Jay Payleitner - Moms Bringing Out the Best in Dads: Teaming Up to Help Your Family Thrive

Jay Payleitners latest book is a joy to read. Its written in his usual common sense, humorous style with just a touch of panache. Not only will moms benefit from this book, but Im betting many dads will thank him as well. Frankly, as a fellow author Im always a bit envious of just how good Jays books really are.

Rick Johnson, bestselling author of Thats My Son

Moms Bringing Out the Best in Dads is filled with simple, uncomplicated reminders. As a mom, I learned that words are important, but actions and decisions can shout, I love you! I respect you! I appreciate you! Prayer for your spouse, your children, and yourself can bring out the best in everyone.

Kendra Smiley, author of Journey of a Strong-Willed Child

Moms and dads have different ways of parenting, but both are critical to a childs upbringing. Jay shows how moms and dads can help each other be the best parents possiblenot through competition but through coparenting.

Eric Carroll, Dad Talk Today

Reading Jays book has given me a whole new vocabulary to use with my husband! Packed with creative ideas and heartwarming stories, this book will help you appreciate your husband and make him feel respected as a dad. Your wild support of your husband is one of the greatest gifts you can give your kids.

Arlene Pellicane, author of 31 Days to a Happy Husband and host of The Happy Home podcast

As dads seem demeaned on every level, Moms Bringing Out the Best in Dads is refreshing and inspiring. Jay is so sensitive and gracious as he encourages moms to bring out the best in dads without belittling either parent. His humor, wisdom, and practical and biblical truths are priceless.

Dr. Clarence Shuler, president of Building Lasting Relationships

Get ready Jay is about to reveal to you what your childrens father might never have the courage to say. With honesty, humor, and a heart for the next generation, Jay offers wisdomand even gentle warningsto help spouses experience the best that parenting has to offer. Perhaps the best part about his book, though, is that he presents what hes asking you to do not as a chore but as an exciting challenge, and even an adventure.

Cindi McMenamin, author of When a Woman Inspires Her Husband

Jay has a unique way of marrying genuine wisdom with down-to-earth insights for family living. In this book he gives wives dozens of practical tools they can begin using today in order to help their husbands be the best dads possible. The backdrop is the reminder that couples are on the same team and working toward the shared goal of raising healthy, well-loved children. Wives will find themselves motivated to begin putting these ideas into practice.

Kim Caifano, writer and speaker

As someone who deals with the devastating consequences of fatherlessness every day, I am ecstatic to find a book that will enable wives to help their husbands thrive. Jay Payleitners love for fatherhood, family, and marriage flows off every page. Using touching anecdotes, dad-joke humor, and biblical truth, his wisdom will gently take up residence in your heart. Romantic (Kiss Him in the Kitchen) as well as practical (Recalibrate His Smartphone Pics), Moms Bringing Out the Best in Dads is a toolkit, compass, and roadmap every wife needs.

Ron Hauenstein, founder and CEO, Spokane Fatherhood Initiative

In a world replete with biological, spiritual, and governmental father wounds, Moms Bringing Out the Best in Dads is much more than a Band-Aid for a kids scraped knee or a pat on the back for a defeated dad; it is a healing balm for the family.

Kay Horner, executive director of Awakening America Alliance and The Helper Connection

I applaud Jay Payleitners refreshing fountain of life-giving, practical wisdom. I thoroughly enjoyed and was refreshed by the real-life journey he has taken as a man, husband, and father that will serve as a blueprint and roadmap to those who desire to understand the challenges of everyday life.

Dr. Joaquin G. Molina, author of What Is a Man?

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Moms Bringing Out the Best in Dads

Copyright 2022 by Jay Payleitner

Published by Harvest House Publishers

Eugene, Oregon 97408

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Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her .

P ROVERBS 31:28

With gratitude to Rita Anne,
who continues to make me
a better man and a better dad .

Contents

W e live in a fatherless period in time.

I think often of this verse from a fatherless time in ancient history. What a promise God made as the final ink on the last pages of the Old Testament began to dry:

He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers.

M ALACHI 4:6

Ive used this verse as a prayer in my home, asking God to make me the kind of mother who partners with God in turning the hearts of the Gresh children (and grandchildren) toward Bob! The kind of woman who turns Bobs heart toward our children (and grandchildren). If your children, like mine, have an involved dad in their lives, they are blessed. Lets be the kind of women who live as if we believe that!