Praise forTheRelationship Fix
Anyone who wants to improve theirrelationship should read this book. Dr. Jenn shares the roadmap to resolvingthe most common issues couples struggle with, using her no-holds-barred styleand lots of entertaining stories. She backs up her suggestions with clinicalexperience and the latest research.
John M. Gottman, Ph.D., author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Dr. Jenn Mann has written a truly insightfulbook! It looks at the spiritual and psychological reasons relationships runinto trouble and gives clear advice on what to do about them. A must-read.
Tracy McMillan, author of Why Youre Not Married... Yet: The Straight Talk YouNeed to Get the Relationship You Deserve
In this book, Dr. Jenn gives couples thetools to revolutionize their relationship. She talks about the things mosttherapists dont talk about and gives clear instructions that most therapistswont give you. This book puts the power to change your relationship in yourown hands where it belongs.
Phil Stutz, co-author, The Tools: TransformYour Problems into Courage, Confidence, and Creativity
TheRelationship Fix is like having Dr. Jenn walking beside you, sharing hertwenty plus years of time-tested proven ideas, exercises, techniques, andtherapies. Sexuality is one of the toughest areas for couples to talk about,and Dr. Jenn gives direction and ways to expand connection, communication, andconfidence, whether youve been together for two weeks or two decades.
Lou Paget, bestselling author of How to Be A Great Lover: Girlfriend-to-GirlfriendTotally Explicit Techniques that Will Blow His Mind
I couldnt put it down! We all need The Relationship Fix and Dr. Jenn shows usexactly how to do it. This empowering book teaches us how to make lastingchanges to transform our relationships. Using research, moving stories, anddecades of real world clinical experience, Dr. Jenn has created a book thatcouples and singles need, right now, so that we can connect, fight fair, and jazzup our sex lives. Thank you Dr. Jenn!
Lisa Bloom, civil rights attorney andauthor of Think: Straight Talk for Women to StaySmart in a Dumbed-Down World
Ive witnessed Dr. Jenn work magic withcouples. The Relationship Fix will helpyou move mountains in yours.
Dr. Mike Dow, New York Times bestselling author of The Brain Fog Fix: Reclaim Your Focus, Memory, and Joyin Just 3 Weeks
Chock full of the latest research, mixedwith years of clinical experience and great common sense , The Relationship Fix has the power totransform your relationship and your life. With clarity and moving examples,Dr. Jenn Mann leads couples through everything from why its good for you to benice to how to spark up your sex life. Practical, accessible, and enjoyablea terrificbook for couples.
Terrence Real, author of The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know toMake Love Work
My way is do good to feel good. Dr. Jenns The Relationship Fix will help you feelgood to do good.
Dr. Patricia Allen, author ofGetting to I Do: The Secret to Doing Relationships Right!
Dr. Jenn is truly a gifted teacher on loveand romance, and once youve digested her wisdom, you can pretty much navigateany situation in your relationship. Shes a trusted guide who shares foundationalinsights, so your relationshipwith yourself and your partnercan thrive. Oh,and its also a really juicy read!
Kathy Freston, New York Times bestselling author of The One: Finding Soul Mate Love and Making it Last
This is the book I have been waiting for torecommend to the moms in my parenting groups! In TheRelationship Fix , Dr. Jenn teaches parents everything they need to knowto have a better relationship and be a relationship role model for their kids.
Jill Spivack, LCSW, Parenting Expert,Bravos There Goes the Motherhood , andbestselling author of The Sleepeasy Solution: TheExhausted Parent's Guide to Getting Your Child to Sleepfrom Birth to Age 5
In this fun readable book, Dr. Jenn sharesher unique gift for helping couples better their relationship. She will giveyou new insight, topnotch communication skills, and help you transform yourrelationship.
Laurie Ann Levin, PsyD, ACSGC, authorof Life in Life: Live Longer, Strengthen YourRelationships, and Create a Healthier Life
All parents and parents-to-be must read thisbook! Dr. Jenn teaches readers techniques that will make all relationships andfamilies stronger, more peaceful, and loving. Just what every parent needs toraise healthy and happy kids, and enjoy being a couple along the way!
Tanya Altmann, MD, FAAP, author of What to Feed Your Baby: A Pediatricians Guide to the11 Essential Foods to Guarantee Veggie-Loving, No-Fuss, Healthy-Eating Kids
Dr. Jenn Mann gives practical advice that(when followed) works! Her prescription for a healthy relationship is doled outwith compassion, humor, and candor.
Jenny Hutt, host of Just Jenny on SiriusXM
The Relationship Fix
Dr. Jenns 6-Step Guide to Improving
Communication, Connection & Intimacy
DR. JENN MANN
Host, VH1 Couples Therapy with Dr.Jenn and Bestselling Author
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Thisbook is dedicated to Eric Schiffer, the love of my life.
Youinspire me to be a better partner, a better therapist, and a better woman.
Iappreciate all you do to help me grow and heal.
Thankyou for appreciating who I am, what I do, and the core of my being.
Youare my bear, my white tiger, my soul mate, my everything.
Thisbook is my love letter to you.
Contents
Foreword
Couples have been around for thousands of years,but help for couples in the form of books and manuals that offered professionaladvice began to appear only around 1940. In this therapy literature, coupleswere viewed as individuals trying to have a good relationship, but failing.Viewed alternately as neurotic, immature, or lacking communication andproblem-solving skills, they were seen by separate therapists in separateoffices, who administered the cure. If you were deemed neurotic, you wouldgenerally be treated by a depth psychotherapist to uncover lost memories andhidden feelings. If you were deemed immature or relationally uneducated,therapy consisted of cognitively learning how to communicate, negotiate, andresolve conflict.