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Calvin Roberson has written a powerful and practical book that is deceptively easy to read. Just about every sentence has a jewel in iteasily understood and applicable to the daily needs of a committed relationship. Pastor Cals insights translate immediately into ways we can protect and improve even a troubled marriageif we practice his version of CPR. I cant imagine anyone, single or married, who would not be inspired, or would not profit, from the wisdom in this book.
Pepper Schwartz, PhD, New York Times bestselling author of The Normal Bar: The Surprising Secrets of Happy Marriages
As a prominent urban radio host, we talk about relationships a lot on our shows and when its time to call on an expert, there arent too many experts I trust who talk the talk, walk the walk, and lead by examplebut Pastor Cal is it. As we say, hes the GOAT (greatest of all time) when it comes to marriage and relationship insight. Marriage Aint for Punks is consistent to what we love and trust about Pastor Cal. Its realistic, honest (brutally, when needed), and practical. I honestly wish I had the type of guidance shared in this book a few years back but Im glad I have it now.
Nina Brown, radio and TV host
Im not a huge fan of counseling, but Pastor Cal makes me look at it differently. Hes such a down-to-earth guy and breaks things down in a way that empowers you and makes you want to better yourself. Hes revolutionizing the game and is a brother I can get down with on the counseling tip.
Ty Law, Pro Football Hall of Fame class of 2019
Pastor Cal has created a clear and concise guide that can help you navigate the crazy ups and downs of marriage. We all have them, its just how we choose to respond. This isnt a one-time read, this is a manual that should be referenced over and over again as you meet the many different challenges of wedded bliss. Almost everything in our lives comes with a manual, or at least instructions on upkeep and how to make it work. The most important relationship in your life should be no different.
Kevin Frazier, TV host
Marriage Aint for Punks is a must read for couples who are struggling to make their relationship work. Pastor Cal, in his typical fashion, pulls no punches with his straightforward and direct approach. Rather than getting bogged down in clinical terminology, he cuts straight to the heart of the issues that many couples struggle with years into their marriages, offering concrete solutions and strategies to help overcome any obstacle. Pastor Cal is adored by fans for his honest and direct approach on televisionnow, they finally have the opportunity to get his advice and strategies to apply to their own marriages and learn how not to punk out so that they can have the love and marriage they want and deserve. I cant wait to share this book with the couples I work with!
Jessica L. Griffin, PsyD associate professor of psychiatry and pediatrics, UMASS Medical School, department of psychiatry; relationship expert and TV personality; CEO of Love Builder, Inc.
I adore Pastor Cal! His spirit is incredibly warm and the way he helps couples work through their issues is done with nothing but pure love. So glad hes part of the Married At First Sight franchise so the world can experience him on a weekly basis and learn useful tools that could possibly help save their marriages.
Nicole Haynes, EBONY media executive
To all the couples who thought marriage would have been easier and happier and didnt punk out until it was.
They literally bumped into each other at a conference, and the rest was history. Two go-getters seeking marital momentum.
Rae was a rising star in her career as an IT technician. She was intelligent, powerful, and well respected for her knowledge and leadership. Her five-foot three, super-toned, alluringly beautiful exterior often threw people off guard. Coworkers sometimes made the mistake of assuming she was docile or petite. Nothing could be further from the truth! She had literally beaten all the odds in emerging from her Chattanooga, Tennessee, trailer-park upbringing to become an elegant and educated powerhouse in her field. Her goal was to break every glass ceiling she encountered, and she was well on her way to doing just that.
Jesse had been a nerd his whole life. As a loner in high school, he opted out of sports to focus on his hobby, the financial markets. He wasnt the handsomest or even the most intelligent, but nobody could match his intensity and focus. He was a plain-looking guy at five feet, ten inches tall with a slight frame. But he did have an understated rugged look. And because of his dogged persistence and intense attention to detail, he had done exceptionally well as a tech company analyst. He often noticed attractive women, but never had the confidence or the time to approach them.
Thats when Jesse bumped into Rae. He was turning a corner as she was rushing into the same meeting to get a good seatboom! He accidentally knocked her phone out of her hand.
Whoa, I am so sorry! Jesse exclaimed, bending down and inspecting the phone to make sure it wasnt broken. He handed it back with his best smile.
Raes frustration quickly subsided because of his respectful and repentant behavior. She even smiled back to calm his fears. It was only a brief moment, but it was enough to pique both their interests in the possibility of having a less awkward chance to be properly introduced. That chance happened after the meeting when Rae intentionally walked past him and playfully jerked her phone away, as if avoiding another crash. He laughed, they talked, and as I saidthe rest was history.
Two years later, they were married. Jesses nerdy looks had been markedly transformed by Rae into a Wall Street hunk. She was steadily moving up in her career. They had settled into married life, complete with a new home and shared friends. Their chance meeting had given them both what neither had been looking for.
You might expect these two powerhouses to make an awesome power team as husband and wife. But as time went on, they began to drift into a common marriage routine. At the end of the day, when they both turned down the volume on their busy lives, they found they didnt have much energy left for each other. After nearly six years of marriage, they frustrated easily and chose to spend time on their computers researching rather than relating to one another.
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