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The Secrets of Great Sex books are concise guides, focusing on only the essential information you need. Whether youre looking for a new sex position to try, need advice about achieving real intimacy, or want to know how to please your partner, theres a Secrets of Great Sex book for you!

As George Michael once sang, Sex is natural, sex is fun. While both statements may be true, it may not always feel that way. Yes, sex is a natural, biological process as old as mankind, but for many people especially those who are self-conscious in the bedroom sex (good sex, at least) may not seem to come naturally. And if you are worried, anxious, self-conscious, or otherwise distracted, sex probably wont be much fun, either.

The good news is, great sex isnt an impossible feat. In fact, it may be much more attainable than you may think. It may take a little bit of effort and perhaps a little practice (which will be fun, I promise!) but before you know it, your sex life will be better than you ever dreamed possible.

The truth is, you probably already have the basic ingredients for a terrific sexual experience: desire, passion, primal urges, and a willing partner. Most likely, you are letting yourself get way too hung up on technique (or your perceived lack thereof) and how you insert Tab A into Slot B. Fortunately, thats stuff you can easily learn, if you have the motivation and dedication. And, since youve made the effort to pick up this book, Im assuming you are indeed eager to learn. Thats half the battle.

Exploring and learning about our sexual nature comes easily to some people and seems challenging to many others. We arent taught much about sex unless we were lucky enough to have parents who werent afraid to talk about it. Young people learn about sex from their peers or from experimentation. The older a person gets before he has experienced some kind of sexual encounter, the more ill-equipped that person will feel upon actually entering a sexual relationship.

When we feel well informed, practiced, and excited about sex, it becomes an awesome experience. We are born with all the right equipment for sex. What we need is a sort of an owners manual a guide to help us learn, give us ideas with which to experiment, and supply the guidelines to let us know that we are on the right track.

Every couple and every sexual encounter a couple has is unique. It may not feel that way to you right now, but, as you begin to learn more about your sexual nature, you will begin to observe the differences each time you make love. By doing this you will have a basis from which to expand even further. Becoming conscious but not self-conscious while having sex is the key to having each separate experience feel new, exciting, and creative.

Each one of us is responsible for our own sexual happiness. It isnt our lovers responsibility, though it is wonderful if we feel partnered with someone who wants to have sexual happiness, too. The Secrets of Great Sex series is designed with the goal of giving you every tool necessary to have a complete, satisfying, expansive sexual and sensual experience.

These guides will inform you for many years to come and provide the insight and knowledge you need for a future of great sex. A long life, a healthy life, a happy life, and a great sex life all go together!

If youd like to learn more about great sex, check out The Everything Great Sex Book, 2nd Edition , available in print (978-1-4405-0148-3) and eBook (978-1-4405-0149-4) formats.

Lip service, going down, sucking cock, giving a hummer, meeting with the one-eyed purple monster . The slang terms for oral sex are very creative, often quite comical, and, at the very least, many. Google oral sex and 17.4 million hits come up for that term alone. People around the world are intrigued with the eroticism involved in giving the genitals a slip of the tongue and more. To say were orally fixated is an understatement.

Just So Were on the Same Page

Performing oral sex is a universal sexual experience enjoyed by millions as a part of foreplay, as a part of afterplay (that lovely, intimate, coming down period following sexual intercourse), or as the main sex event. In those racy trysts involving more than two sexual partners, it can even be experienced during sexual intercourse. In any case, oral-genital contact, more commonly known as oral sex , involves giving or receiving pleasure delivered to a persons sexual organs primarily via the lips and tongue. This is typically done in a rhythmic licking or sucking fashion using ones mouth, though any number of techniques can be employed, as well cover in-depth throughout this book.

Stemming from the Latin fellare , which literally means to suck, fellatio is the formal term for oral stimulation of the male penis and scrotum aka blow job or giving head . Another form of oral sex, analingus also known as rimming , ass licking , eating ass , or tossing salad refers to oral-anal contact. Anal-oral sex may accompany fellatio or may be the sole event of a sex session. Now while this may sound somewhat technical, these types of sexual exchanges can be quite titillating. Sucking cock is a highly effective erotic technique, which has held rapture for humans throughout the ages. Analingus, which well cover here and there throughout this book, is more of an acquired taste, but something that really works for couples who are into it. Whether sought for its scintillating sensations, or pursued as a prime opportunity to get down and dirty, any of these oral adventures is the favorite kind of sex to be had for a number of lovers for a number of reasons.

Why He Loves Oral Sex

In choosing your oral sex seductions and strategies, its best to start by getting in his head. What is it about blow jobs that guys love so much? Obviously, he loves the feel-good sensations that can only come from oral sex. He loves that the mouth is wet, warm, and soft, and that it can tighten around his shaft while skillfully hitting all the right parts. Unbeknownst to many, though, is that men, generally, are often all about oral for psychological reasons as well. As receiver, your guy feels hero worshipped, and, along with that, desired, accepted, nurtured, and dominant. He also adores the fact that you are doing all of the work.

Rolls Off the Tongue

Oral sex is a treat theres nothing like it. I love having all types of other sex, but having a warm mouth wrapped around my cock is one of the most amazing sensations ever. And the fact that I dont have to do anything, but enjoy, makes it only better.Naveen

Pleasure from Power

The ego trip your partner may receive when getting head can be intoxicating for him. Being the object of your devotion only adds to the adoration he has for oral. With his dream or fantasy lover between his legs, how can he help but not get caught up in the high of being pleasured? Your guy only gets hotter when he glances down at whats going on between his legs; the mere visual stimulation that comes from seeing (and imagining in his off-time) your head bobbing around can be highly arousing.