Paul Margaret - Healing your aloneness: finding love and wholeness through your inner child

Every self-help book poses the same questions: Why are there so many unhappy marriages? Why is there so much crime and violence and hatred? Why is there so much tension, anxiety, and illness? Why is there so much child abuse? Why are there so many unhappy people, people in pain, people with low self-esteem, people who feel alone and empty?

Our culture is rampant with people who are addicted to something alcohol, drugs, food, cigarettes, work, TV, money, power, relationships, religion, approval, caretaking, sex, affection, romance all ways to get filled up from outside of ourselves.

Why? Why are we so empty within that we continually look for new ways to fill ourselves from outside? What has happened in our society that has led to such emptiness?

Our society is in a deep spiritual crisis, a crisis that is the result of having taken the wrong path thousands of years ago. We are experiencing the consequences of the internal disconnection from our own hearts that began even before the birth of Christ.

The natural human state is a heart that is filled to the brim with love and light, so full that it overflows and pours out love and light with every breath. But so many of us are far away from that natural state, so far away that all we feel is a sense of emptiness in our hearts. And when our hearts are empty, and when we dont know how to fill them from the inside, then we are left trying to fill them from the outside. Thats what addiction and codependence is all about trying to fill oneself up from the outside.

Our world is at a crossroads. We are each being challenged to choose between love, peace, and life, or fear, war, and death. We have achieved much on this planet, but at what price? With all we have achieved, we are still left with polluted water and air, wars, hunger, crime, fear, and misery. What has gone wrong? What is missing in the world as a whole, and in our relationships, our families, and within ourselves?

The survival of our planet depends on all of us understanding and experiencing that we are all one. When we can look at other human beings and feel a sense of unity, then we can no longer violate each other physically or emotionally. This feeling of unity with all of life will not be achieved until we feel unified within ourselves. Our sense of isolation and loneliness can only be transcended through experiencing inner wholeness and connection.

We feel alone when we disconnect from ourselves, and then we feel lonely because we cannot connect to others until we connect to ourselves. This book is about understanding how we got so disconnected from ourselves and how we can reconnect and learn to fill ourselves up from the inside. It is about how we cause our own emptiness and aloneness and how we can create our own fullness. It is about how we learned to abandon ourselves and what we must do to love ourselves. It is when we love ourselves that our hearts fill up and the love overflows to others. We cannot love others any more than we love ourselves, and we cannot receive others love until we receive our own.