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Gvn tht t common fr u t judge ur mtn, mn l dvl fl blf r 'myths' but mtn. Here r th mt common n, as well wh th r false.

Myth #1: Thr a right w t fl in every situation.

False. Flng r not rght r wrng. They rvd information but hw w a f tutn. Dffrnt l will fl dffrnt mtn dndng on th tutn bu w ll hv dffrnt blf but ourselves, thr nd how th world rt. Even f tw people feel th same mtn, it is bl tht th ntnt wll vr. Fr xml, durng a funeral mt people wll fl d, but th ntnt f dn will vr dndng n hw l h person w t the deceased person.

Myth #2: Whn I lt thr know I am flng bd t hw I m wk r flawed.

False again. Flng are nt a weakness. Evrn experiences ngtv mtn and w cannot all be wk or flwd. So xrng a ngtv mtn ml means tht mthng bthrng u.

Mth #3: All ngtv mtn wll k n nrng n ntnt if I d nt act now.

This untru. Emtn do not nr frvr n ntnt. Th rh a peak nd thn they will ubd.

Mth #4: Ngtv emotions are bad and destructive.

Th is nthr false myth. It not the mtn tht is bd r dtrutv but th bhvr tht results. Fr xml, lhl abuse, mulv hng, rk-tkng bhvr nd lf-mutltn.

Mth #5: All mtn hn spontaneously fr no rn.

Fl. All mtn hn for a rn nd r th result f ur rtn f an vnt.

Myth #6: I cannot tolerate n nful mtn.

Th is not tru. Pl n lrn t tlrt unpleasant emotions wth practice. If w d nt lrn t tlrt emotions, mulv behaviors such drug, rgrttbl xul encounters nd lf-hrm with lead t furthr problems nd additional painful mtn.

Mth #7: Sm emotions are completely tud nd ul.

Untru. All mtn provide nfrmtn t u they r vr useful. They hl dntf wht we lk r d nt lk (fr xml, what rt w lk, how w want to be trtd), they hl u communicate with others (fr example, fl xrn to nv ngr r ntrt) nd they help prepare u fr tn (fr example, feeling nxu but a tt mtvt u to study untl we fl prepared nd the nxt dr).

Myth #8: If thr d not gr wth hw I fl thn I mut be wrng.

Another fl myth. Thr is n right r wrong mtn emotions nnt be judged. If u fl a rtn way, thn t what u r flng rgrdl f wht thr . Al remember tht each rn can experience a dffrnt mtn ftr th same vnt.

Mth # 9: Other l r the bt at knowing how I am flng.

Not true. Pl n nl behaviors r wht u d, but not wht u r feeling. Thu, h rn is th best judge f how th fl.

Myth #10: All nful emotions huld be gnrd because th are unmrtnt.

False. Pnful mtn are ll important because they leave gnfnt mtnl r tht need to b healed. Ignrng them will not mk thm g w.

Mth #11: Flng ngtv or painful emotions mn I m bd.

A fnl false myth. Feelings r not lk a rnlt trait r a bhvr, ngtv mtn do nt describe us as l. In addition, vrn fl ngtv mtn, like nxt or drn n occasion, and vrn cannot be 'bad'.

Why do we have emotions?

W mut hv mtn fr a rn, otherwise they would not xt. Thr r thr major rn wh we xrn mtn.

1. Emotions hl t mtvt u fr tn: Emtn help t organize ur behavior nd set u in motion t accomplish a gl. For xml, if you are rng the street nd u see a r run a rd light n ur direction, you will lkl rv dngr, get nxu, and run t get ut f the w. If you a

mmbr of th opposite as a tntl rmnt rtnr, it m motivate you to go tlk t th rn.

2. Emtn hl u communicate wth l: Emotions hl u mmunt wth thr l ung ur verbal and nn-vrbl bhvr. If u are mad at someone, u will likely r your voice in a frm tn, tnd u trght and look drtl in the other rn' eye. In turn, mtn also hl u rgnz wht thr r feeling. Fr example, f the thr rn is looking t you, mlng nd nddng thr hd during a nvrtn, u will lkl rv tht they are listening to you nd ntrtd n what u are ng.

3. Emotions mmunt to u wht w like and d nt lk: Th include a vrt f nfrmtn such hbb, l, work, ntrt, food, hw we prefer t be trtd, ur values, rt, t.

The Meaning Behind Emotions

Nw that you knw why we have mtn, the nxt t t understand wht information h mtn communicating to u. W are ut gd t knowing why w hv lnt mtn, so th lt tn will focus n wht unlnt mtn mean. If mn wr t k u wh we experience nxt, what would u nwr? Did u rl, "It means I fl scared" r "It mn bng frd?" Scared and frd are wrd tht describe the ntnt of nxt. For xml, tn r nervous are nnm for a lw level f nxt, whereas n nd trrfd would describe n xtrml ntn lvl of nxt. Anxt mn that we rv a threat r a dngr. For example, I bm trrfd if I a bear because I am frd f getting muld (.. dngr) r I fl nrvu about ubl speaking bu I m frd of getting judged (.. n emotional thrt). S h mtn has a series of words that drb th ntnt f the mtn, t mmunt specific nfrmtn t u which r thught, perceptions or beliefs but n event. In order to help u ut wth h emotion, u th fllwng Emotions Hndut as a gud. Nw that u hv become an xrt on mtn, ur nxt t t rd th tlkt n Change Yur Negative Thinking in rdr t dntf wh u fl emotions and t hl you hng hw you feel ftr an unpleasant vnt.