Ian Kerner - So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives

From breaking out of a sex rut to managing mismatched libidos, Ian Kerner is at the forefront of giving us fresh, sexy solutions to classic sex problems.

Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity

Even in therapy, sex seems like the one topic people need to talk about most but dont know how. Thankfully, renowned sex therapist Ian Kerner has come to the rescue for everyone who has wanted more out of their erotic life but felt stuck, confused, or just plain frustrated. Combining decades of clinical research and real peoples stories, this elucidating guidebook is a must-read for anyone interested in creating a richer, deeper romantic life. There is warmth, compassion, and clarity on every page.

Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Ian Kerner is a voice of equal parts compassion and logic. He speaks equally to men and to women, equally to people with great sex lives and people who are struggling. Ians work is essential in the world of sex-positive writing.

Emily Nagoski, PhD, New York Times bestselling author of Come As You Are and Burnout

Ian Kerners book is refreshingly informative. His compassion and kindness gently disarm shame, promoting the kind of communication and self-interrogation that are, ultimately, key to experiencing joy in sex.

Peggy Orenstein, New York Times bestselling author of Girls & Sex and Boys & Sex

What a fascinating book on the how-to of sexits packed with riveting data and great advice: Either youll be gratified that you are doing everything right or youll pick up a pile of truly valuable tips. Kerner is a wise manits a compelling read.

Helen Fisher, PhD, author of Anatomy of Love

Is the air you breathe oxygenated with a little bit of eroticism? asks bestselling author and sex therapist Ian Kerner. If it is, then you will savor this book, which, as the title indicates, invites us to look through the window of our last sexual experiences to illuminate our sex lives and what they could become. If it isnt, then you must buy this book today! Kerner has created another instant classic for individuals, couples, and their therapists who are willing to consider what last night could mean for tomorrow.

Peggy J. Kleinplatz, PhD, Professor, Faculty of Medicine, University of Ottawa, Canada

Based on real stories and linked by real data, Kerners So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex is a look into the sex lives of people that will serve to normalize, validate, and importantly, inspire! This book is for sex therapists, individuals seeking to improve their sex lives, and anyone who wants to turn good sex into great sex!

Lori A. Brotto, PhD, author of Better Sex Through Mindfulness

For any couple struggling to make sense of their fickle sex drives, dwindling desires, and disappointing sexual experiences, Dr. Kerners latest book is the first step towards living healthier, fulfilling, and more pleasurable sex lives. This book will transform not only the sexual relationship you have with your partners but the one you have with yourself. Its a must-read for anyone who is ready to let go of their limiting beliefs to make way for sexual discovery and satisfaction.

Emily Morse, Doctor of Human Sexuality, founder and CEO of Sex with Emily podcast

A masterpiece! Most people experience sexual difficulties at some point in their lives, and Kerners book is here to help people move through them to create more pleasurable, connecting, affirming sex lives. Highly recommended!

Debby Herbenick, PhD, author of Because It Feels Good

So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex is simply a delightful book! It tells you how to focus down and unpack your sexual dance and make it rock! More than this, its so easy to read: down-to-earth and so eminently practical. A great acquisition for anyone who wants to improve their sex life.

Sue Johnson, author of Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Ian Kerner is the real deal. In So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex, he uses the most essential form of communicationstorytellingto help couples follow the thread from their stuck, unsatisfying scripts back to the deep tender core of vulnerability that underlies them. Filled with practical exercises, Kerner addresses an array of sexual challenges and shows how they can become opportunities for erotic growth. He also inspires his readers to expand their erotic repertoire through flexibility, creative imagination, and more meaningful sexual conversations with themselves and their partners. I cant think of a more hopeful, humane, and knowledgeable guide for navigating the sometimes-vexing impasses of couple sex.

Daphne de Marneffe, PhD, author of The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together

Kerner dusts off the traditional concept of a sex script and polishes it to a high sheen. In his hands, this humble tool becomes a powerful key to deeper sexual aliveness. This is a highly original book. Its also playful, deeply personal, unfailingly kind, and clearly a labor of love. I cant think of any other sex writer who can discuss Aristotles