Marcy Michaels - The Low Down on Going Down: How to Give Her Mind-Blowing Oral Sex

CONTENTS

That man that hath a tongue, I say, is no man,
If with his tongue he cannot win a woman.

WILLIAM SHAKESPEARE,
The Two Gentlemen of Verona, Act 3

AUTHOR'S NOTE

On the Orgasm That Inspired This Book

AT SOME POINT, almost everyone asks me how I first made the connection between speech therapy and oral sex. Did it just hit me one day? Was it in a dream? Did one of my patients clue me into the side benefits of my therapy? The answer requires a little background information.

My history and upbringing were far from sexually liberated. I grew up thinking that a woman's place was in the home, and more in the kitchen than the bedroom. To top that off, I married my first boyfriend. If you had asked me where my G-spot was, I might have pointed somewhere near my knee. Nave doesn't begin to convey how oblivious I was to the various parts of my body and their ability to generate sensual pleasure. The ever-blossoming sexual revolution that swept across the nation barely touched me, incubated as I was in a thankless marriage on the Upper East Side of Manhattan with no career of my own, and not a single sex toy to my name. Inexplicably (I thought) unhappy, I finally went to see a psychiatrist. As I sat in his deceptively nondescript office, he concluded that my problems stemmed from a lack of sexual experience. I had only been with one person, he reasoned, how could I know what I wanted? Taken aback by his prescriptionhave sex with new partners as soon as possibleI went out in search of a less wanton opinion.

Sexual liberation must have been going around that year, because psychiatrists numbers two, three, and four all gave me the same homework: take your sexuality into your own hands. Driven to the edge of despair by my unfulfilling marriage, I desperately, wildly, did just thatI took my sexuality into my own hands, and the rest of my life came with it. I divorced my husband, started my career as a speech pathologist, and got busy on the New York dating scene.

I was a woman on a mission. Having always been interested in helping others and the power of speech, I decided to pursue an advanced degree in speech pathology. By day I went to my speech classes, and by night I broke loose on the grand ole isle of Manhattan. Professionally, I was studying with some of the most enlightened people in my field. Personally, I was dating a sampling of the best lovers New York had to offer. I was thoroughly enjoying myself in both of these new worlds. The oral sex discovery resulted from an unlikely intersection of the two.

One day, on a trip to Atlantic City, I met a tall, pleasant fellow who took me around for the day. By that time, I was a little jaded. I had been dating for years by then, and thought I had seen everything. It was a fairly standard datethat is, until he gave me a good-night kiss that made my knees buckle and my stomach flip. My mouth, partially lost in his, seemed to be transcending into new realms, while my legs became heavy and sank toward the boardwalk. Sparks were sent flying all over my body, and an electrical current seemed to be running through my veins. Before long, we were inside my room at the hotel, and I was experiencing all-over body orgasms that challenged my definition of an orgasm as something with a beginning and an end. And he did it all night long without a gasp, a hesitation, or a slackening of energy.

Now this guy wasn't unusually charming or attractive. While his personality was fine and friendly, it was nothing to write home about, and his anatomy was entirely average. His tongue and mouth alone were responsible for my pleasure-fest, and immediately advanced him to the top of my list. So what transformed this mere mortal into an oral superman? Have you guessed yet? Of all things, Supermouth was trained as a speech therapist. I returned to my speech pathology classes in New York with a newfound enthusiasm.

This book is dedicated to sharing the secrets I learned in my years practicing speech therapy. They will help you gain a new mastery over your lips and tongue, enabling you to send shivers up your lover's spine on command. To make sure you get the most out of these techniques, I've included a handy, step-by-step guide to giving your lucky lady the best oral sex of her life.

So let's get you started.

BEFORE WE BEGIN: A NOTE ON SAFETY

The techniques set forth in this book are largely intended for the comparatively safe setting of a monogamous, long-term relationship. Of course, they can be practiced on anyone, at any time, but they are meant to be experienced with someone you know well and trust. Though oral sex has been proven to be less likely to transmit HIV and other STDs than unprotected intercourse, the possibility still exists. Furthermore, if your partner has a bacterial STD, it is possible to contract it in your mouth or throat, or anywhere you have mucous membranes (including your nose). Keep in mind that the person performing these activitiesdoing the licking, sucking, or taking fluids into their mouthis much more at risk than the person being licked, sucked, and generating the fluids. If you're getting intimate with someone you don't know very well, make sure you protect yourself with a condom or dental dam.

There are as many different kinds of protection available today as there are positions in the Kama Sutra, and some of them are designed to add to the fun with flavoring and ribs. Before things get hot and heavy, find the products best suited to your needs that will allow you to be safe while exploring and expanding your sexual boundaries. Information on this topic abounds on the Internet (the Society for Human Sexuality at www.sexuality.org is a good starting place) and can also be found in numerous publications. Please do whatever is safest for you, so that you can delve into your sexual experiences with a truly carefree spirit.

Introduction

TO SUCK OR NOT TO SUCK: THAT IS THE QUESTION

THIS GUIDE IS based on the premise that oral sex canand shouldbe outrageously fantastic every time. The poor quality of much oral sex being performed today can be baffling at first, but it becomes more understandable when one considers the factors involved. There are a plethora of psychological and social reasons that the tongue tickle hasn't been cultivated as a talent, but more often than not, a fatally simple want of skill and knowledge is to blame. This guide addresses both situations, but is mostly devoted to the latter.

When you engage in oral sex, you're taking the most delicate, vulnerable part of your lover's bodytheir genitalsand placing them between the most potentially vicious, animalistic part of yoursyour teeth. The teeth are situated in the mouth to gnash, process food, and ward off harm. It's a wonderfully human quirk that we use this part of our body to give pleasure. Ironically, this distinctively human trait has been characterized by previous generations as dirty and uncivilized.

I don't need to argue here about the importance of great sex to the health of a romantic relationship. We've all seen TV shows and movies that portray sex and passion as ber-racy, with bodies writhing in satin sheets under perfectly dimmed lighting, as if little elves had benevolently prepped the room for a one-two-three orgasm. But if sex and romance are overvalued, oral sex is all too frequently undervalued in the media and culture at large.