Bruce Lengeman - To Kill a Lion

Due to the nature of the book, the names are withheld.

PASTOR

Ive been giving the book away or encouraging others to buy it for months. Several weeks ago, one of my spiritual sons brought me his marked up copy with a plea that I help him pray through the 8 Rs. Within a week, his estranged mother miraculously came back into his life for a visit, and he found the anger was gone, that forgiveness had truly happened and his sexual struggle had changed.

MINISTRY ADMINISTRATOR

I am eternally grateful to our Lord for how powerfully He used Brother Bruce and this unique ministry in my life. Through Bruces quiet confidence and gentle grace, I was able to navigate through the darkness of bondage to sexual sin. The heart of his message to me was that my battles would never be overcome without Jesus working in me through the fellowship and prayers of other men. The real breaking point though, was when I included my wife in the secret war I was waging and the JESUS in her reaffirmed real love and acceptance for me. Now we are no longer prey to Satans isolation tactics.

BIBLE COLLEGE PRESIDENT

The book had a large impact on me. I am deeply appreciative of your humble attitude and very powerful ministry. In all of my years of counseling, I have never met or read of anyone with the revelation that you have concerning unresolved pain and its relation to sexual behavior.

COUNSELING THERAPIST/AUTHOR

Hallelujah! Finally a book that really teaches about lasting healing! This belongs in the hands of all pastors and Christian counselors, as this should be the go to handbook for helping those in sexual bondage. Bruce ignores traditional behavioral modification and teaches the reader how to get right to the root issue. This root holds the core belief that manifests itself in unhealthy sexual behaviors. Once this root is uncovered, Bruce teaches the eight Rs of how to destroy this root and heal the wound. This, of course, can only be done with our Healer & Redeemer, Jesus Christ.

PASTOR

Wow, what an anointed book my brother! This is the best and most straight to the point book on addictions, especially sexual, that Ive read. You hit the enemy where it didnt cripple but killed, you hit it right on, and the lion can be killed!! Your fresh approach is so honest and insightful to those of us who are regularly ministering to men with bad roots. Your transparency releases my faith personally and for every guy who reads the book.

WIFE OF READER

On your invoice you said you want feedback. Well my husband is sooo excited about this book that he wants a case. He said, Honey, there are so many men that need this book Ive got to start giving them away!

READER

I told you I would contact you about your book to let you know how it is working for me, and I just wanted to let you know that I have discovered healing in the process of addressing my pain and talking to my parents. I am not finished with the book, but I have already begun to assess and practice some of the main points in the book and can stand as a witness that your words are 100% truth. I have no greater desire than to please God, honor my wifes heart, my childs heart, and reject Satan in the name of Jesus Christ. Not only has this book helped me to change my sexual immoral ways and address them, but it has allowed me a renewed life in Christ and a huge improvement in my marriage.

READER

I read your book in about three days. My understanding of the whole subject was broadened by it and how my sexuality affects me. I am somewhere near the beginning of my journey in this, but I definitely believe that it is a good start. Looking forward to what God will continue to show me.

WIFE OF READER

The first thing I want to say is - THANK YOU! Your purity teaching, Bruce, was transforming for my husband. We had received some help along the way and some things had changed, but something was different this time around. He was FREE. He was out of the cage--never to return! He has walked freely since then. It was such a gift to me as his wife. I see him wrestling with what God is saying about Him instead of what the wounds have said to him for too long. I see him walking in a new confidence. THANK YOU! THANK YOU!

You Can Be Free!

The first section of this book will explore foundational concepts and principles related to sexual dependency.

Life is Difficult.

Ive always loved those famous words that open M. Scott Pecks classic, The Road Less Traveled. He writes that once we truly accept the fact that life is difficult, it no longer matters that life is difficult. For now we can buckle down and begin solving our problems.

Because life is difficult, many people have tried to find escape from the complexities and sorrows of life through the temporary fixes we call addictions. The choices are numerousfrom eating to working, spending to drinking, gambling to smoking.

Today, though, we deal with those who, to different degrees, find their fixes through sex.

For example, one morning on the news they showed a man who sexually abused a little girl. He had just been caught.

Though in no way would I ever attempt to mellow the despicable thing this man did, I wondered if down inside he hated the thing that drove him to be a sexual monstersomething over which he seemed to have no control.

Many years ago, I saw a very high-profile, dignified man being led away to jail by police because of child pornography. His words pierced me. He said, Thank God, the nightmare is over! Here was a man who was slave to a horrible addiction that deep in his heart he hated with a passion.

Many of you know what I am talking aboutmaybe most of you.

Why do I do this? I cant stop!

Never Cured?

Also, on this same morning news cast, a sex counselor discussed the Tiger Woods adultery scandal. The host asked the counselor if Tiger had been in rehab long enough to be cured of his admitted sexual addiction. The counselor sharply corrected the host, Cure is a word we never use. He is recovering and will be recovering the rest of his life.

I assure you that Jesus Christ delivers more hope than this high-profile counselor. Ive experienced His victory. Ive met multitudes who have moved well beyond recovery. If you fail to address the roots of your addiction, then, yes, always recovering is as far as you will get, but if you let Truth heal you, you can someday kiss your addiction goodbye for the last time. Listen to what Jesus said, You shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. Therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed (John 8:32, 36).

Hallelujah! He gave us hope beyond perpetual recovery.

I didnt write this book to tell you how to merely cope with your addiction, but how, through Christ Jesus, to overcome it.

Are You Willing to be Stretched?

Many years ago, something radical happened to me in my counseling office that began an incredible journey to sexual freedom. At first my wife, Ruthie, knew nothing of it. So much happened in the first week of my journey! I found a radical new perspective that rocked me to the coreone that I didnt think Ruthie could handle.

I thought it would be at least three years until Ruthie would be able to handle it--perhaps when I got totally freethough, there was still a good chance I would never tell her. One week later, I told her everything. A big part of my initial healing was to admit to Ruthie that there was something out of alignment in my sexual compartment.

Inside, though, I sensed that my journey wasnt just for meit was for Ruthie also. But, before I told Ruthie the initial details of my journey, I asked her the question, Are you willing to be stretched?