Cyndi Darnell - Sex When You Dont Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire

Cyndi Darnell is a sex and relationships therapist, clinical sexologist, and leading authority on desire and libido. Originally from Melbourne Australia, she now maintains a global practice from New York City where she offers consultations and coaching worldwide helping people resolve erotic quandaries and transform fear into freedom.

Writing a first book is no easy feat, and there were many people behind the scenes that supported me on this journey in a variety of ways.

Let me start with my deepest gratitude to my long-time friend and mentor in sexuality spaces, life, and most recently immigration, Barbara Carrellas. Your encouragement of my work in this space over so many years has meant the world to me and you continue to be my greatest ally, collaborator, and writer/righter of life. I love and appreciate you tremendously.

This book wouldnt exist without the initial encouragement of Catherine Deveny, writing coach, dream weaver, and creator of destinies. Thank you for believing in me right from the beginning. Look, I did it!

Thanks to my wife Elle Chase for encouraging me to get this out into the world and to continue despite the odds. Reminding me that writing is hard and editing is even harder, being a voice of reason, empathy, and encouragement.

Thanks to Lorna Hendry for the initial edits and Meg-John Barker for the labor of helping me with flow, context, and placement of content. Your sharp mind and knowledge of the content made traipsing out into my first book feel a lot less daunting. Thanks MJ.

Thanks to Doug Braun-Harvey for listening to my ideas and abstracts and supporting me in clarifying my teachings that form the content of this book. To David Ortmann for the encouragement to write and the support in creating the vision and helping me find my feet in New York City. To Jim Pfaus for the help in understanding the heady brain science. Thanks.

Gratitude to Alex Pitagora, Laura A. Jacobs, Kate Bornstein, and Eric G. Schneider for allowing me to talk about the book at length, its content, its context, and to hear my dilemmas over drinks, dinners, and strolls in the park. Your encouragement and patience are appreciated.

Extended gratitude to Dominic Davies and the gang at Pink Therapy UK for your unwavering support and recognition of my work over the years and faith in this book and its content.

To my mates and colleagues in Australia, the United States, and the UK. You saw and heard me bang on and on and on about this book for years. Finally, you get to read it and maybe even find it helpful. Hayley Caspers, Emma Eastman, Sam Jacob, Alicia Shevlin, Gala Vanting, Rebecca Wong, Kerrie Thompson-Mohr, Adam Bee, Marc Edwards, Janette Linden, Laurie Liss, Natalie Cohen, Spring Cooper, Christopher Fox, and Belinda Jackson. Thank you for your encouragement and support of my work and transition to the United States.

None of this book would have even been possible without my clients and supporters over the past 25 years. Thank you for sharing yourself with me so deeply that I could turn your wisdom into text to help and support others on their quest for erotic fulfillment.

And to Gomez. My Baby. I love you so much. Thanks for reminding me that walking in the park is the best activity ever... for bipeds and canines.

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