GARY J. OLIVER, THM, PHD

Executive Director of The Center for Healthy Relationships; Professor of Psychology & Practical Theology at John Brown University; licensed clinical psychologist; author of over 20 books, including Raising Sons and Loving It

In my counseling practice, I recurrently recommend Enough Is Enough and frequently receive responses thanking me for doing so. Enough Is Enough not only empowers abuse victims to put a stop to their abuse, it also provides a clear-cut, instructional path to stopping the abuse. Dr. Clarkes plan of freedom is jam-packed with specific details and directives that pave the way for an abuse-free life. I have witnessed God perform many healing miracles through the information in Enough Is Enough. It is a must-read for anyone trapped in an abusive relationship.

LAUREL SLADE-WAGGONER, BCPCC, LMHC, LMFT

Author of Dont Let Their Crazy Make You Crazy

Dr. David E. Clarke has done it again! With a direct, blunt, no-nonsense, yet godly style, Dr. David speaks directly to people in abusive relationships who are seeking answers. He does not mince words, and frankly, if you are in an abusive relationship, you dont need someone who will. I love how Dr. David explains the psychology of why people stay in abusive relationships, then provides step-by-step, biblically sound guidance on how to save yourself. I also love that the book is not a how to divorce your abuser book. The book gives guidance, yet it offers grace, for those who will accept it. I wholeheartedly recommend this book for those who are in abusive relationships, as well as those who suspect someone they know is in an abusive relationship. I also recommend this book for anyone in a relationship as a way to course correct and self-check. Too many times people offer a myopic view of issues, as they cling either to a purely spiritual or a purely secular perspective. The fact that Dr. David can comfortable meld the two is a treat and offers unimaginable benefits to readers of all Dr. Davids works!

REV. KEN J. GORDON JR., PHD

Award-winning author

Enough Is Enough will help you see clearly, act decisively and regain your dignity. Dr. Clarkes no-nonsense approach gives you the best chance to change your situation and save your marriage. It helped save ours!

JASON AND SHELLEY MARTINKUS

Jason is the president of Redemptive Living, a certified coach, and author; Shelley is an author, speaker, and founder of Redemptive Living for Women

2018, 2021 by DAVID E. CLARKE

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form without permission in writing from the publisher, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles or reviews.

Originally published by David Clarke Publishing. Copyright 2018.

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The case examples presented in this book are fictional composites based on the authors clinical experience with hundreds of clients through the years. Any resemblance between these fictional characters and actual persons is coincidental.

Many of the ideas in chapters 16 and 17 were contributed by Laurel Slade-Waggoner, MS. Used by permission.

Published in association with the Hartline Literary Agency.

Edited by Ginger Kolbaba

Interior design: Ragont Design

Cover design: Erik M. Peterson

Cover illustration of door copyright 2020 by bagotaj / iStock (1218833196). All rights reserved.

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Names: Clarke, David, 1959- author. | Clarke, William G., author.

Title: Enough is enough : a step-by-step plan to leave an abusive relationship with Gods help / David E. Clarke, PhD, with William G. Clarke, MA.

Description: Chicago : Moody Publishers, [2021] | Summary: David Clarke, a psychologist specializing in marital therapy, wants to help you find refuge from your abusive relationship. You need to get out so you can sort it out. Because only with some distance will you be able to see what your loving, ever-faithful God has in store for you-- Provided by publisher.

Identifiers: LCCN 2021038717 (print) | LCCN 2021038718 (ebook) | ISBN 9780802425133 (paperback) | ISBN 9780802476562 (ebook)

Subjects: LCSH: Abused wives--Religious life. | Abused husbands--Religious life. | Man-woman relationships--Religious aspects--Christianity. | Offenses against the person. | Spousal abuse. | Marriage--Religious aspects--Christianity.

Classification: LCC BV4596.A2 C53 2021 (print) | LCC BV4596.A2 (ebook) | DDC 261.8/327--dc23

LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2021038717

LC ebook record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2021038718

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To all those who have taken the brave, and biblical, step to leave their abusers. May God bless you, your children, and your childrens children for having the courage and the faith to get out of an abusive relationship.

Friend,

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