Ronald Valentino - Body Language Quick And Easy Ways to Master The Art of How to Read Body Language on Anyone

Do you know the meaning of body and the meaning of language? Just kidding! You surely do. Body language is also aptly referred to as non-verbal communication. In short, body language simply means communicating with your body, whether intentionally or not. And how does one communicate unintentionally? Well, sometimes you may find yourself sending a message you didnt plan to, either verbally or through your body language. In verbal communication, it is what you call a slip of the tongue, while in body language, you could simply call it reflexive action; one you do spontaneously. Body language plays a major role in your life irrespective of whether you use it deliberately or unconsciously.

Just imagine your automatic reaction when a friend of yours drops some vulgarity in the presence of someone you respect. Automatically, your eyes widen with shock and you may even flinch and squint at the same time. If the culprit saw your reaction and was capable of reading your body language, you can be sure theyd not repeat the same behavior if they cared about your feelings.

Now, considering that this book is about how to master body language, it is important to appreciate the common body signs that speak louder than actual words. Then you can proceed to see how to use those signs effectively in your day to day interactions, so that you can understand the people you relate with and also so that you can portray yourself in positive light.

So, whats the use of body language?

The reason it is important to learn how to use body language effectively is because it can play a big role on determining your success, be it within a family set up, a business set up or even in a social environment. And in most cases, the way to succeed is by advancing your agenda. But how do you advance your agenda by using body language? This is quite simple. If you think about it seriously, the reason you are able to clinch a business deal could, in great part, be because the other party likes what they decipher from your body language, and not simply the words they hear come out of your mouth. And the reason people like you as a person is not necessarily because of the pronouncements that you make, but the positive body language that you use to complement what you say. In fact, body language on its own is enough to make people like you or dislike you.

How can you become better at accurately reading the body language of someone else? Well, this is something you do every day, in fact, in every interactive interaction; and you do it without giving it conscious thought. Unfortunately, there are times when you read the other persons body language wrongly and hence you react in a manner that is not warranted; but other times you are on point. When you are able to read a persons body language with accuracy, you understand when things are going as you wish, and also when things are getting out of hand, even without anyone speaking out. Of course, this understanding gives you the motivation to enhance the topic if things are going well, and an opportunity to correct the situation if things arent going as hoped.

The harsh reality, however, is that there are occasions when you end up missing on a good business deal, an opportunity for a great romantic relationship, and other likewise opportunities, just because you interpreted someones body language wrongly. For that reason, we need to go through some common signs in body language, and interpret what each of them communicates.

This is the meaning of someones body language when:

1) Standing stoically; shoulders square

This is the demeanor that says things are still under control. It is the body language you portray when things are not going as well as you want them to, but you dont want to show panic or failing confidence. And you know what? When you keep the faith and you show it, other people easily join you in solidarity. Do you notice how people tend to get attracted to those who are winning? Even those who knew little of you now want to know you by name. Thats why you need to stand up with your broad (or narrow) shoulders all square even when your sports team seems to be losing; when your business is not doing very well; when your kid has messed up in school and you are now before the school board any time you want to win the attention and confidence of the other party.