Erin Cushman - Anchored: A Bible Study for Miscarriage, Stillbirth, & Infant Loss

Anchored

A BIBLE STUDY FOR
MISCARRIAGE, STILLBIRTH, & INFANT LOSS

ERIN CUSHMAN

Copyright 2015 Erin Cushman.

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CONTENTS

For the courageous Hope Moms and Dads who have
faithfully endured heartache, awaiting the day when
they will see their beloved child once more.

And for Gwendolyn, my precious reminder of our blessed Hope.

Every day is one day closer.

To the Circle of Hope donors who made this publication possible: we are deeply grateful for your generosity and commitment to the spread of biblical truth. Silver and gold level donations were given in honor of Regina Walker and her babies, Baby Fuchs, Carter Wells, Evan Rush Southard, Ella Jane Jones, the Don Nelson family, Baby Scott, Baby Ray, and Gwendolyn Hope Cushman.

To Elyse, Michelle, Sarah, Corrie, Ashlee, Kelly, Lauren, Lianna, and Chelsea: thank you for sharing the stories of your precious children and the way the Lord has used their lives to shape yours. I am so eager to meet your little ones one day soon.

To Constance: your compassion, creativity, and obedience gave us roots. Never doubt the gift of mercy that youve been given or the way it has changed so many.

To the Hope Mommies leadership team: your dedication, empathy, and service have been invaluable to the spread of the gospel across the world (quite literally), as we share the hope that we cling to. I love each of you and am so honored to stand in the gap with you.

To Blair: we have grieved well. Im grateful that as the Lord has used our marriage to grow us in holiness, Hes given us so much happiness along the way. Our joy is sweeter for having known so much pain. I love you and cant imagine this life without you.

Blair and Erin Cushman founded Hope Mommies in 2011, a few months after the death of their newborn daughter, Gwendolyn Hope Cushman. Hope Mommies is a 501(c)3 nonprofit Christian organization. The mission is this:

to share the hope of Christ with bereaved mothers and families experiencing infant loss.

Through their box ministry, social media, hope groups, and retreats, Hope Mommies has served thousands of Hope Moms and families by providing a safe, biblical community for those grieving. Hope Mommies is equipping the outside community to serve the brokenhearted and is raising awareness about infant loss.

To learn more about Hope Mommies, visit www.hopemommies.org.

Dear Friend,

I dont know the particular circumstances that have caused you to pick up this book, but I can only imagine that in some way you have been touched by pregnancy or infant loss. It is a profound grief, and I mourn with you.

My firstborn, Gwendolyn, went to be with Jesus just thirty-six hours after she was born. Letting go of her was the most excruciating event of my life, and it left me with a shattered heart. I was confused and distraught; I was without a plan. Everything I had hoped for had been stripped away.

A verse from 2 Timothy reverberated within my heart as I sat in the hospital bed, shell-shocked by my circumstances. For I know whom I have believed, and I am convinced that he is able to guard until that Day what has been entrusted to me (2 Timothy 1:12 ESV). I knew that God was still the same God from forty-eight hours ago when she was alive and well within my womb. But I was lost in grief, feeling alone and unsure how to relate to a God that allowed my infant daughter to die.

In the days, weeks, and months following her heaven-going, the Lord surrounded me with an encouraging group of women who had also experienced loss. Together we pressed in to Gods Word and to each other. Hope Mommies was formed so that every grieving mom would have a safe group that could empathize with her and point her toward hope. This book is a culmination of the questions and comforts of these Hope Moms as we brought our raw grief and our requests before God, waiting on Him to answer.

This book works from the inside out. It begins with evaluating our understanding of God and His Word, His heaven, and the hope He offers us. Then it addresses the hard and tangible questions, such as these: How can I trust God again? How do I handle envy? How can I relate to my spouse? How can I interact with the non-grieving world around me? Each chapter offers you a chance to engage with Gods Word and study it for yourself, and each chapter gives you space to journal your response. Precious stories from fellow Hope Moms are included, and I hope that you will find comfort knowing that you are not alone in your grief; you are journeying alongside many brave women as you inch your way toward eternity.

Whether you have never picked up a Bible or are well versed in the Scriptures, working through these questions can give encouragement, hope, and wisdom. Gods Word is always fruitful and accomplishes His goal for those who read it (Isaiah 55:1011). This book has been written to be used individually or with a small group, and a Leaders Guide is in the back to help assist with group discussions.

Im praying that as you open this book and read the Bible alongside it, you will find truth and hope. Romans 5:5 says that a hope founded upon the love of God and salvation from God will not disappoint us. Knowing Him will change your life and will restore your hope and joy. Im praying that this study will enable you to draw closer to His heart so that you will know Him and find comfort for your weary soul as you lean upon Him.

Because He lives, I hope.

Erin Cushman

Hope Mommies founder

REFLECTIONS

Use the space below to write out your own story.

At the beginning of our study together, I encourage you to ponder this question: How do I want this loss to shape the woman I become? In ten years, what five words do I want to describe me? Write your answers below.

CHAPTER 1

MARKED BY LOSS