Taylor - Soar to Ecstasy at Your Lovers Every Touch

Copyright 2001, 2014 by Patricia Taylor

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Taylor, Patricia, 1953

Expanded orgasm : soar to ecstasy at your lovers every touch / Patricia Taylor, PhD. 2nd Edition.

pages cm

Includes index.

(trade paper : alk. paper) 1. Sex instruction for women. 2. Sex instructions for men 3. Orgasm. 4. Female orgasm. 5. Sexual excitement. I. Title.

HQ46.T245 2014

613.96dc23

2013028278

Contents

To Allen: may our passion ever grow

Acknowledgments

I have long held a vision near and dear to my heart that women and men everywhere could begin to share in some of the exquisite joys and pleasures we have been fortunate enough to bring into our own lives. I thank all those who have supported me in helping make this vision a reality.

With deep appreciation I want to acknowledge in particular some of the people who have helped me bring my vision to fruition.

First and foremost, I thank my loving husband and partner of many years, Allen. From the beginning, Allen has let me know that giving me pleasure is one of his greatest joys in life. He has taught me to value my own wants and desires. Allens passion, enthusiasm, and commitment to expanded orgasm has infused me with a lifelong foundation of security, happiness, and pleasure. It has been a joy to connect, play, and teach with him.

Next, I thank Jim Heynemann for our many years of friendship and success in working together. His gifts as a brilliant teacher were priceless, and were evident to all who knew him. I am deeply grateful for the privilege of knowing Jim and working with him.

I thank my dear friend and teacher Lori Star for all she has taught me about Tantra. To this day, Lori inspires me to progress ever forward through her own teaching, her love, her encouragement, and her friendship. I also thank Celebrations of Love in Marin County, California. This community continues to nurture my soul deeply.

Thank you, Victor Baranco and the many gifted teachers at Lafayette Morehouse for the awesome quality and quantity of information you have developed and shared on extended orgasm, relationship, community, communication, and pleasure. My life has been deeply and permanently transformed as a result of studying with you and meeting so many people in this wonderful community.

Thank you, Bill Lamond, for taking such a stand for turn-on and pleasure in the world. I am constantly amazed and inspired by your vision, integrity, and foresight, as well as your brilliance and warmth.

I thank Osho for his ever-present words of inspiration on Tantra and other great religious traditions of the world. Thank you for opening my awareness even further to the great power of spirituality and the variety of ways in which this precious energy can be experienced and enjoyed.

I thank Stan Dale and the Institute for Human Awareness for your information and your community. You have been instrumental in opening me up to the riches of intimacy and the beauty and power of win/win relating, in, as they say, a world in which everyone wins.

I thank all my friends and clients who have taught me more than I can ever fully acknowledge here. Know that you live in my heart and that you teach me just as much as I could ever teach in return.

I am grateful to David Todd and Virginia Jenny for their editing assistance with the updated edition of this book.

Finally, I thank my agent, Carolyn Grayson, for believing in this project when it was little more than a query letter; and my editor, Deb Werksman, for seeing the potential in this book from the start. Her vision for the potential of this book, plus her enthusiastic encouragement and skillful editing, have played an essential role in her bringing this book into print.

Introduction

What would it be worth to you if you could do something to reliably and dramatically enhance your well-being, give you great pleasure, improve the way you feel about yourself, and practically guarantee a great relationship? And suppose it were legal, free, and readily available? What would you do to seek out this something? Would it be worth hunting down and learning? Would it be worth getting those you love to share it with you?

In this book youll discover that magic something. Its called expanded orgasm.

This book is for those who want their lives to be filled with the many benefits of expanded orgasm. Building upon and far beyond regular orgasm, expanded orgasm is practiced by a surprising number of women and men who find deep fulfillment in it.

Orgasm is not an easy subject to talk about, and to discuss a dramatically enhanced kind of orgasm presents new challenges. To illustrate and help you achieve the benefits of expanded orgasm, Ill tell stories about the practices and results of women and men who frequently engage in it. More specifically, you will follow two couplesSam and Linda, and Kelly and Jasonthrough ten expanded orgasm lessons. You will see how each couple enjoys great benefits for themselves and their relationships.

REPORTED BENEFITS FROM EXPANDED ORGASM:

Knowing I can expand so pleasurably and immediately gives me a tremendous feeling of power and calm.

This experience makes me look and feel younger.

Its a kaleidoscope of delicious feelings, thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations.

I feel refreshed, renewed, even reborn afterward.

This practice has immensely increased my sense of well-being and self-worth.

People who used to barely notice me now find me intoxicating. They can sense how orgasmic I am without my saying a word or acting any particular way.

This book will help you understand what this remarkable experience is and how it is different from regular orgasm. As you read each lesson, youll learn how to achieve and enjoy expanded orgasm, step by step. I assume you are working with a partner with whom you have a basically good relationship. However, much can be learned on your own, especially in the first four lessons. This can also be a fun path to explore together in a new relationship. Lets get started!

Orgasms: Can We Talk?

Orgasm. The very word evokes deep emotions. What energetic crosscurrents do you feel as the word resonates through you?

Youve been told that your orgasms are important. Or maybe youve been told that they are unimportant and that you should instead focus on the emotional connection with your partner. Youve compared yours with others, or at least with what others have told you, to descriptions in sex manuals, and with benchmarks promoted by magazines (dont tell me you havent!). It seems like a lot of fuss for eight to twelve muscular contractions, eight-tenths of a second apart.