Robert Mark Alter - Good Husband, Great Marriage: Finding the Good Husband...in the Man You Married

There are a number of good books on marital sexuality: Barry and Emily McCarthy, Rekindling Desire: A Step-by-Step Program to Help Low-Sex and No-Sex Marriages (Brunner-Routledge, 2003); Wendy Maltz, The Sexual Healing Journey (Harper Perennial, 2001); Sallie Foley, et al., Sex Matters for Women (Guilford, 2002); Robert Butler and Myrna Lewis, The New Love and Sex After Sixty (Ballantine, 2002); Patricia Love and Jo Robinson, Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate Lovemaking (Plume, 1994); David Schnarch, Passionate Marriage: Love, Sex, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships (Owl Books, 1998); and Michele Weiner-Davis, The Sex-Starved Marriage: A Couples Guide to Boosting Their Marital Libido (Simon & Schuster, 2003).

, or you can call their therapist locator number (1-800-964-2000).

For help in finding a good therapist, see the previous footnotes.

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Copyright 2006 by Robert Mark Alter

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GOOD HUSBAND,
GREAT MARRIAGE

is a revolutionary message
for both husbands and wives.

I have just finished your wonderful book, and I dont think Ive ever cheered, cried, and laughed so much in one book. I told my husband that it is a book that I hope will save our marriage You have created a great service to man/womankind, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Frankie J., Texas

We read three-quarters of your book over the weekend, and now we read a chapter every couple of days to draw it out a bit, because we dont want it to end. It has helped so very much!!!

Sybil and Anthony D., England

What an epiphany! A lot of it is what I have been trying to say to my husband for years. I am grateful for your book because now I know I am not crazy. Do I have things to work on? Definitely. But do I now feel empowered and reassured that what I am asking for is not insane? Most definitely!

Katherina L., South Carolina

Most of what you teach in the book is what she has been telling me for years. I want to thank you for opening my mind to the truth. I am now striving to become a better husband and person.

Kevin K., New Jersey

I laughed, I cried, I wanted to jump for joy that finally FINALLY!a guy can relate to what Im talking about. I gave the book to my husband to read, and lo-and-behold he actually kept the TV off and proceeded to read through a hundred pages in onecount thatone sitting! Im speechless. Thats the longest hes EVER read at one time, not being the sports section. Praise God, there just might be light after this long journey Every woman and man should own this book. It should be mandatory, given out with all marriage certificates.

Barbara G., Hawaii

I have changed drastically since reading your book. I truly see how to treat my wife now and provide her with the emotional support, communication, and love she so desperately desires.

Mark L., Tennessee

Your book has given me more confidence in expressing myself, and I thank you for encouraging us women to stand behind ourselves and what we know The more I read the book, the more I understand the deep love and respect you have for men, and as a mother of two adult sons, I really appreciate it.

Emmy R., Massachusetts

I finished your book around two oclock this morning, and today when I came home from work at lunchtime, my husband was drinking again. I went directly to our bedroom, got the book, handed it to him, and told him, Now it is your turn to read this! I did not leave it open for discussion. I truly believe that this book is our last chance to save our marriage, so I hope that he gets it and gets it real soon! Thank you so much for giving me back my power.

Cheryl T., California

Wow! I get it. Finally. Thank you for this book!

Lewis C., Michigan

Your book, in my estimation, is what the world needs to bring peace and harmony to all humankind.

Alan R., Utah

My wife started reading your book, then gave it to me. I finished it quickly and am totally committed to make the necessary changes in me and in the relationship to be a good husband.

Robert F., Colorado

Ive stood up for myself for probably the first time in a very long time. I did it with style, logic, and true concern and care for what I want most: A good husband! A great marriage! Who could ask for anything more?

Meredith T., West Virginia

After reading your book I have to thank you, as it has made a very real difference in my marriage as well as in the rest of my family.

Ken B., Missouri

Thanks for the empowerment tool!

Jamie K., Wyoming

I have been married for twenty years, and I have to say my husband is a great guy, but as Ive matured and he hasnt, it has become difficult to accept some of his behaviors. Your book is so wonderful and so easy to understand, I gave it to him, and he is reading it in small installments. I plan to give this book to each of my four children (three are male) when they get married. The world needs your message to get out there loud and clear.

Karen O., Connecticut

The whole world will benefit from the work you have done.

Wendy W., New Jersey

To my wife,
Jane.

Out of your great love for me
and your great respect for yourself
you have taught me all this.

Then she must be your inspiration.

Gurumayi Chidvilasananda

Thank you, Gurumayi, for all the blessings in our lives. Thank you to the people closest to me, my inner circle of family and friends, for their unending love and support and encouragement: our beloved daughter, Greta, and Matt and Gracie and Harper; the best mother-in-law on earth, Yvette Lebow, and Irv, and Al, and River; Aunt Sally and Aunt Alberta and my cousins Mark, Kay, John, Alan, and Keith; Gail and Milt, Steven, and Lynnie and Jon and the boys; Gita and David, Lora and Steve, Mary and Michael, and Ruth and Jon; the Fruhan family, the