Pellicane - 31 Days to a Happy Husband

Arlene Pellicane knows exactly what a husband needs. 31 Days to a Happy Husband is a delightful, entertaining, and intensely practical roadmap to your husbands heart. The day it is released, Im putting it in my wifes hands!

David Clarke, marriage seminar speaker and author of Kiss Me Like You Mean It and I Dont Love You Anymore

A meaningful read for any wife who wants to get closer to her husband.

David Jeremiah, bestselling author, pastor, and founder of Turning Point Ministries

As a woman who has been married for 40 years (obviously a very young bride), I plan to have just as much fun, if not more, in the next 40. 31 Days to a Happy Husband is going to help make that happen. I thank you, Arlene, and so does my hubby, John!

Kendra Smiley, speaker and author of bestselling Journey of a Strong-Willed Child (coauthored with her happy husband)

When it comes to loving our husbands, most of us need more than a pep talkwe need a coach who understands where were coming from and how to get us to that sweet God-spot in our relationship. Well, meet Coach Arlene. Shes been there, done that in her marriage and will give you not just the steps but the motivation to take your marriage from roommates to making room for the most important man in your life.

Kathi Lipp, national speaker and author of The Husband Project

Heres fresh help and hope from popular author and speaker Arlene Pellicane. Youll find wisdom that works and new ideas that challenge you to stretch and grow. Arlene points the way to a happier, healthier marriage relationshipstarting from right where you are today. An excellent, well-organized resource for wives!

David Frisbie, executive director, The Center for Marriage and Family Studies, Del Mar, California

We believe in the great advice in 31 Days to a Happy Husband because we know Arlene and her husband, Jamesand he is happy! Arlene is always practical and personal, so this book is likely to make your husband very happy you bought it.

Bill and Pam Farrel, authors of Red-Hot Monogamy and Men Are Like WafflesWomen Are Like Spaghetti

Wives ask us all the time, How can I encourage my husband to grow and change? How can I help him become the man God calls him to be? As Arlene wisely reminds us here, the answer is not more nagging or more begging. Instead, we can use our God-given role as wives to support, nurture, and respect our husbandswatching as God works through our open and available hearts. I am glad to recommend Arlenes new books to wives of all ages!

Lisa Frisbie, author of Becoming Your Husbands Best Friend

31 Days to a Happy Husband gives every wife the tools she needs to have a joyful home. Youll learn how to set biblical priorities that may save your marriage or change the dynamic of your relationship from good to great. Arlene shares her own experiences along with expert advice from many happy husbands to help you have a happy husband yourself!

Beverly LaHaye, founder, Concerned Women for America and bestselling author of The Act of Marriage

Sound, practical wisdom for any wife who wants to bless her husband and be the wife God has called her to be.

Bob Lepine, cohost, FamilyLife Today

What a delightful book! With her touching stories, biblical insights, and practical helps, Arlene Pellicane walks you through a fun yet meaningful adventure of investing in your husbands happiness and ultimately, yours. Enjoy the read, as well as the rewards!

Cindi McMenamin, author of When a Woman Inspires Her Husband and When Couples Walk Together

If youre going to talk about a happy husbandand a happy wifeyou have to talk about a mutually fulfilling sex life. Arlenes book helps you identify roadblocks to intimacy while discovering true passion. No doubt you will benefit from this 31-day journey to greater joy inside and outside the bedroom.

Clifford and Joyce Penner, authors of The Gift of Sex

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31 DAYS TO A HAPPY HUSBAND
Copyright 2012 by Arlene Pellicane
Published by Harvest House Publishers
Eugene, Oregon 97402
www.harvesthousepublishers.com

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Pellicane, Arlene, 1971
31 days to a happy husband / Arlene Pellicane.

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ISBN 978-0-7369-4633-9 (eBook)
1. MarriageReligious aspectsChristianity. 2. HusbandsPsychology. 3. WivesConduct of life. I. Title. II. Title: Thirty-one days to a happy husband.

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For James
The keeper of the flame

T he year was 1999 and my big moment had finally arrived. I stood holding my fathers arm, ready to make my grand entrance into the church. James and I had decided to have one of his favorite seminary professors marry us. Ours was only his second wedding to officiate, but we didnt care about his inexperience.

Just as I approached the door leading into the sanctuary, I was shocked to hear the sound of our professors voice, Dearly beloved, we are gathered here to bring James and Arlene together in holy matrimony. The only problem was, I was still standing in the hall with all the bridesmaids. Our professor mistook a break in the music as his cue to begin the ceremony.

I couldnt believe my eyes or ears. Our dear professor got all the way through his introduction before realizing his error. When he got to that famous line, Who gives this woman to be married to this man? there was complete silence. Our friends and family didnt know whether to laugh or be mortified.

At this, my aunt started playing the piano, and I was thrust through the door of the church to join my ceremony in progress . I never thought in my wildest dreams that Id miss the beginning of my own wedding, but it sure has given us many laughs over the years.

Do you remember the day you said I do? I hope the ceremony didnt start without you. Remember walking down the aisle, feeling like the happiest woman in the world? Your heart was full of dreams for the future. Are you still dreaming today?

So many couples told us after we tied the knot, Just wait until youve been married a few years. You wont be so lovey-dovey anymore. But there was one lone voice who gave us the opposite advice. Never let the honeymoon end, he said. Its much easier to keep love alive than to try to revive something that has died. We vowed to follow his advice.