Jay Payleitner - 52 Things Wives Need from Their Husbands. What Husbands Can Do to Build a Stronger Marriage

A realistic (and humorous) look at married life and how husbands can use their strengths to celebrate and lift up their wives. I wish Id had this book years agoit would have saved me a lot of apologizing!

Rick Johnson, bestselling author of
Becoming Your Spouses Better Half and Better Dads, Stronger Sons

Every man needs what this books got! Practical, simple ideas on how to love your wife. Give it a try!

Dan Seaborn, president, Winning at Home

Helping men connect with their wives is a huge way to strengthen families. Once again Jay has provided a wealth of great ideas husbands can put into action.

Carey Casey, CEO of The National Center for Fathering,
radio host, and author of Championship Fathering

I read Jays booknodded my head and smiledwondered how he got so smart about womenand decided to get a copy for my husband and each of our three married sons!Thank you, Jay, from all the women whose husbands will read this book.

Kendra Smiley, speaker,
author of Do Your Kids a FavorLove Your Spouse

Are you taking your wife for granted? That girl you married needs you! And you need her!Jays book is a timely reminder for men that marriage is an awesome gift from God.

Darrel Billups, executive director of
the National Coalition of Ministries to Men (NCMM)

Wives, watch out. You are about to be loved, cherished, and surprised!

Josh McDowell, author and international speaker

When your wife rises up and calls you blessed, youll owe Jay Payleitner for having written this book. Every father and husband ought to read, underline, and live it.

Steve Brown, popular author,
seminary professor, and radio teacher on Key Life

Every dad will see himself in the funny and enlightening pages of this bookan excellent choice for any man who is or expects to be a father.

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This is great stuff, worth any dads time. If you cant benefit from this, youre not listening. Ignore it only if you dont want to be a better dad. The first three copies are going to my grown sons.

Jerry B. Jenkins, coauthor of the megaselling Left Behind series
and author of over 150 other published works

By offering such varied topics, Payleitner gives fathers a well-rounded view of what children need in an accessible format. Whether youre just starting out as a father or partway through the journey of raising your children, youll find fresh ideas.

MetroChristianLiving.com

I highly recommend this book to all dads. It is a good read and, more importantly, a great guide for any man desiring to meet the needs of the children God has entrusted to his care.

Kendra Smiley, radio host, conference speaker,
and author of Be the Parent and High-Wire Mom

Moms of all ages, grab this book for your husbands! Its inspiring, encouraging, and easy to read.

Ellen Banks Elwell, author of The Christian Moms Idea Book
and When Theres Not Enough of Me to Go Around

You wont find any lectures or guilt trips here. Instead, its more like 52 inspiring halftime talks. As your personal fathering coach, Jay will provoke you to think deep, laugh hard, and love more, leaving you with 52 unexpected fathering insights.

Carey Casey, CEO of The National Center for Fathering,
speaker, radio host, and author of Championship Fathering

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Jay Payleitner is represented by MacGregor Literary, Inc., of Hillsboro, Oregon.

52 THINGS WIVES NEED FROM THEIR HUSBANDS

Copyright 2011 by Jay K. Payleitner

Published by Harvest House Publishers

Eugene, Oregon 97402

www.harvesthousepublishers.com

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Payleitner, Jay K.

52 things wives need from their husbands / Jay Payleitner.

p. cm.

ISBN 978-0-7369-4471-7 (pbk.)

ISBN 978-0-7369-4427-4 (eBook)

1. Marriage. 2. MarriageReligious aspectsChristianity. 3. HusbandsConduct of life.

4. WivesPsychology. I. Title. II. Title: Fifty-two things wives need from their husbands.

HQ734.P317 2011

248.844dc23

2011025582

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To my parents, who modeled marriage done well
for more than 60 years.
I love you. Thanks.

After finishing this manuscript, but before it went to press, I lost my dad to bone and liver cancer. Since this page is set aside for acknowledgments, Id like to acknowledge him. Ever so briefly.

As I am the writer in the family, the task of crafting my fathers obituary fell to me, which turned out to be a puzzle and a privilege. At the very least, it made me think about what my own kids might write about me someday.

Ken Payleitner was an elementary-school principal for 32 years. In the weeks since he passed, Ive heard stories from dozens of former students and teachers about his compassion, open-door policy, and kid-friendly approach to education. Those firsthand recollections were good to hear. Its satisfying to think that his impact on real lives continues.

Dad was one of the few remaining World War II vets, a skilled carpenter, a tree planter, a fisherman, and a diehard Cubs fan. He desperately loved his four kids, eleven grandchildren, two great-grandchildren, and my momhis bride of more than 60 years. He was also an excellent father-in-law, which is no small thing. His legacy is firmly in place.

I loved him a lot and he knew it. When I was a boy, he was an involved dad, which I did not fully appreciate until much later. Still, it was the conversations I had with him over the last decade that will stick with me most. Dialogues about spiritual truths and the meaning of life. We were both lifelong learners.

The idea of being married six decades should not be a big deal. The formula is simple. Get married in your 20s and live into your 80s. Whats tough about that? You get out of bed for 22,000 mornings in a row, brush your teeth, kiss your wife, and do the work God puts in front of you. My dad lived the biblical instruction, Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might (Ecclesiastes 9:10).