Jay Payleitner - 52 Things Daughters Need from Their Dads. What Fathers Can Do to Build a Lasting Relationship

Practical and incredibly insightfula go-to book for dads of daughters. This is stuff I can immediately incorporate in relating to my three daughtersHint: Moms, buy this book for your husband!

Jim Burns, president of HomeWord and author of Teenology and Confident Parenting

In easy-to-swallow and to-the-point snippets, Jay gives dads fantastic advice. This is a great tool for any father who wants to be intentional about raising whole and healthy children in a culture that makes that task difficult.

Dannah Gresh, author of Six Ways to Keep the Little in Your Girl and Six Ways to Keep the Good in Your Boy

Every dad wants his daughter to grow up with dignity, self-respect, grace, humility, virtue, and significanceJays approach helps dads with the development of these desirable character traits from early childhood through walking them down the aisle.

Darrel Billups, executive director of the National Coalition of Ministries to Men

Jay provides dads with a wealth of insights and practical ideas that will help them invest wisely in their daughters livesin a way that allows dads to smile and get rid of the fright. He instills confidence that you can have a close and difference-making relationship with your daughter.

Carey Casey, CEO of the National Center for Fathering, radio host of Todays Father, and author of Championship Fathering

What a wise and wonderful book!...Be sure you give copies to every father of a daughter. He will rise up and call you blessed. His daughters will too!

Steve Brown, popular author, seminary professor, and radio teacher on Key Life

Dads have the unique opportunity to influence, guide, and encourage their daughters to grow into godly and gracious young ladies 52 Things Daughters Need from Their Dads is a playbook that gives a father the tools he can use for building a lasting and loving relationship.

Karol Ladd, bestselling author of The Power of a Positive Mom

Payleitner has done it again! Each section of this treasure chest of wisdom contains insights on what every daughter needs from her daddy, and tips every man needs to think aboutall in an easy-to-read format. Well done, my friend!

Rick Johnson, bestselling author of Better Dads, Stronger Sons and Thats My Girl

Helpful not only because it reminds us of the priority our daughters should have in our livesit also gives us creative, useful ideas for how to create an unbreakable bond with them. Thanks, Jay, for your heart to help all of us dads!

Wayne Shepherd, national Christian radio host of First Person with Wayne Shepherd

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52 THINGS DAUGHTERS NEED FROM THEIR DADS

Copyright 2013 by Jay Payleitner

Published by Harvest House Publishers

Eugene, Oregon 97402

www.harvesthousepublishers.com

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Payleitner, Jay K.

52 things daughters need from their dads / Jay Payleitner.

p. cm.

ISBN 978-0-7369-4810-4 (pbk.)

ISBN 978-0-7369-4811-1 (eBook)

1. Fathers and daughtersReligious aspectsChristianity. I. Title. II. Title: Fifty-two things daughters need from their dads.

BV4529.17.P385 2013

248.8'421dc23

2012033730

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To my Rae Anne.

You brighten each day.

First, of course, to our heavenly Father. Above all.

Then, I must credit most of the dads I know for doing a spectacular job. Your daughters are growing into wonderful young women exhibiting grace, wisdom, and integrity. Some of these men even helped shape the content of this book. That includes Chuck Thomas, Scott Kirk, Paul Gossard, Dave George, Ray Ochromowicz, Jon Gauger, Bob Miller, Terry Schweizer, and Mark Payleitner.

Other dads of daughters who contributed more indirectly are Len Asquini, Tim Coleman, Dwight Curran, Dave Buckman, Rudy DePolo, Brad Dennison, Todd Winkler, Josh McDowell, Dennis OMalley, and Tim Hollinger. Watching these men interact with their daughters has been a tremendously valuable learning experience. I recommend you also spend intentional time with other dads who are putting in the extra effort to get it right.

Thanks to all those rooting specifically for this project. That includes Sandra Bishop, my visionary agent at MacGregor Literary; Carey Casey and Brock Griffin at the National Center for Fathering; and Terry Glaspey, Bob Hawkins Jr., and the entire talented team at Harvest House Publishers.

Im assuredly grateful to the pastors and event planners who have invited me to encourage, laugh with, and challenge diverse throngs of dads and husbands. Its always fun and always humbling.

Love and thanks to my bride, Rita, and my three lovely daughters-in-law, Rachel, Lindsay, and Megan. Im still learning how to be the husband and father-in-law you deserve.

And finally, to my remarkable, unforgettable, tenacious, and sweet Rae Annexxxo.

Contents

A Daughter Needs Her Dad

by Robin Brown DeMurga,

daughter of Steve Brown

(author and founder of Key Life Network)

A lthough there is no such thing as a perfect father and only God can fill that role, daughters need their earthly fathersdesperately. You may not think of yourself this way, but you are Gods gift to your daughter. And its clear you want to be the best father you can be. You want to love your daughter well. (After all, you picked up this book, right?)

My own father did the best he could. Thats all any of us can do as we maneuver through life. Sure, you want to be a better dad, but you are always going to fall short and feel a little guilty when your perfect kids dont turn out so perfect. Thankfully, Gods grace always makes up for our lack.

For me, life as a PK (Preachers Kid) was hard. What kid stands a chance competing with God and Gods work? Dad was, for the most part, an absentee fatherand he would be the first to admit it. In recent years, weve come to terms with our daddydaughter relationship and have had great conversations filled not so much with regrets, but a new appreciation for Gods faithfulness, forgiveness, and our own human limitations.