Cheryl Fraser - Buddhas Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy

True mastery is rare and preciousand Cheryl Fraser is truly a master of her subject. Written with a wonderful combination of simplicity and thoroughness, heart and intellect, and profundity and practicality, this is a phenomenal book on intimate sensuality, and equally excellent about communication skills and mindful awareness. Wowa wonderful book.

Rick Hanson, PhD , author of Buddhas Brain

Sacred sex. Prolonged pleasure. Conscious climax. Its all part of using your sexual bliss energy to become an awakened lover, and Cheryl Frasera renowned Buddhist psychologistis your guide to transcendent sex.

Ian Kerner , sex therapist, and author of the New York Times bestseller, She Comes First

Fraser asks pointedly, Why add the wisdom teachings of Buddhism to a book about passion? Quite simply, because they work. Buddhas Bedroom folds the wisdom of Buddhist Dharma into the practicalities of love and sex to form a beautiful, thoughtful, and compassionate window into how old sex can become new again. Fraser shares meditation exercises that she has used with countless couples, and teaches the reader how to awaken the passion that has been sleeping inside them.

This book is for anyone in a love relationship who wants to fall in love again (with the same person), and is willing to examine within themselves to discover that they possess the key to happiness. Fraser weaves in real stories from the couples who have walked the path with her, along with her own candid (and entertaining) experiences to illustrate to the reader how to bring Buddha back into the bedroom. I will recommend this book to my own clients (and friends!) and suggest that they clip each of the Love Bytes and Buddha Bytes scattered throughout the book!

Lori A. Brotto, PhD , registered psychologist, Canada research chair in womens sexual health, professor at the University of British Columbia, and author of Better Sex Through Mindfulness

Sex and spirituality have been awkward bedfellows for as long as anyone can remember, and now we live in an era with plenty of chaos, confusion, misunderstanding, and contention about sexual roles and sexual acts. Here comes Cheryl Fraser to offer clarity, encouragement, and some very sound advice about how to ignite passion while remaining aware. She lets us know how we can dance and share with anotherlovinglyand with the kind of mindfulness that doesnt drape a big, wet blanket over the proceedings.

Barry Boyce , editor-in-chief of Mindful magazine

Cheryl Fraser has done a remarkable job of combining her expertise as a sex therapist and relationship counselor with decades of Buddhist practice. Buddhas Bedroom guides readers to develop and sustain strong, healthy relationships, including passion and intimacy in the bedroom, through the power of mindfulness and applications of Buddhas teachings. At the same time, she performs an invaluable service to rapidly growing numbers of lay people embracing meditation and Buddhism as the path to a better life.

Buddhist teachings, traditionally the province of celibate monastics, can be confusing for lay practitioners when it comes to relationships, sensuality, and sexuality. Freedom from desire as a Buddhist goal seems inconsistent with sexuality in particular. However, Fraser does a beautiful job of demonstrating how the transient lust that relationships begin with can be transformed into an expression of love, compassion, and a manifestation of the Seven Factors of Awakening.

Culadasa (John Yates, PhD) , spiritual director and chair of Dharma Treasure Buddhist Sangha, and author of The Mind Illuminated and Brain Science for Greater Mindfulness

Fraser brings a fresh, enlightening voice to relationship literature. She applies a spectrum of Buddhist principles and practices to the inevitable suffering that arises in the quest for enduring love. Whether schooled in Buddhism or newly discovering its wisdom, readers will find abundant, readily accessible tools for handling disappointments and conflict, and overcoming negative reactivity. Buddhas Bedroom is inspiration and a guide for a lifelong journey of mindfully engaged, joyful, passionate intimacy.

Miranda Shaw, PhD , associate professor of religious studies at the University of Richmond, and author of Passionate Enlightenment and Buddhist Goddesses of India

Cheryl Fraser faced a daunting task in writing a book which integrates sex, love, and meditation. Buddhas Bedroom is a unique book in presenting readers with a love Dharma that teaches couples to value intimacy and passion. The message of Buddhas Bedroom is that if you utilize Buddhist principles to focus on your own mind, passion in your relationship will be enhanced. Her exercises, especially the Buddhist skill of mindfulness, empower and motivate couples to be awakened lovers.

Barry McCarthy, PhD , is a professor in the department of psychology at American University, and coauthor of Finding Your Sexual Voice

Cheryl Fraser puts power back into her readers handsand mindsby helping them realize that they are in control of their own happiness, reawakening passion and enriching their sex lives in a loving, mindful manner along with some changes in behavior. Im looking forward to sharing her words of wisdom, couples skills, and mindfulness techniques with my clients so that they too can bring Buddha into their bedrooms.

Sara Dimerman (aka helpmesara) , psychologist, and author of several books, including Why Married Couples Dont have Sex

Cheryl Fraser, in her beautifully written and engaging book Buddhas Bedroom , reminded me how the power of presence and intention can vitalize and sustain a romantic relationship. As well as being simply fun to read, I found the book to be useful in many ways. From building curiosity in the bedroom to falling in love with your partner over and over again to practicing the skills of lovemaking, Fraser has created a meaningful book that, whether single or partnered, all can relish. Awareness to the joy of love and sex is a wonderful way to live inside of relationship. My gratitude for a fantastic book!

Robyn D. Walser, PhD , licensed clinical psychologist, coauthor of The Mindful Couple , and author of The Heart of ACT

If youre looking for a guide to lasting connection, passion, and ultimately more love in your lifeinside and outside the bedroomyoull want to pick up this book. Cheryl not only lays out the path to greater sexual intimacy and happiness, but also practical skills that we can all do to enhance our lives and ultimately bring more love into the world.

Elisha Goldstein, PhD , creator of A Course in Mindful Living

Finally, a book that goes beyond just describing common love problems that couples face, and actually addresses how to change the status quo. Cheryl Fraser has written a wonderful and positive integration of mindfulness with sex therapy strategies to help couples enhance their intimacy , sensuality , and thrill . Readers may be surprised to learn that they can create passion , and there are activities to support this and empower readers throughout the book. It is a must-read for couples who want to revitalize their connection!

Bianca Rucker, PhD, RN, RMFT , sexual and relationship therapist in private practice in Vancouver, BC, Canada; supervisor of the Canadian Association for Marriage and Family Therapy

Can you be happy, passionate, and loving towards a mate of many years? Cheryl Fraser will make you a believer. Destined to be the definitive guide on mindful loving, this fresh, modern guide to intimacy harnesses wisdom from the ages. Everything you need to have a conscious, compassionate, and thrilling relationship is in this accessible and encouraging book. Cheryl Fraser has a vital message to share. Dont miss it!