Chris Prentiss - The Laws of Love: Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams

Creating the Relationship
of Your Dreams

CHRIS PRENTISS

Power Press

Library of Congress Control Number: 2011924445

Copyright 2012 The Prentiss Trust of June 30, 1998. All rights reserved. Printed in the United States of America. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without written permission except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles or reviews.

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Note: Some of the names and details in the stories in this book have been changed to protect the privacy of those involved.

To you who seek the perfect relationship,
ever deepening, ever growing, ever broadening,
ever becoming more and more what you hope for,
long for, and strive formay you be loved
and cherished by the one you love in
an enduring walk together along the path
you have chosen for this lifetime

Special thanks to my wife, Lyn:

You are a treasure beyond measure,
an ever-present manifestation of how
wondrous a relationship can be when lived
in accordance with the Laws of Love.

To the readers of The Laws of Love:

I have now lived with my husband, Chris,
for eleven years and I want you to know that they
have been the happiest years of my life.

Lyn Prentiss

AUTHORS NOTE

Throughout this book I have referred to your relationship partner or mate in the third person as they or them rather than he or she or him or her because it is less cumbersome and less repetitive. For instance, the phrase You then have to live with them can be understood as You then have to live with him or her.

There are many words to describe a person with whom you are in a personal relationship. Again, for readability and variety, I alternate the words partner, mate, or loved one to denote the person you love and with whom you want to build your ideal relationship. If you do not consider that person to be your spouse or mate, please read that word as partner or another term that is applicable to your personal situation.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

A special thank you once again to Nigel J. Yorwerth and Patricia Spadaro of PublishingCoaches.com. I appreciate your creativity and care, patience and persistence in helping me develop, shape, edit, publish, and promote my work. Your expertise and heartfelt support is invaluable. And thank you, Nigel, for your unwavering efforts in promoting my work, getting excellent distribution, and selling rights for my books to top foreign publishers.

I also acknowledge Carl Hartman as the person who introduced me to the brilliant concept of Safe Space in the late 1980s.

A PORTION OF A POEM
WRITTEN 2500 YEARS AGO

When two people are at one
in their inmost hearts,
They shatter even the strength
of iron or of bronze.

And when two people understand each
other in their inmost hearts,
Their words are sweet and strong,
like the fragrance of orchids.

CONFUCIUS

There is only one happiness in life,
to love and be loved.

GEORGE SAND (18041876)

The Laws of Love are time-tested principles for successful loving that for thousands of years have brought soul-drenching happiness and fulfilling relationships to those who have followed them. Embracing these simple truths and acting in accordance with them will empower you to shape out of the framework of your relationship, current or future, a beautiful, lasting creation that will nurture and sustain you, turn your sad days into happy days, and gladden your heart through the years. Living in harmony with these fundamental laws of life will also help you to avoid the pitfalls that beset the path of those who never give a thought to the consequences of their thoughts, words, or actions. The path to creating a wonderful relationship may at times be challenging, at times painful, but in the end always rewarding.

INTRODUCTION

THE PATH OF DISCOVERY

WHETHER YOU ARE SEEKING HELP FOR YOUR CURRENT relationship or you are seeking help in attracting a new relationship, you will find that help here. If you are currently in a troubled relationship, knowing the Laws of Love will empower you to save itif its worth saving. You may, in fact, be in a relationship whose usefulness has been outlived. Knowing the Laws of Love will give you the information you need to determine if youre with the right person, and it will give you the insight and the courage to end your relationship if youre not.

You may think that the course of a relationship depends on the luck of the draw or circumstances that weave their way in and out of your life. Or you may think that your happiness depends on what your partner does or does not do. The reality is that the quality of your relationship depends mainly on one thing: you.

Thats not to say that your partner may not be part of the problem or may even be the entire problem, but by knowing the Laws of Love you will be able to heal your partner and bring your relationship into the light of happiness. Few relationships come to us exactly as we want them, but with the right knowledge and care we can shape them into enduring pillars of strength and beautyrelationships where great joy is experienced, great deeds are accomplished and, most importantly, great love is returned.

Once again, though, I caution you that this applies to relationships that are worth saving. Your partner may have been damaged by life, upbringing, or prior relationships to the point where your relationship is not savable. Perhaps your partner doesnt love you and doesnt want to love you, or perhaps he or she is just using you for financial reasons, emotional support, or some other hidden agenda. If after applying the Laws of Love, you discover that your partner is with you for the wrong reasons or is damaged beyond repair, you should move on with your life and find a new mate. In the words of Henry Higgins of My Fair Lady fame, Throw the baggage out!

GOOD RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT AN ACCIDENT

Having the relationship of your dreams is not an accident, a roll of the relationship dice. Its a result of being the kind of person who knows the right steps to take to create an enduring, fulfilling friendship with your partner. Sometimes we may meet a person who we believe is just right for us. Yet because of what weve learned about relationships and who weve become over the years, we ruin the opportunity, and what might have been a great relationship with the right person becomes another sad ending. Even the finest opportunity in the wrong hands comes to nothing.