Kim Cattrall - Satisfaction: The Art of the Female Orgasm

Copyright 2002 by Kim Cattrall and Mark Levinson

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First eBook Edition: February 2003

ISBN: 978-0-446-54892-2

Illustrator: Fritz Drury

Designer: Midori Nakamura

Digital Imaging: Daniel Rutkowski

This book is intended for use by adults who are informed and want to invigorate and maintain a great sexual relationship. The authors are not medically trained and the reader is reminded that following these guidelines and new ideas is voluntary and at the readers own discretion. The positions and methodology presented herein are safe and satisfying for most adult men and women, however, every individual is different and you should not undertake any position or technique that is not suitable to your physical condition. You should consult a health care professional with any questions. Certain acts described in this book are illegal in some states and you should be aware of the laws in your state.

Our deepest thanks go to the models who contributed so much to this book.

The truth is that the majority of women do not have satisfyin sex lives, often because men dont understand womens sexual needs and sensitivities. Women want sexual fulfillment but are sometimes unsure about how to express their needs or improve their sex life. This book is designed to help men and women enhance their communication and love-making by giving them specific sexual techniques and knowledge. This will lead to honesty and complete sexual satisfaction.

Through straightforward suggestions and beautiful, sensual illustrations, this artful guide shows men and women exactly how to achieve orgasms. With detailed discussions of the intricacies of oral sex, intercourse, and practice techniques, it shows men how to create the most intense experience for their partnersand tells women how they can encourage their lovers to make it all happen.

This book is not really about sex. It is about love. Loving means caring, and what is more caring than wanting our lover or mate to experience the fullest expression of his or her sexuality? Many women will privately admit that their lovers do not know how to satisfy them fully. There are men who know how to bring a woman to orgasm, even repeatedly, but they are a small minority. This book is intended to help couples achieve the deepest sexual fulfillment. However, the text and drawings in this book are of limited value without strong feelings of the heart.

Anyone can learn techniques, but technique alone will not make a person a great lover. Each man and woman has specific preferences and needs, and each must develop great sensitivity and awareness for the other to reap the full benefits of the techniques they learn. When you try adapting the material in this book, remember that your true purpose is not to simply perform a physical act; it is to enable your lover to feel things more deeply, to let him or her experience release beyond expectations, and ultimately to bring you and your partner closer together psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually.

When a man fully satisfies a woman, he frees her from harboring negative feelings such as frustration, disappointment, and anger. Men should consider what it would be like to make love without ever achieving climax. The thought alone should be inspiration to leave no stone unturned in the quest to give her the utmost pleasure when making love.

When he fulfills her, her passion will be released and she will be naturally motivated to fulfill him. Ultimately, both the man and the woman will benefit from increased desire as they both enjoy satisfaction.

People often ask me if Im anything like the characters I play. Some people have even said that they assumed that for me to play a sexually open character, like Samantha Jones on HBOs Sex and the City, I must have had fabulous sex most of my life. Well, the truth is that until three years ago most of my sexual experiences were unfulfilling.

One purpose of this book is to debunk the myth that attractive women with sexy images have fabulous sex lives. The hype and glamour surrounding show business and the people in it reinforce that fiction. The parts an actor plays may have little to do with who she really is and how she feels. Many of the roles Ive playedusually sexually aware, no-nonsense galshave had nothing to do with me or what my life is really like. Quite frankly, these false images have, at times, interfered with my relationships and personal sexual satisfaction.

In my early thirties, I lamented to a girlfriend that many of the men I had been with seemed unaware of what could lead to sexual fulfillment for both of us. She cited the Rita Hayworth scenario, suggesting that perhaps my problems were due to men feeling that they were being intimate with an image they had seen on the screen and that when the real person appeared they were either disappointed or overwhelmed. Consequently, I was disappointed and unsatisfied, too.

I talked with friends, read books written by sex therapists, and sought professional help. I stood naked in front of the mirror learning to get in touch with my body. I studied diagrams that never fully explained where and how I could achieve orgasm with my partner. I turned forty. Id gone through two decades of unsatisfactory sexual relationships.

I had convinced myself that I just wasnt a sexual woman, and like my mother before me, I began to feel that sex really wasnt that important. To me, sex meant being physically dominated by a man and experiencing some pleasure through the act of penetration in intercourse, but never reaching orgasm with my partners. So, I resolved to put all my energy into my work and my family, and joined my single girlfriends in their common complaint of not being able to find any good men.

Then, in January of 1998, I met my husband, Mark. Since then, I have learned many things about communication, sexuality, and honesty. Ive also realized that one of the biggest limitations in sexual life is that many men dont know how to enable a woman to reach orgasm, and many women are not informed or confident enough to tell men what they need to do. Ive discovered that the whole subject is essentially taboo. No one wants to admit that millions of women have unsatisfactory sex lives and that most men do not know what to do about it.

When friends heard that Mark and I were writing a book about how to fulfill a woman, they first asked, Can I get a copy? and then, Why would you want to give away all your secrets? My response has always been this: Why should sexual knowledge be thought of as secret? Why should information to satisfy both sexes be hidden or left to chance? With all the books by doctors and therapists, why is it that so many people are still suffering from a lack of sexual fulfillment? Information and advice about sex can and should be shared in a clear, concise, and honest way, and thats what Mark and I hope to contribute with this book. Our intent is to share ideas, scenarios, and suggestions that will lead people to greater mutual sexual satisfaction.