Debra Fileta - Are You Really OK?: Getting Real About Who You Are, How Youre Doing, and Why It Matters

Reading this book is like sitting on the couch with your own personal therapist. In Are You Really OK? Debra shows us that our spiritual, physical, emotional, and mental health are intertwined, weaving in her personal and professional experience. The book is full of wisdom, understanding, and practical tools that will make a difference in your life today.

Christine Caine , founder of A21 and Propel Women

A great book that invites the reader to delve into a more abundant life of spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical health. Youll be challenged and equipped to grow, mature, and spiritually prosper. Marvelously done!

Gary Thomas , author of Sacred Marriage

Every one of us has been damaged by others, has damaged others, and has damaged ourselves by unwise words and unhealthy actions. As a result, we all have hurts, hang-ups, and bad habits. So where do we go to get help? In her newest book, Are You Really OK? , Debra is your personal counselor and life coach who shares openly about her journey toward health and makes clear next steps for you to take toward personal healing.

Chris Reed , pastor at Saddleback Church

I am thrilled Debra has written such a helpful resource that unpacks what it looks like to pursue emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health. In a culture that often presents a skewed version of health, this topic has never been more important. If you want to grow, this is for you!

Ben Stuart , pastor of Passion City Church DC and author of Single, Dating, Engaged, Married

I cannot emphasize enough how important this book is. Debra is an excellent counselor, and in the pages ahead she will take you on a journey toward emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health. You are going to learn new things, you are going to change in the best ways, and you are going to enjoy every word.

Jonathan Pokluda , bestselling author of Welcome to Adulting and pastor of Harris Creek Baptist Church

Are You Really OK? sets a new standard for how mental health is handled in the church. Debra gives such practical steps not just to heal but thrive! Im so thankful for her work and getting this message out. Its a must read.

Caitlin Zick , Moral Revolution codirector and author of Look at You, Girl

If you are worn-out from years of faking fine and are ready to address some hard truths, Debra Fileta wants to help. In her new book, Are You Really OK? , Debra offers her life experience, her psychology background, and her love for people and captures it in a resource that will help you live an honest, holistic, and healthy life. Debra is a master at professionally guiding others through the process of an in-depth assessment of themselves. In this book, she will do the same for you. You can be more than just okay, and Debra Fileta will show you how.

Chrystal Evans Hurst , bestselling author and speaker

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Are You Really OK?

Copyright 2021 by Debra Fileta

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This book is dedicated to every single person who has invited me into their lives on their journey of healing. Being entrusted with your stories is a deep honor and a great responsibility. What a privilege to watch the Lord restore all of the broken places as we travel on this road toward healing together.

And to you, reading this book. Thank you for entrusting me with your journey. May God bring the healing that only He can bring through every page and every chapter.

T he sky was streaked with oranges and pinks and purples. The reflection of those colors into the turquoise lake caused a surreal tie-dye effect that amplified the sunset. You could hardly tell where the sky ended and the water began. Everything was glowing.

My daughters and son and I were standing on a dock fishing and taking it all in. It felt as though we were in the middle of a painting. Soon the stars would come out and we would retreat to our campfire for smores. This was Montana summer majesty at its absolute finest. We were having so much fun that even when the sun finally set, we lit a lantern and stayed on the dock while the kids kept casting their baitladen hooks into the water.

At one point my daughter Daisy said, Dad, I think I have a bite! And so I leaped to her side and encouraged her to steadily reel the fish in.

As she spun the little crank, I heard the sound a pole makes when the fish is too bigthe reel stops gathering line to avoid breaking the string. You must have snagged a monster! I said. I adjusted the drag a little bit as she continued to faithfully fight this sea monster. And nothing changed. The reel just continued to make that unmistakable clicking sound and kept the line in place.

It was at that point that I looked up and realized that her pole wasnt bent at all, which it would have been if there were a fish on the line. I realized what had happened when my eyes made it to the tip of her pole. There was her hook and little sinker right at the top. She hadnt caught a fish at all. She felt all the tension because she had reached the end of her line.