The Secrets of Great Sex
A Mans Guide to Oral Sex
Your guide to incredible, exhilarating, sensational sex
Adams Media, a division of F+W Media, Inc.
Avon, Massachusetts
Contents
Introduction
The Secrets of Great Sex books are concise guides, focusing on only the essential information you need. Whether youre looking for a new sex position to try, need advice about achieving real intimacy, or want to know how to please your partner, theres a Secrets of Great Sex book for you!
As George Michael once sang, Sex is natural, sex is fun. While both statements may be true, it may not always feel that way. Yes, sex is a natural, biological process as old as mankind, but for many people especially those who are self-conscious in the bedroom sex (good sex, at least) may not seem to come naturally. And if you are worried, anxious, self-conscious, or otherwise distracted, sex probably wont be much fun, either.
The good news is, great sex isnt an impossible feat. In fact, it may be much more attainable than you may think. It may take a little bit of effort and perhaps a little practice (which will be fun, I promise!) but before you know it, your sex life will be better than you ever dreamed possible.
The truth is, you probably already have the basic ingredients for a terrific sexual experience: desire, passion, primal urges, and a willing partner. Most likely, you are letting yourself get way too hung up on technique (or your perceived lack thereof) and how you insert Tab A into Slot B. Fortunately, thats stuff you can easily learn, if you have the motivation and dedication. And, since youve made the effort to pick up this book, Im assuming you are indeed eager to learn. Thats half the battle.
Exploring and learning about our sexual nature comes easily to some people and seems challenging to many others. We arent taught much about sex unless we were lucky enough to have parents who werent afraid to talk about it. Young people learn about sex from their peers or from experimentation. The older a person gets before he has experienced some kind of sexual encounter, the more ill-equipped that person will feel upon actually entering a sexual relationship.
When we feel well informed, practiced, and excited about sex, it becomes an awesome experience. We are born with all the right equipment for sex. What we need is a sort of an owners manual a guide to help us learn, give us ideas with which to experiment, and supply the guidelines to let us know that we are on the right track.
Every couple and every sexual encounter a couple has is unique. It may not feel that way to you right now, but, as you begin to learn more about your sexual nature, you will begin to observe the differences each time you make love. By doing this you will have a basis from which to expand even further. Becoming conscious but not self-conscious while having sex is the key to having each separate experience feel new, exciting, and creative.
Each one of us is responsible for our own sexual happiness. It isnt our lovers responsibility, though it is wonderful if we feel partnered with someone who wants to have sexual happiness, too. The Secrets of Great Sex series is designed with the goal of giving you every tool necessary to have a complete, satisfying, expansive sexual and sensual experience.
These guides will inform you for many years to come and provide the insight and knowledge you need for a future of great sex. A long life, a healthy life, a happy life, and a great sex life all go together!
If youd like to learn more about great sex, check out The Everything Great Sex Book, 2nd Edition , available in print (978-1-4405-0148-7) and eBook (978-1-4405-0149-4) formats.
Our Intrigue with Oral Sex
Muff diving, eating someone out, going down, poon job . The slang terms and euphemisms for oral sex on a female are very creative, often quite comical, and in the very least numerous. They speak volumes as to the obsession we humans have with the mouth going South when fooling around with a partner. Google oral sex and 12,300,000 pages come up for that term alone. People around the world are intrigued with the eroticism involved in giving the genitals a slip of the tongue and more. To say were orally fixated is an understatement.
Just So Were on the Same Page
Performing oral sex is a universal sexual experience enjoyed by millions as a part of foreplay, as a part of afterplay (that lovely, intimate, coming down period following sexual intercourse), or as the main sex event. In those racy trysts involving more than two sexual partners, it can be experienced during sexual intercourse. In any case, oral-genital contact, more commonly known as oral sex involves giving or receiving pleasure delivered to a persons sexual organs primarily via the lips and tongue. This is typically done in a rhythmic licking or sucking fashion using ones mouth, though any number of techniques can be employed, as well cover in-depth throughout this book.
Cunnilingus , from the Latin cunnus (vulva) and lingere (to lick), is the technical term for orally stimulating a females genitals. Action typically focuses on her clitoris, the inner and outer lips, and vaginal opening. Analingus , also known as rimming , a rim job , ass licking , eating ass , or tossing salad , refers to oral-anal contact. Anal-oral sex may be a part of cunnilingus or the sole event of a sex session.
Now while some of the names used for oral sex may sound technical, depending on whom youre talking to, these types of sexual exchanges can be quite titillating. Given that eating her out is a highly effective erotic technique, it has held rapture for humans throughout the ages. The rimming bit which well cover here and there throughout is more of a, shall we say, acquired taste, but a delectable one for those into it. Whether shared as a sacred act of partner worship, sought for its scintillating sensations, or pursued as a prime opportunity to get down and dirty, any of these oral adventures is the favorite kind of sex to be had for a number of lovers for a number of reasons.
Why She Loves Oral Sex
Many women love receiving oral sex not only because getting the ultimate kiss feels incredible, but she has learned that its critical to her orgasm as well. Some women are only able to climax from having someone go down on them since the clitoris, the hub of womens pleasure, receives so much attention during the oral act. Others need oral sex, and the orgasm from cunnilingus, to reach climax during intercourse. In many cases, a females orgasm from cunnilingus is fast, relaxing, and healing. Its an aphrodisiac on a psychological level, and this most intimate of sex play often makes women feel desired, respected, and appreciated.
Rolls off the Tongue
Oral sex is the cream on the cake as far as sexual experiences for me. It makes me cum like nothing else both while my partner is going down on me, then later during intercourse. I have a tough time reaching climax in any other way. But Im not complaining since, hands down, oral sex from a skilled lover is absolutely divine. Michelle
Pleasure from Power
The ego trip from the power element alone in getting head can be intoxicating for her. Being the object of a partners devotion only adds to the adoration she has for oral. With her dream lover between her legs, how can she help but not get caught up in the high of being serviced or pleasured?! She has let someone get up close and personal in her most private space, and that person you is going to town, lost in the mission of maximizing her pleasure. This only gets hotter when she glances down at whats going on between her legs. The mere visual stimulation that comes from seeing (and imagining in her off-time) your head bobbing, drunk with desire, can be highly arousing.