Jacob and Michelle Clark - Erectile Dysfunction: What Worked For Us

What Worked for Us

By Jacob and Michelle Clark

This is a chronicle of a very personal journey. It is not intended to be a recommendation for any specific products meant to assist with erectile function, nor to advocate for or against any specific method of treatment. It is merely a chronicle of the things which helped us overcome our own problem with ED, in the hope that others may benefit from our experiences.

Copyright 2017 by Jacob and Michelle Clark

FOREWARD

By Darrell Maloney, Author

Ive known Jacob and Michelle for over half my life. Jacob was in the Army stationed in Kaiserslautern, West Germany, when I was in the Air Force stationed at nearby Spangdahlem.

Yes, I said West Germany. In those days the country was still divided. We were lucky enough to be there when the wall came down in 1989.

Sometimes Army and Air Force people dont mix well. Theyre frequently like oil and water. But our two families were neighbors in the town of Wittlich and became fast friends.

When they asked me to write the foreward to their new book I jumped at the chance. You see, I got an early look at it and knew it was going to be a best seller someday.

The book is a bit gritty and frank sometimes. But then again, its talking about a very serious subject.

Despite that, the authors managed to make it very entertaining as well as informative. Its roughly equal parts humor and serious advice. And chock full of little tidbits I never would have thought of.

But which may well help you conquer what they call the ED monster.

Im going on record here and now by saying this book will soon be the go-to Bible for every couple suffering the effects of erectile dysfunction.

Yes, its that good.

Enjoy.

OKAY, WHERE DO WE START?

Erectile dysfunction continues to be a very personal and very troubling crisis.

It shouldnt be. For its as normal as any other medical condition.

We wouldnt be ashamed because we were stricken with migraine headaches or varicose veins. Yet men are generally ashamed when stricken with the inability to obtain and maintain an erection. We feel as though were somewhat les of a man than we once were. Like our virility has left our lives forever.

And even worse, we feel as though weve let our loved one down.

It doesnt have to be that way.

For all three of those things: the migraines, the varicose veins and the erectile dysfunction, are all perfectly normal, and treatable in a variety of ways.

We need to stop being stigmatized by a condition which occasionally strikes half of men over age forty five. Seventy six percent of men over sixty.

Its perfectly normal. And while we shouldnt embrace it as we would our best friend, we should stop being ashamed of it.

Rather, we should expect it and have a course of action ready when it strikes, so we can deal with it.

We need to get over our hesitancy to talk about it. Our doctors cant help us if they dont know about it.

Neither can our wives or girlfriends.

They are our best allies when it comes to dealing with this problem.

The good news most of us can be fixed, with a little tender loving care and patience from our spouses, and a willingness to be open and honest about our problem.

And a willingness to try a variety of methods of dealing with ED until we find one that works.

Thats the whole premise behind this book.

We (and we use that term because we considered it a problem to solve for both of us) have actually been there. We went through all the emotions, the frustration, the anger, the humiliation. We could have just given up on our sex life as so many people resign themselves to do.

But we didnt. Quite honestly, the sex thing, as we playfully started calling it long ago, was too big a part of our lives. We had too much fun doing it. Our sex life was wide-ranging and fun.

And it felt amazingly good.

It wasnt something we wanted to give up.

But weve always been frank and honest with one another. Its been the cornerstone of our relationship since day one.

Jacobs difficulty in having and maintaining an erection was causing us problems. We couldnt deny it. It was depriving us of one of the most intimate and personal pleasures a man and a woman can share.

So we spoke about it and we decided to treat it as we had every other problem wed faced in our marriage. We were going at it together, as a team, and we were going to fight it and win.

Erectile dysfunction, commonly known as ED, was a formidable opponent.

And truth be known we know the battle may not be over with. That it could rear its very ugly head again at a later date.

But for the time being, we beat it.

And for the time being, were celebrating by enjoying a very active sex life.

Not as active as we did in our twenties, but thats okay. Back then our bodies were younger and in better shape, and could handle the physical stress of rolling around on the bed (and the floor, and the kitchen counters) for hours on end and still get up and go to work the next day.

No, our sex life isnt like that, but then again it shouldnt be.

These days, every two or three nights, one or both of us get the urge to be intimate.

And these days, Jacobs body responds the way it once did, back in those days.

And its nice. For both of us.

This book is about our journey, from the early days when ED decided to take away something near and dear to us, to the time we decided to fight back, and then the various things we did to combat it.

This book will be frank, and will occasionally use frank language and details. But it should be frank, because were dealing with a very serious matter.

This book will provide you the reader some insight.

And perhaps some new ideas.

No one thing works for everyone. We all know that. But well discuss the things that worked for us, with the hope youll be willing to try some of them yourselves.

Perhaps you can banish that ugly monster from your lives and send him packing as we did.

Perhaps you too can, as we did, take your sex life back and go at it with a ferocity you thought was gone forever.

The premise of this book is a simple one.

There are an awful lot of tools and techniques available to help you combat your ED problem.

Some work very well for some or most, but not at all for others.

Some work very poorly for most, but very well for just a few.

Some youve likely never even heard of.

Some perhaps youve heard of, but never thought to try.

Were going to educate you so you know which tools are out there.

Were going to open your mind and get you to consider all the tools available.

Were all different. The trick is to consider all the tools, and to find the tools which will work best for you. They may not be the same tools that work for the next guy, or the ones which worked for us.

But theyre out there. If you keep an open mind and are willing to try the things well discuss, were confident we can help.

FIRST, A LITTLE BIT ABOUT US

From Jacob:

Im fifty eight years old. Ive been fascinated with the human mind for as long as I can remember. Specifically the way it controls and interacts with us physiologically. How the body and the mind work together to help us deal with things.

Ive always been a passionate person. I was a boy who saved my pennies and my nickels, and who went out and got a paper route when I was twelve. Not because I was necessarily an ambitious young man.

No, rather because I needed the money. My family was rather poor, you see, and giving their children money for an allowance wasnt something my parents were willing to do. If I wanted money, I had to earn it.