The Art of
the Approach:
The A Game
Guide to Meeting
Beautiful Women
By Logan Edwards
Sweetleaf Publishing
Los Angeles, CA
The A Game Guide to Meeting Beautiful Women
Published by
Sweetleaf Publishing
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www.theagame.net
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Introduction
Chapter 1: The Problem
Chapter 2: Confidence
Chapter 3: Standards
Chapter 4: Body Language
Chapter 5: Approaching
Chapter 6: Classic Openers
Chapter 7: Opinion Openers
Chapter 8: Chump Openers
Chapter 9: Teasing Openers
Chapter 10: Cold Reading Openers
Chapter 11: Wingman Openers
Chapter 12: Routine Openers
Chapter 13: Prop Openers
Chapter 14: Direct Openers
Chapter 15: Balls-Out Openers
Chapter 16: Make Your Own Openers
Introduction
Meeting people is easy. Whoever coined that phrase should be beaten because its not easy. If it were, this book wouldnt exist and you wouldnt be reading it. So lets get this out of the way: approaching women, specifically attractive women, is nerve-wracking and rarely easy. This is true for you and for millions of other men. You are not alone, so dont ever feel awkward about making improvements on such an important aspect of your life.
Most men find approaching attractive women to be anywhere from difficult to near impossible. For many, its the sole barrier that prevents them from meeting women and developing relationships, whether romantic or purely sexual. Even shy guys tend to open up once they get past those awkward first few minutes of conversation, but if they never have the courage to approach, it might never happen.
Men are notorious for thinking of reasons why they shouldnt approach women. From not knowing what to say, feeling theyre not in a womans league or the usual fear of rejection, men are their own worst enemies when it comes to meeting women. When you use excuses to avoid approaching, you give up before youve even tried. You probably already know this, but starting now, youre going to do something about it.
Mastering the Art of the Approach was written specifically for guys who have trouble with the first few minutes it takes to approach and meet women. For most, once you get through the initial introduction, your anxieties subside and you can be your usual attractive self. However, when it comes to those nerve-wracking minutes leading up to and including your first conversation, a lot of guys draw a complete blank.
With this book, youre going to learn how to breeze through the first few minutes of an interaction beginning with your mental state, then your body language and, of course, the actual words you use to break the ice. Where that conversation leads is up to you, but youll at least know how to create opportunities for yourself. The initial approach and conversation is also known as an Opener and it involves much more than the words you say, at least if you want your approach to be effective.
To Open someone is to walk up to a stranger and start a conversation. This textbook definition of Opening could apply to any gender in just about any circumstance, but in this book it means Opening women with a goal of developing attraction, otherwise known as chemistry. The ability to consistently Open is what sets apart chumps from pickup artists, and its a skill few are born with. Fortunately, its a skill that can be learned, practiced and mastered and youre about to learn how its done.
Starting now, youve got some verbal training wheels that give you something to say for just about any situation; no over-thinking required. However, once you know what to say, you should focus on how you present yourself and deliver your Opener. In fact, youre going to learn the reasons why how you say things, especially when you initially meet someone, plays a far more important role than what you say.
A lot of guys wrack their brains thinking of just the right thing to say so they seem cool, interesting, charming, confident and above all, attractive. Thats a lot to demand from mere words, but thats what many guys expect. Its this very need to accomplish certain objectives in just a few sentences that trip guys up and send red flags to women that something isnt quite right.
When a guy appears seemingly out of nowhere and talks fast about something that makes a woman think, What does this have to do with me? or This guy just wants to get in my pants , shes usually going to shut him down. If youve occasionally approached women in the past, you may have been that guy. You most likely spent a lot of time thinking and over-thinking precisely what you should say in the hopes that a woman would be interested enough to keep talking to you.
Beyond words, there are a few other elements that add up to an effective approach and any one of them can make or break an interaction. Not making eye contact, standing too far away, talking too fast and keeping your hands in your pockets all communicate body language that most women instinctively recognize. More often than not, women are so caught up in the dozens of meta-messages you send that they dont even pay attention to your words; thats how unimportant they are.
All of these meta-messages you probably never knew you were signaling are important to women, so they need to be important to you too. If a woman feels uncomfortable when you approach, its over. You cant talk or reason your way out of the fact that something youre doing doesnt seem right, and your words will only compound the problem. However, as long as you can memorize a few scripts, you wont have to think much about what you say, but instead focus on your body language and how you deliver your Openers.
Maybe you thought all you needed was that one killer line and now you have all of these other elements to consider. However, once you really nail the other aspects of your approach you wont have to think about them. Thats the goal of this book: to turn off your analytical brain and let your body do the talking, so you can meet interesting people and enjoy yourself. You have to trust that everything will fall into place once you learn how to be your best self and have a good time, no matter what youre doing.
