Helena Nista - Legendary Lover: 6 Essential Steps to Having Great Sex

Nistas book is a burst of light on a subject too often complicated by doubt, anxiety or ignorance. And for anyone interested in experiencing freer, deeper pleasure in sex, she is the perfect guide joyous, highly knowledgeable, compassionate and fun.

Philip Shepherd, embodiment expert and author of New Self New World

This book is a must-read for anyone interested in conscious sexuality. With raw honesty and without holding anything back, Helena outlines her journey of sexual healing, providing countless tips and exercises to help others do the same. This book will be an amazing resource for people new to tantra, as well as experienced practitioners and therapists.

Dr Richard Chambers, Clinical Psychologist & Mindfulness Expert

Legendary Lover is moving, eloquent, courageous, insightful and inspiring, and skilfully blends personal experience and practical wisdom with clarity, subtlety and warmth.

Graeme Piercy, clinical psychologist and sex therapist

This book is a touching and enlightening journey of a courageous womans path to sexual awakening. Relatable and timely, Nista reveals candid insights from her direct experience, and offers valuable practices for curious seekers.

Stephanie Phillips, conscious sexuality coach

Helena holds space gently and with confidence, and has a versatile range of approaches to draw from. In the work that I have done with her she has proved knowledgeable, professional and in high integrity qualities that are so important in this field.

Austin in Melbourne, client

This book is not intended as a substitute for the medical advice of physicians. The reader should regularly consult a physician in matters relating to his/her health and particularly with respect to any symptoms that may require diagnosis or medical attention.

I have tried to recreate events, locales and conversations from my memories of them. In order to maintain their anonymity in some instances I have changed the names of individuals and places, I may have changed some identifying characteristics and details such as physical properties, occupations and places of residence.

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Published 2017 by Independent Ink

PO Box 1638, Carindale

Queensland 4152 Australia

Helena Nista 2017

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Cover design by Alissa Dinallo

Typeset in 11/16 pt Dante by Post Pre-press Group, Brisbane

Cataloguing-in-Publication data is available from the National Library of Australia

ISBN 978 0 9954 1941 4 (pbk)

ISBN 978 0 9954 1945 2 (mobi)

ISBN 978 0 9954 1946 9 (epub)

Table of contents

INTRODUCTION

This book was written for men; however, it is also a great resource for women who wish to understand men better sexually and who want to enrich their own sexual experience. I wrote it from my own female perspective and the examples I describe here come from my own life. This is why I keep referring to men and women. However, the techniques, tools and skills I am teaching here are equally applicable to people who identify as gender fluid and who subscribe to any form of sexual orientation. If the male/female dynamic does not apply to you, please feel free to replace these terms with masculine/feminine energy or even active/receptive partners.

The book is based on my experience with my partners, lovers and my sessions with clients. In my pursuit to understand sex and to understand men, I spent countless hours studying men, teaching them, listening to them and making love to them. Over the last three years, I have coached over a thousand clients, teaching them how to be masterful lovers and listening to their feedback and experiences. I have also gone to extreme lengths to educate myself about the art of sex while practicing everything that I was learning about. But aside from all the books, videos, trainings and workshops I was attending, my lovers and my clients were my best teachers, opening up to me about their struggles, challenges and aspirations as lovers.