Taormino - The secrets of great G-spot orgasms and female ejaculation: the best positions and latest techniques for creating powerful, long-lasting full-body orgasms

The Secrets of Great

G SPOT ORGASMS
AND FEMALE EJACULATION

THE best POSITIONS AND LATEST TECHNIQUES FOR
CREATING powerful, long-lasting, full-body ORGASMS

TRISTAN TAORMINO

2011 Quiver

Text 2011 Tristan Taormino

Photography 2011 Quiver

First published in the USA in 2011 by

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ISBN-13: 978-1-59233-456-8

ISBN-10: 1-59233-456-3

Digital edition published in 2011

Digital edition: 978-1-61058-154-7
Softcover edition: 978-1-59233-456-8

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Anatomical drawings 2010 by Katie Diamond and Tristan Taormino Enterprises, Inc.

Book design by Traffic Design Consultants Ltd.

Photography by Holly Randall Photography

Printed and bound in Singapore

CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION

LET YOUR G-SPOT ADVENTURE BEGIN

Ive been writing and teaching about sex for fifteen years, and during that time, Ive taught hundreds of workshops around the world to all different kinds of people. Sometimes, I have the pleasure of leading a hands-on class in which I lecture first, and then participants get to try out techniques. I once taught a G-spot class to fifty couples at a private event. After I explained about anatomy, arousal, stimulation techniques, positions, and female ejaculation, they were free to explore.

One woman asked me, Is it possible that I just dont have a G-spot? Ive looked and cant find it! I worked with her and her partner, who confessed he wasnt sure what to do. He slid his fingers inside her vagina, and I talked him through until he found it. I encouraged him to apply more pressure to the area, and suddenly she squeeled, Oh! Thats it! Later that evening, she approached me and said, Weve been together for fifteen years. After your workshop, we went back to our room, and I had a totally different kind of orgasm. It was amazing! Youve changed my sex life! I treasure those experiences in which I get to make a real difference in peoples erotic lives.

In recent articles about the G-spot, Cosmopolitan Magazine raved Have Your Best Orgasm! Mens Health promised Be Her Best Ever! and Playboy touted Female Orgasm Mysteries Revealed! If you got all your sexual information from magazine headlines, youd think the G-spot were some kind of holy grail, the answer to all your sexual questions and then some. Im going to burst your bubble: Its not. Too often, especially in mainstream media, the G-spot has been positioned as trendy, hip, and the key to the best sex of your life. It isnt.

The workshops I teach and this book dont perpetuate that illusion. I wrote this book to educate by providing real, useful information. I did it to validate womens experiences and help them better understand their bodies. I did it to open women up to all the diverse possibilities of pleasure at their fingertips.

One of the important accomplishments of Alice Kahn Ladas, Beverly Whipple, and John Perry, authors of The G-Spot, was that they gave a name to this pleasure center. Naming it helped demystify it and support womens own sexual experiences. Ill talk more about how the G-spot got its name and some of the controversies surrounding it in , Ill give you a road map to help you visualize female sexual anatomy and how the G-spot fits in. Learning about the G-spotwhat it is, where it is, how it works, and what it can dois the first step toward a better understanding of our bodies and the potential for erotic enjoyment they hold. This knowledge contributes to broadening our ideas about erogenous zones, pleasure, and sexual satisfaction. It can support some of the feelings and experiences youve already had.

At another one of my workshops, a woman told me that nearly every one of her orgasms had come from clitoral stimulation. It could be oral sex, rubbing with her hand, or using a vibrator, but, as she said, My clit always has to be in the mix. Then she told a story about how once she was masturbating with an insertable vibrator and she came without stimulating her clitoris. I dont know if it was the toy, a certain angle, or what. I dont remember what was so different that time. It was such an intense feeling, and I want to know how to experience it again!

Hers is a story Ive heard from plenty of women. They seemingly stumble on a new kind of orgasm after being dedicated clit girls for years, but theyre not sure how to replicate it. Theres a good chance these women had G-spot orgasms. In fact, when women learn more about their G-spots and try different stimulation techniques, they discover they can make it happen again..

Educating yourself about the G-spot can help illuminate a new area of your sexuality to explore. Learning how to target this sensitive area can bring you something new to enjoy during masturbation and partnered sex. As you try different techniques, positions, and toys, youll find out what works for you. That information can help connect you and your partner and enhance your sexual relationship. Find out more about G-spot stimulation during partnered sex (including the connection between the G-spot and anal sex) in .

Plenty of women find that having an orgasm during vaginal intercourse is a challenge. Dr. Elisabeth Lloyd, professor of biology at Indiana University and author of The Case of the Female Orgasm: Bias in the Science of Evolution, analyzed thirty-two studies, conducted over a period of seventy-four years, of the frequency of female orgasm during intercourse. She concluded that when intercourse did not include clitoral stimulation, only a quarter of the women studied experienced orgasms often or very often during intercourse.to be able to climax from it, learning about your G-spot is an important piece of the puzzle. For many women, trying positions that offer access to the G-spot and concentrate stimulation on the G-spot can increase your chances of an orgasm during intercourse with your partner.

Some women say that a G-spot orgasm is one of several types of orgasms they experience and it definitely feels distinct from other types. Some report it provides a deeper, all-over body feeling than a clitoral orgasm does. Others describe it as a powerful release that resonates throughout their bodies, not just between their legs. Still others assert that their G-spot orgasms last longer than other orgasms. And, yes, some women say its the best orgasm of their lives. G-spot orgasms are possible, desirable, and even preferable for some (but not all) women. Read more about these types of orgasmsand how to increase your chances of having onein .