Debra Fileta - Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship

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Almost every conceivable problem we run into today can be traced to a breakdown in our relationships. We need help and we need a guide, and Debra is that. This book is an amazing tool that can bring healing, joy, and depth at so many levels! I know it did for me.

Jefferson Bethke, New York Times bestselling author of Jesus >Religion and To Hell with the Hustle

Love in Every Season expertly uncovers the challenge and promise of every season of love and marriage. It offers hope, perspective, encouragement, and instruction for every romantic relationship at every stage. Highly recommended.

Gary Thomas, author of Sacred Marriage and Cherish

Love in Every Season has the page-turning entertainment of the best fiction, but with rich, hard-hitting truths, practical principles, inspirational true stories, and even some great comic relief sprinkled into every chapter. As readers, we felt invited on a journey while also being impacted with biblical truths and timeless tools to help our own marriage. This book is destined to become a masterpiece among marriage and relationship books.

Dave and Ashley Willis, authors of The Naked Marriage and hosts of The Naked Marriage podcast

Love in Every Season will transform the way you look at love. Debra will take you on a captivating ride through the four seasons of love with a new perspective and practical advice that you can apply today. Whether youre single, dating, or married, youll discover what it takes to truly make love grow through every age and stage.

Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, #1 New York Times bestselling authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

No matter your relationship status, this book is for you. This book is pivotal to helping you become the mother, husband, daughter, father, or mother-in-law God intended you to be.

Levi Lusko, lead pastor of Fresh Life Church and bestselling author

Debra is one of the most insightful voices on relationships today, and whether youve been married for 30 years or dating for only a few months, you will love this book. Love in Every Season is compelling and filled with wisdom that explains so much about how to navigate the inevitable seasons of life and relationship.

Shaunti Feldhahn, social researcher and bestselling author of For Women Only and The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages

Debra Fileta is a talented speaker, trusted counselor, and an amazing writer. Love in Every Season is the perfect book for your relationships, whether your love is just blooming or you are struggling with the winter blues. Engaging and impactful, Debras insights are the remedy needed for those who desire authentic intimacy, biblical insights, and practical ways to grow healthy relationships.

Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace, Center for Marriage and Relationships, Biola University

Debras words of wisdom will inspire and instruct you toward the health and success of a current relationship or any future relationships. Love in Every Season reads as if you were sitting across from Debra in a comfortable chair, sipping tea, and soaking in her encouraging and hope-filled observations. Get this book and make Debra your personal relationship mentor!

Chris Reed, pastor at Saddleback Church

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Love in Every Season

Copyright 2019 by Debra Fileta

Published by Harvest House Publishers

Eugene, Oregon 97408

www.harvesthousepublishers.com

ISBN 978-0-7369-7759-3 (pbk.)

ISBN 978-0-7369-7760-9 (eBook)

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Names: Fileta, Debra K. author.

Title: Love in every season / Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC.

Description: Eugene: Harvest House Publishers, 2020.

Identifiers: LCCN 2019027328 (print) | LCCN 2019027329 (ebook) | ISBN 9780736977593 (trade paperback) | ISBN 9780736977609 (ebook)

Subjects: LCSH: Interpersonal relationsReligious aspectsChristianity. | LoveReligious aspectsChristianityAnecdotes. | SeasonsMiscellanea.

Classification: LCC BV4597.52 .F55 2020 (print) | LCC BV4597.52 (ebook) | DDC 241/.676dc23

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To the four greatest loves of my life: my

husband, John, and our Ella, Eli, and Ezzy.

It is my honor and privilege to be able to love and

serve you. May God give us the wisdom and the

courage to always pursue love in every season.

CONTENTS

M y husband and I spent one year of our marriage in Florida. After finishing up his medical residency, John decided to pursue specialized training. Since this fellowship would take one year to complete, we determined there was no better place to live for a year than in the Sunshine State. So, we packed up all our belongings in a 6' 12' mobile storage unit, loaded up the kids, and caught a train down to Florida.

The best part about living in Florida is that it feels like you are perpetually on vacation. Every day is perfectly sunny and warm, palm trees greet you every single morning, and the beautiful, sandy beach is just minutes away. It is a tropical slice of paradise.

Because we moved to Florida from the East Coast, we noticed something about this new domain very quickly: There were no seasons. The temperature just went from hot, to hotter, to excruciatingly hot, and back to hotter again. There was no such thing as the changing of the weather from one month to another. Day after day, everything looked and felt pretty much the same.