Lionel Rose - Secrets of Body Language: Female Body Language. Learn to Tell if She’s Interested or Not! (Updated 2013)

Secrets of Body Language: Female Body Language

Learn to Tell if She's Interested in You or Not!

By James Beckett & Lionel Rose

Copyright 2017

BOOKS BY JAMES BECKETT

Let Your Inner Alpha Loose

BOOKS BY LIONEL ROSE

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Secrets of Body Language: Lie Detection

Secrets of Body Language: The Basics

Table of Contents

First things first,

By the time youve read this guide, youll be able to walk into any room and spot which women you have a strong chance of ending up romancing. Youll know how to approach her, how to woo her and how to read her body and know exactly what shes thinking about your flirting.

But before you do, make sure you scroll down to download this FREE bonus chapter on using your own body language to your advantage.

Flirting is a two way street: she needs to know youre interested just like you need to know she has her eye firmly on you. This bonus chapter will help you manipulate your own body language to send out exactly the signals you want her to pick up. To find out how you can do that, simply download the bonus chapter right now!

Now that you have everything you need, let's get down to business

Body language is a major component of human interaction. We communicate more of our conscious thoughts and intentions with words but, when it comes to feelings and desires, a lot of what we are saying is conveyed on a more subtle level.

Submerged below the level of conscious control and coming out in how we position ourselves, what we do with our eyes and hands, how close we come to another person and many other cues, its estimated that between 50 and 80 percent of human communication is nonverbal. Of course, that doesnt apply equally to all forms of discourse. If you are, for example, presenting a lecture before an audience on a scientific theory, much less than 50 percent of your communication is likely to be nonverbal.

However, as we drop down from such lofty ranges into communication that is more basic and earthy, the percentage rises potentially higher than that 80 percent normal limit. And when it comes to human mating, dating and sexuality, thats especially true.

These parts of our behavior just arent as civilized as language (although language does contribute to them greatly, along with all the other arts of civilization), and a lot of our communication in passionate moments comes from the murky depths within.

A woman communicates her romantic and sexual interest in a man (or in another woman) in mostly nonverbal ways. Words enter the picture, too, particularly if she is bold, and always in the end stages, but mostly they confirm what the body has already said and verify that the conscious mind and will are in agreement with the blood and the vitals. If you are reading her correctly, what she says when it comes down to, Heres my phone number or, Im free this Saturday or even, Your place or mine? will come as no surprise.

But how do you read her correctly? How does her body tell you that shes interested or that shes not?

As you read this book, youll likely notice regular reference to context. In other words, a body language signal that sometimes means one thing can mean quite another in a different time and place.

As an example, imagine that youre chatting to a woman at a dinner party and shes using her arms to gesture emphatically as she speaks. Shes smiling and giggling and leaning towards you and by all accounts seems to be having a great time.

Now imagine that youve had a disagreement with that same woman during a board meeting for a local organization. Shes still waving her arms around to help emphasize the points shes making, but now shes frowning, her voice is raised and the corners of her mouth are turned down.

The body language signal youre focusing on is almost exactly the same in both cases but its meaning is very much not. Thats because the context has changed, and so have the other signals that accompany her gestures.

To learn those telltale signals that can help you gauge whether a woman is telling you yes please or hell no, youll need to learn to watch for the signals that youre hoping to see. Youll also need to learn to put them in context, which means considering them as part of a package, never alone.

If you read in one of these chapters that emphatic gestures can often signal interest, that doesnt mean that it will do so in every single case. It means that a woman who is waving her arms around during a conversation with you might be interested in you in some way but that youre going to have to pay attention to the rest of her body language to find out firstly if the signal is really a tick in the interest box, and secondly whether it matches everything else shes doing.

Body language is a package deal: what one part of her body is doing should be reflected in other parts, helping you put the full picture together. Think of the body language signals described in this book as pieces of a jigsaw puzzle. As you become familiar with each one, youll be able to see how the pieces are fitting together and what picture theyre beginning to create.

Aside from helping you clarify the situation, putting signals in context can keep you from jumping to the wrong conclusions. As youll see, there are certain situations when a signal that seems to indicate one thing is really telling you another. A woman who keeps touching her mouth, for example, might be feeling highly attracted to you but she might just really hate her teeth and want to hide them from view. Building a picture helps you weed out the signals that dont match up and finding the right signals in the right situation is the key to interpreting her body.

Fortunately, building an overall picture is much more simple than it might sound. Once youve spotted one potential signal, you need only look to a second and third to start putting things in context. Think of the first body language signal you spot as your indicator and the rest as confirmation. And always remember that, on its own, a signal probably wont tell you much one way or another. Its only when you pay attention to the whole woman that youll understand what shes trying to tell you.

Lets start with the most basic thing of all: where is she? In relation to you, that is. How close is she standing or sitting to you? What does that choice of distance say about her level of interest?

Assume that youve been introduced to her, youve already gotten through the preliminary banter and you are deep into a conversation. She seems to like you and enjoy your company on some level. Youre standing in a room, or youre sitting on couches. Where she chooses to position herself, and particularly whether or not its close enough that one of you could reach out and touch the other (without leaning over) communicates a great deal about where shes coming from.

The distance people maintain between themselves and another person is to a degree culturally dependent, but the following zones exist in the West that is, Western Europe and all countries colonized by western Europeans. That includes all of the Americas (with a few possible Caribbean exceptions), plus Australia and New Zealand, and a few other countries as well. There are roughly four different zones:

• The Public Zone (more than 12 feet apart): physical touching is impossible. Someone maintaining this distance is not expecting any kind of interaction at all. Intrusion within 12 feet is (in most contexts) a signal of a desire for or openness to some degree of interaction (however, in some contexts in which closer proximity is unavoidable, such as standing in a line, that would not be true). She is unlikely to maintain this distance in a normal social situation unless she seriously dislikes you.