Charlie Valentino - Destroy Approach Anxiety. Direct Day Game Method

T hank you for picking up your copy of Destroy Approach Anxiety by me, Charlie Valentino .

Firstly, what is this book not ?

This book is not a comprehensive pick up guide detailing all the methods you need to pick up and sleep with hundreds of women. Those books already exist in abundance; some are great and some not so much. You bought this guide primarily because the phrase Approach Anxiety is in the title. This most likely means youve already heard of the term approach anxiety (AA) so Im guessing youve already read at least a few books on the subject of pick up or game. It is for this reason that here, we wont be wasting time going over the same stuff all over again, especially since its one of my beliefs that the overloading of information into our heads, especially when were starting out in pick up, is one of the fundamental causes of AA .

So, what is this book actually about ?

This book is primarily concerned with helping you overcome that first common stumbling block after having already entered the world of pick up. Of course, for the vast majority of us sane individuals, the first place we stumble is the approach .

But before reading any further, Id like you to understand and accept that at some point very soon, you will have to venture out into the field and do some work to get over this. That is your goal, after all. My job is to help make that first, most difficult part of pick up as easy as possible for you, so you can then enjoy what comes after .

No matter where you are at this moment in time, you can trust me when I say Ive been there too. Thereve been times Ive travelled to other cities with the express intention of picking up women in a place where nobody would recognise me, only to allow my inner cowardice to take over at every opportunity, using a dozen different excuses not to go through with it; a journey, money and time investment wasted .

Ive done my time, spending hours and hours walking around my home town looking for targets to approach; only to chicken out time and time again whenever I saw a beautiful girl. Believe me when I say, youre not alone .

Its amazing just how many pick up books there are out there now. However, Im not aware of any books, good ones at least, that deal precisely with AA. Even the best pick up artists (PUAs) in the world started out at the bottom at some point and there was a time when they all experienced AA. So Im hoping youll find this guide to be somewhat unique to the other books in existence .

Who am I ?

My names Charlie Valentino and Im an author of several self-help guides for men, which you can find linked at the end of this book. I also have a string of romance novels published under a few different pen names, so you can say Im pretty well versed with the inner workings of the female mind. I also have an interest in anthropology, the history of human evolution, which allows me to place and see pick up within a biological and historical context, which can help immensely. I hope that proves my credentials because other than the above, Im just a regular guy, same as you, a regular guy whos experienced the exact same problems with regards to approaching women, seeing them, desiring nothing more than wanting to speak with them, being caught in two minds over what to do before taking the easier option of inaction and then feeling like shit for the rest of the day for passing up an opportunity that could well have changed my life .

Ive been there .

But I changed .

And I hope to help you change too. Thats what this book is about .

So, lets begin .

W e all know the feeling. You see a beautiful girl sitting on a bench, at the coffee shop, in the street, at the shopping mall or in a bar and all you want to do is approach her and say hi .

However, we dont make the approach right away .

Why not ?

Because the first thing we do is look around us to see who else might be close enough to eavesdrop, to judge us, possibly even film us on their smartphones. Were already thinking about what might happen if we do something so socially unacceptable such as walk up to a complete stranger in the middle of the day and start a regular conversation with her .

And as soon we begin to think about it, its already too late !

Typically, the excuses continue, we make them in our own heads and they always make us feel better because it removes the responsibility from us .

Its not my fault, there are too many people around her and theyll overhear our conversation, so Id better not speak to her. Shes on the phone and it looks important, it would be rude to disturb her. Shes chatting with her friend so Ill wait until she goes to the bathroom to make my approach, everything will be all right then .

When Im at the coffee shop - Its far too awkward to talk to her while were both in line, so Ill wait until were both seated but only if she sits somewhere away from other people, that is. Besides, I dont look my best today, I left the house in a shitty pair of jeans and my trainers arent as clean as they could be, so its ok if I leave this one, therell be others, tomorrow Ill wear my best clothes to go out in .

But now shes leaving, I fucked up and now Im sure to feel really bad for the rest of the day .

Considering everything, was it really worth not approaching her ?

Especially considering I cant even remember whatever excuse I used, though in truth it was probably one of the usuals .

And guess what ?

Tomorrow Ill do it all over again, only this time with a fresh set of excuses, which will probably be similar to the others .

Im sure all this is familiar to you. Its common and normal. After all, approaching hot girls weve never before seen is not something we grew up regularly doing because if it was, you wouldnt be reading this book. Dont you remember a time when you assumed everything was meant to get easier? Its not like talking to Mum or going for a walk, but instead its more like jumping from a plane or speaking in front of a large group. However, just like learning to drive, by doing it often enough youll naturally transition from being nervous at first to being reasonably confident and competent .

But, of course, that takes practice .

However, theres no reason you shouldnt enjoy getting good .

I m sure youll recognise the following symptoms from the last time you were debating making an approach :

• 1. Sweaty palms
• 2. Watering eyes
• 3. Heavy heart beat
• 4. Faster breathing
• 5. Dizziness
• 6. Sick feeling in the stomach
• 7. Feeling of nerves and discomfort
• 8. Paranoia that everybody is staring