Marisa Bennett - Fifty Shades of Oral Pleasure: A Bedside Guide to Going Down for Him and Her

A BEDSIDE GUIDE TO GOING DOWN FOR HIM AND HER

M ARISA B ENNETT

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To Patrick and Eddie.
Youre welcome.

T here is a sexual revolution upon us. With even the most taboo of erotica novels hitting the mainstream, the idea that sex sells has transformed from an old advertising mantra into a new, sometimes-dressed-up-in-leather, universal embrace of the things we do behind closed doors. Luckily for us, this includes one of the very best kinds of copulation: mind-blowing oral sex.

While some Puritanical facets of society would like to say that oral sex is a dirty invention of the porn industry or the sexually deviant media, going down has been around for as long as the owners of penises and vaginas have used their mouths to kiss. Even in the ancient city of Pompeii, known for its volcanic demise, archaeologists have found frescoes and other forms of artwork depicting oral sex. Historians are divided as to its purpose: because of the artworks placement in the baths, some think its an advertisement for sexual services offered, while others think it was just a funny picture used to help patrons remember where they left their clothes. Even in ancient China, there are paintings of Empress Wu Zetian of the Tang Dynasty receiving cunnilingus from her noblemen. (Its been debated whether these images were accurate depictions, or just the ancient likeness to a modern political cartoon. Whichever the case, I say rock on Empress.)

From past to present, ancient to modern, analog to digital, oral sex has been and is a passionate expression of human sexuality that makes having a mouth and an erogenous zone feel like one of the seven wonders of the world. If anything, consider this book to be tipping its hat to the history of head-givers past! This is an enthusiastic guide to His and Her oral trysts, from basic anatomy, grooming trends, orgasmic techniques every couple should master, to thrilling oral sex positions with artful sketches to guide you. Ive even included a few inspirational sexy stories to get your blood pumping. Now, you were given a mouth for more than just the purposes of speaking and eating cotton candy. Read on and get using it!

Part One

Her

It was love at first sight , at last sight, at ever and ever sight .

Vladimir Nabokov, Lolita

I want to do with you what spring does with the cherry trees .

Pablo Neruda

P enetrative sex is a crapshoot for women. Studies show that only 25 percent of women regularly orgasm from penetration, which means that a majority of ladies are putting out and not getting much in return. At least, not from p-in-the-v sex. But with oral, its different: the focus is on her, and shes much more likely to get off. Womens orgasms are amazing: where male orgasms tend to last 6 seconds, an average female orgasm lasts 20 seconds, and most women can have multiple orgasms in a single romp! Going down, eating out, cunnilingus, whatever you call it, oral sex is an intimate experience: youre face to face with a part of her very few people get to be intimately acquainted with.

Before you get down, you should take a look at where youre going. Whether youre a native of vagina-land or a backpacking visitor (Or even a new tourist! Welcome!), its worth it to take a look at the map. While we normally use the word vagina to talk about the whole ladybits ecosystem, technically vagina only refers to the vaginal opening. Serious misnomer, since the vagina is such a small part of a womans whole sexual experience: while it may be the star of the show in penetrative sex, if you want to really please a woman you dont need to go deeper, you want to spread out! The word vagina comes from the Latin word for sheathyou know, the place where you put your sword. But anyone with a good sword-holder between her legs can tell you theres more to going down there than just the female end of an electrical socket.

The right term for the kit and caboodle is vulva, a vaguely foreign word (try it with a Russian accent) that has potential for sexiness, although since its not often used colloquially it still has the ring of a medical term. Womens vulvas are very different, which can create plenty of insecurity for anyone who doesnt look quite like the diagram in her health class textbook. Like snowflakes, no two pussies are exactly the same, but they all share the same basic parts that you should get to know.

I love the neat organization of the vulva, almost like someone has sorted the ladybits into charming little pink folders for easy access. The outermost folder is called the labia majora, literally the big lips. The outer skin varies in sensitivity, but it can often be more receptive than you would think, when you consider how many women have their outer labia doused in wax and the hair ripped out!

The outer labia are physiologically similar to the scrotum, but dont expect it to be as delicate as a set of balls: your mileage may vary, but many women enjoy having their lips stroked, massaged, kissed, rubbed and otherwise played with during pussy play. As always be gentle and follow her lead!

The inner folder, tucked neatly inside the outer lips, is called the labia minora. These folds are softer and more sensitive than her outer lips: they are sometimes called nymphae, which I think is just lovely. The labia minora can look quite different from one woman to another, with some bigger or smaller, and varying in coloring. The inner lips also change in appearance when the woman is aroused, usually becoming larger and either darker or brighter (think rosier) in color as blood rushes to the area. Because these inner lips are more sensitive than the outer lips, your attentions will likely be rewarded if you gently lick, suck, and kiss all around here, paying attention to her responses. One good move is to slowly trace a line from her vagina up to the spot just below her clit, moving your tongue (or your wet or lubed finger) between her pussy lips, parting them as you go. This is a nice teasing move that helps you gauge her response. Does she try to move you faster? Push you up toward her clit? Sigh and lie back to enjoy what youre doing? Pay attention and follow her lead to give her the most pleasure!