Regina Lynn - Sexier Sex: Lessons from the Brave New Sexual Frontier

Have you ever wanted to dance sexy for a roomful of strangers in a safe environment and see what happened next?

Have you ever wanted to explore sides of your sexual self that youre not quite ready to reveal to your best friend?

Have you ever thought there might be a voyeur... a seductress... an erotic storyteller... a dominatrix... a polyamorous, polysexual goddess... lurking just beneath your nice girl exterior?

Of course you have. And so have thousands of women just like you.

Every day, we are exploring our sexuality in ways that have never before been available to us. And what were discovering can lead to greater satisfaction and pleasure in our love lives regardless of our relationship status or sexual orientation.

This book is a humorous guide with a serious purpose: helping you expand your sexual horizons in a safe, supportive way. You might choose to try all of the lessons included, or to start with just one. You can skip any that dont appeal to you, do them out of order, modify them to fit your preferences, pleasures, and circumstances.

I provide a wide variety of things to try and to think about. This is by no means an exhaustive list of what you can do with technology and sex. Think of it instead as a starting point to spark your own creative ideas for using your everyday gadgets and gizmos to enhance your relationships.

This book is not about getting yourself into trouble with your partner or giving you excuses to explore sexuality in ways that you know will cause hurt or harm to someone who loves you. Try not to slip into denial about how your actions affect your relationships, particularly if you have children.

This book is also not about fixing anything, either.

My guess is youre probably fine the way you are and youre reading this book because youre curious and want to have a good time. Many women have healed broken hearts, negative self-images, and sexual fears through the kinds of activities outlined in this book. Im one of them myself.

If youre not in a healthy place to have relationships then your relationships wont be healthy, whether online or off. But you can get to a healthy placeand some of these lessons might help you get there. But keep in mind, Im no doctor and this is no treatment program.

Ive spent the past dozen years experiencing, observing, and analyzing how technology influences romantic relationships, and I have to say, its not nearly as scary as the mainstream news would have you believe.

If you approach sex-tech with an open mind and a willingness to experiment, you can take these modern tools and add fun, pleasure, and intimacy to your sex life. After all, technology is never going to replace personal relationships, and no one with half a brain wants it to.

Instead we have an opportunity to play in new ways with an age-old game. Anything we dont like, we dont have to do or do again. But those things we do like? How wonderful to have the option!

Many of these lessons refer to specific websites, products, and services. These are the ones that I use; they are not the only examples, and they may not be the ones that you like best. The concepts apply across all brands, and in most cases the specific steps will be similar enough that it wont be difficult to adapt them to whichever equivalent you find yourself with.

Technology changes fast, and its possible that the products wording or design will have changed between press time and the moment you pick a lesson. Again, let the concepts guide you. Like sex, you cant always predict what is going to happen, so the best thing you can do is relax and embrace the unexpected.

One womans thrill is another womans chilland Im the last person who wants to yuk your yum. Still, in the interest of putting this book into some sort of organized order, Ive gathered the tutorials into categories: Self-Discovery, Flirting, Self-Expression, Just Looking, Love, Sex, Identity, and Safety. Each lesson can be read on its own and independently of all the other lessons, and the thermometer gives you a sense for how daring a particular activity is. Heres the legend:

• HOT!Requires the least overt sexual advances on your part
• HOTTER!Youre getting sexy, but you can probably keep your clothes on
• HOTTEST!Anything goes

So dive on in. Check it out. Get experimental. And have some fun while youre at it.

Part I:
Self - Discovery

Eliza Doolittle would not have needed enry iggins as the catalyst for finding herself had she been able to go online.

Time just moves faster in cyberspace. We learn so much about ourselves in such a short time when were online. You might discover you have an eye for fetish photography, or that playing a pin-up girl online has made you more confident offline. If youve always felt like something was missing, but youre not sure what, you can find out what it is by venturing into places online that you couldnt set foot in offline (at least not yet).