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What the Bible Says About Divorce
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INTRODUCTION
WHY IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME?
Many counselors believe that divorce is one of the most painful events that can happen to a person. Because of the prolonged fights, hurts, and feelings of rejection, some divorced individuals can take longer to heal than other people whose spouses die unexpectedly. If the logistics of divorce werent hard enough, the feelings that accompany them can make life feel unbearable. But even in the worst of times, youre not alone. God has not abandoned you during this difficult time. And while His presence is near, His comforting words can provide much of the healing and direction you need.
Enclosed in this book are carefully chosen words of God for you during this difficult time. Theyre accompanied by the words of men and women who have experienced many of the same things youre experiencing. Youll also find some practical thoughts to help you take some next, healthy steps. While today may not be easy, you dont have to take the steps alone. Find hope as you enjoy taking Gods hand through the days ahead.
CHAPTER 1
CAN THESE HURTS BE HEALED?
The tears come so quickly. When I got married, I never imagined that all our dreams could shatter into pieces like this. I feel like a complete failurerejected and alone. Im so hurt and depressed, and I dont see myself ever getting past this. To be honest, its hard to find much reason to get out of bed in the morning. It just hurts too badly to face the future.
Alissa, age 27, Rhode Island
FEELING LIKE A FAILURE
My flesh and my heart fail;
But God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.
P SALM 73:26 NKJV
I to him who is able to keep you from stumbling and to present you blameless before the presence of his glory with great joy, to the only God, our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord, be glory, majesty, dominion, and authority, before all time and now and forever. Amen.
J UDE 1:2425 ESV
The L ORD will fight for you; you need only to be still.
E XODUS 14:14 NIV
I will be glad and rejoice in your unfailing love, for you have seen my troubles, and you care about the anguish of my soul.
P SALM 31:7 NLT
We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested in our bodies.
2 C ORINTHIANS 4:810 ESV
FEELING CRUSHED
The L ORD is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.
P SALM 34:18 NLT
Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge.
P SALM 62:8 NIV
God cares for you, so turn all your worries over to him.
1 P ETER 5:7 CEV
Dont be afraid, Ive redeemed you. Ive called your name. Youre mine.
When youre in over your head, Ill be there with you.
When youre in rough waters, you will not go down.
When youre between a rock and a hard place, it wont be a dead end
Because I am God, your personal God, The Holy of Israel, your Savior.
I paid a huge price for you: all of Egypt, with rich Cush and Seba thrown in!
Thats how much you mean to me!
Thats how much I love you!
Id sell off the whole world to get you back, trade the creation just for you.
I SAIAH 43:14 MSG
Praise the L ORD , O my soul; all my inmost being, praise his holy name.
Praise the L ORD , O my soul, and forget not all his benefits
who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases,
who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion.
P SALM 103:14 NIV
The L ORD God is waiting to show how kind he is and to have pity on you.
The L ORD always does right; he blesses those who trust him.
I SAIAH 30:18 CEV
What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us allhow will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies. Who is he that condemns? Christ Jesus, who diedmore than that, who was raised to lifeis at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us. Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? As it is written: