Jay Payleitner - 52 Things Husbands Need from Their Wives. What Wives Can Do to Build a Stronger Marriage

Praise for 52 Things Husbands Need from Their Wives

My husband and I were on the 15-year plantaking almost 15 years before we began to understand one another. I wouldnt recommend that plan for anyone. Instead I would wholeheartedly recommend Jay Payleitners book 52 Things Husbands Need from Their Wives. Wivesread it, apply it, and begin today to understand the man in your life.

Kendra Smiley, speaker and author of Do Your Kids a FavorLove Your Spouse and other books

As wives, we can choose to be encouragers for our husbands just as much as we can choose to be discouragers. Jay Payleitner gives us the inside scoop on what every husband needs. His biblically based perspective and end-of-the-chapter takeaways make this book a practical relationship builder for any couple.

Karol Ladd, author of Positive Life Principles for Women

Jays giving away our secrets, and we thank him for it. This is an insightful read, directed to women but educational for all of us, and a practical, user-friendly tool for any wife wanting to better understand the creature shes joined to.

Joe Dallas, author and speaker

Very to the point of what a woman needs to know about her man. After reading these 52 insights, you will better understand that your spouse isnt so weird after all.

Emilie Barnes, speaker, author, and founder of More Hours In My Day

As military families we spend so much valuable time apart from one another. Knowing how to give my husband what he needstogether or apartis a treasure. On behalf of all wives, thank you, Jay, for your insight and transparency on the one true gift we all can sharelove.

Tara Crooks, cofounder of Army Wife Network, coauthor of 1001 Things to Love about Military Life

Husbands, step up to being the spiritual leader in your homes. Start by seeking first the kingdom of God over your own kingdom, and cherishing your wife. Then give your wife a copy of this book by Jay Payleitner. I guarantee you that your marriage will be for the glory of God.

Harry W. Schaumburg, DMin, author of Undefiled: Redemption from Sexual Sin, Restoration for Broken Relationships

This little book is a treasure trove of wisdom and advice for any woman who wants to understand her husband better. Simple (just like your husband) in its approach, it gives an excellent snapshot of whats inside the heart and soul of a man. I highly recommend it!

Rick Johnson, bestselling author of Becoming Your Spouses Better Half and How to Talk So Your Husband Will Listenand Listen So Your Husband Will Talk

Wives, you have great power to help your husband feel confident as he faces lifes battles. And your encouragement can be a huge asset to him becoming a great husband and father. Jays 52 Things Husbands Need from Their Wives will help you understand your man.

Carey Casey, CEO of The National Center for Fathering and author of Championship Fathering

Jay has done it again. He continues to give us unique insight into building strong family relationships.

Dan Seaborn, president and founder of Winning At Home, Inc.

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52 THINGS HUSBANDS NEED FROM THEIR WIVES

Copyright 2013 by Jay Payleitner

Published by Harvest House Publishers

Eugene, Oregon 97402

www.harvesthousepublishers.com

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Payleitner, Jay K.

52 things husbands need from their wives / Jay Payleitner.

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ISBN 978-0-7369-5486-0 (eBook)

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To my bride, Ritafor loving me despite, through, and because of all my faults.

I need to thank all the women over the years who have modeled the art and science of being a wonderful wife.

My mom, Marguerite. My sisters and sister-in-law, Mary Kay, Sue, and Chris. My daughters-in-law, Rachel, Lindsay, and Megan. And my own awesomely awesome bride of more than three decades, Rita.

There are also quite a few other women I know who are divinely supportive wives. I am thinking of dozens of Ritas girlfriends from church and the community, from among those sitting in bleachers and volunteering at school, and from the neighborhoods in which weve lived. Also, Ive come to really appreciate the wives of all the guys in my mens Bible study groups over the years. Some of you I may have never even met, but your husbands speak well of you!

Beyond my family, individuals who have contributed directly to this project include Geri Fuehring, Gary Sanders, Randy Burggraf, Bob Anderson, Dave George, Dennis OMalley, Dick Graff, John Hrivnak, John Waters, Mitch Belon, Tom Pate, Terry Jones, and Ron Basar.

Strategic encouragement and support came from fellow author Karol Ladd, my agent Sandra Bishop, and my colleagues Carey Casey and Brock Griffin at The National Center for Fathering. I also cannot say enough good stuff about Paul Gossard, Terry Glaspey, Bob Hawkins Jr., and the entire team at Harvest House Publishers.

I am more than grateful to the pastors and event planners who have invited me to encourage, laugh with, and challenge diverse groups of dads and husbands. I have no idea whether this bookfor wiveswill lead to my speaking in auditoriums in which I am the only male. Yikes.

Finally, of course, to our heavenly Father, who created marriage as the perfect building block for families, neighborhoods, communities, nations, and our world.

Contents

A Husband Needs His Wife

I love strong, confident women. My wife, Rita, has always been smart, virtuous, and forthright. Her confidence came after realizing how much she had to offer as a mother and as an advocate for strong families. Today shes an alderman sitting as one of ten council members for a city of about 35,000 people. Rita is the best mom in the world as well as a new grandmother(!), and she makes me a better man.