Endorsements
What an excellent book Christine Hoover has written. How to Thrive as a Pastors Wife is so thorough and thoughtful, giving serious consideration to the many challenges pastors wives face in their unique roles. You wont find cliches or pat answers here! It is theologically sound and spiritually mature while also being very practical. Thank you, Christine, for this gift to ministry wives!
Susie Hawkins , wife of O. S. Hawkins and author of From One Ministry Wife to Another
I read this book on a Saturday, between preparations for all my pastors wife responsibilities on Sunday morning. Oh, how this book kept me joyful and true as I was being tempted by pressures to perform. Christine Hoovers wise and compassionate voice speaks into the lies in which I am often entangled and shows me a way out of the deadly labyrinth of self-trust. Her words must have come at a great cost. Her counsel is not some general encouragement but points to specific, blood-bought promises of God, written in the ink and tears of a pastors wife who knows.
Irene Sun , author of the picture books Taste and See: All About Gods Goodness and God Counts: Numbers in His Word and His World
In How to Thrive as a Pastors Wife , Christine Hoover lovingly frees us from the trap of trying to live up to a title. She understands our specific calling as pastors wives and speaks directly to our significant role in kingdom work. She writes with authentic vulnerability about the distinctive temptations faced in ministry marriagesfrom bitterness to blaming to burnoutalways pointing back to our kind King who will faithfully provide for each of our needs. Read her biblical advice and, for the sake of our marriages and ministries, learn to thrive as pastor wives!
Jani Ortlund , executive vice president of Renewal Ministries
The role of pastors wife can seem lonely and enigmatic. We are not all alike, but we are all hoping to fulfill a similar calling. Christine writes as one who has been there and is still there. From my tendency toward the savior complex to the complexity of parenting pastors kids, I found kinship, courage, and wisdom in her words. I encourage every pastors wife to read this book.
Lauren Chandler , pastors wife, author, and worship leader
Christine helps us navigate the complex role to which we have been called. I, too, am not the typical pastors wife and never fit the stereotype. She is the friend I wish I had in my early years to help me avoid unhealthy pitfalls and embrace the unique gifts God gave me to serve the body of Christ out of joy and passion instead of duty. Let this book from a seasoned pastors wife encourage you as she gives words to your insecurities and struggles and guides you through to full engagement with Gods Word and purpose. In Christ, you are uniquely gifted and equippedembrace the call, celebrate the privilege!
Donna Gaines , pastors wife, author, and Bible teacher
Christine Hoover is a rich, trusted source for any pastors wife. Whatever she writes on the subject should be read. Her words are honest, vulnerable, and imminently helpful. She speaks to the most critically important compartments of our worlds with a freeing reality and helpful life-giving truth. This book will generously nourish the soul of any pastors wife. Dont miss it!
Kathy Litton , pastors wife and director of Planter Spouse Development at the North American Mission Board
Christine Hoover honestly and effectively voices the challenges and rewards of life as a pastors wife. Her vulnerability and grace will encourage your heart, while her practical wisdom offers guidance to navigate the unique challenges pastors wives face. Whether youve been living the ministry wife life for minutes or decades, this is a must-read, reference, and keep resource.
Heather Creekmore , pastors wife, podcast host, and author of Compared to Who? and The Burden of Better
As a pastors wife of over twelve years, I found Christines book to be an intricate mosaic capturing the beauty, pain, and tension of being a pastors wife all in one place. Like an intimate chat in the home of a seasoned pastors wifehonest, vulnerable, and deeply encouraging How to Thrive as a Pastors Wife paints an authentic picture of what it looks like to not just survive but truly thrive in this beautiful calling.
Amber Williams , pastors wife, Sojourn Church Midtown, Louisville, KY
Christine Hoover has given pastors wives a true gift in How to Thrive as a Pastors Wife . She explores our place in ministry, faithfully reminding us of our identity as believers in Jesus first and foremost. She helps us see how to guard our marriages and families practically while still serving Christ in our local churches. This was the book I needed twenty years ago, and I commend it to pastors wives everywhere.
Glenna Marshall , pastors wife and author of The Promise is His Presence and Everyday Faithfulness
How to Thrive as a Pastors Wife is a welcome compass for navigating church ministry and a beautiful offering for the sisterhood of pastors wives who gracefully serve Christs precious body. Even after twenty-six years of leadership, I soaked up this reminder from Christine that my role is the gift by which I serve the church, but pastors wife is not my identity. Through seasons filled with growth, harmony, and great joy and seasons of heartache, disappointment, and discouragement when people mischaracterize your church and leave, she lovingly calls us to rhythms of rest and renewal with the God who sees and knows us, and she helps us move untangled by performance and free to flourish in our uniqueness.
Dorena Williamson , first lady of Strong Tower Bible Church, bridgebuilder, and bestselling author of ColorFull and The Celebration Place
The pains and pressures of ministry can be daunting for a pastors wife. Expectations from yourself and others can feel inescapable. But what matters most is this: What does Jesus want from you? In How to Thrive as a Pastors Wife , Christine Hoover serves as a trusted friend to help sisters steward their unique calling. Whether youve always dreamed of being a pastors wife or never expected to be one, I trust this resource will help you faithfully walk on the path Jesus has called you to.
Garrett Kell , pastor of Del Ray Baptist Church and author of Pure in Heart: Sexual Sin and the Promises of God
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2022 by Christine Hoover
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Ebook corrections 03.21.2022
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