Praise for Sherry Argovs
WHY MEN LOVE
Bitches
No ones ever written a relationship book like this one. This book takes satire to a whole new level. Its not only funny, its very real. It is full of slice of life humor that covers everything that frustrates women about men.
BELINDA FOSTER, producer of the Girls of the Comedy Store at the World Famous Comedy Store
Her sassy book is filled with scenarios and advice aimed at making women subtly stronger and self-empowered. The book, which has already been featured on The View and The OReilly Factor, should make waves with its controversial view of relationships.
Publishers Weekly
Wow! I am impressed... the information is clear and necessary My hat is off...
RAYE HOLLITT, actress and star of American Gladiators; also appeared on Baywatch and JAG
Hysterically funny, irresistible, and very saucy!!!
LORIN ROCHE, Ph.D., author, Meditation Made Easy
There is so much insightful information for women presented in a way that really feels good so women can get it. The humor really sets this book apart because it makes the message palatable. Its the spoonful of sugar that makes the medicine go down.
PEGGY G. MILLER, MFT, psychotherapist
Smart, witty, and right on. A must-read for any woman who wants to capture her mans interest.
Judy Mazel, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller The Beverly Hills Diet
WHY MEN
LOVE
Bitches
Sherry Argov
Copyright 2004, 2002, 2000, Sherry Argov. All rights reserved.
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Published by
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ISBN 13: 978-1-58062-756-6
ISBN 10: 1-58062-756-0
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Argov, Sherry.
Why men love bitches / Sherry Argov.
p. cm.
ISBN 1-58062-756-0
1. Mate selection. 2. Single womenLife skills guides.
3. Self-esteem in women. 4. Dating (Social customs)
5. Man-woman relationships. I. Title.
HQ801 .A724 2002
646.7'7--dc21
2002009981
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Dedication
I dedicate this book to
my mother and father.
CONTENTS
Acknowledgements
First and foremost, Id like to thank and acknowledge my parents, Aby and Judy Argov, the two most special people in my life.
Special thanks to Gary M. Krebs, Publishing Director at Adams Media Corporation, for his immediate and continued support of this project and invaluable creative direction. It is an honor working with him.
I would also like to thank Bob Adams for having a publishing house with such a great team. A special thanks goes out to Publicity Director Carrie (Lewis) McGraw, Assistant Editor Kate Epstein, Copy Chief Laura MacLaughlin, and Art Director Paul Beatrice, for his creative vision and beautiful cover design. I would really like to thank Daria Perreault, Manager of Design and Technology, for her creative talent and for truly going the extra mile.
Special thanks to Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, coauthors of The Rules, for their endorsement, vote of confidence, and for cohosting Dating Dilemmas with me.
I would also like to thank the other people who offered their endorsements: Belinda Foster, Don Gibb, Wings Hauser, Raye Hollitt, Peggy G. Miller, Lorin Roche, and Lynn Sterba.
I would like to thank everyone at KRLA and KLSX for the opportunity to be on the air.
Id like to thank Senior Editor of the Palisadian-Post, Bill Bruns, who gave me the opportunity to write for the paper, and for the time he spent mentoring me.
Id like to thank my photographer Jeff Hyman for his kindness, which will always be remembered; Daniel Dydzak, for being a great attorney and a great friend; Judy Mazel and Mike Cohn for helping me get started in the publishing business; and Joel and Charlotte Parker of Parker PR for believing in this book since the conception of the idea. Thanks also to Christopher Napolitano, Senior Editor of Playboy Enterprises, for giving me my first interview and the opportunity to have the book featured in the magazine.
Special thanks to everyone who contributed stories and shared their experiences for this book. A special thanks to my close friend Susanne Nissen, who listened and laughed through each chapter while running up her long-distance phone bill.
Would also like to mention Ben and Bryn Argov and congratulate them on their new arrival, as well as a little thank you to my cat Tigger. Last but not least, Id like to thank the special man in my life for his continued support, and for always making me smile.
Introduction
Why Men Love Bitches is a relationship guide for women who are too nice. The word bitch in the title does not take itself too seriouslyIm using the word in a tongue-in-cheek way representative of the humorous tone of this book.
The title and the content address what many women think, but dont say. Every woman has felt embarrassed by appearing too needy with a man. Every woman has had a man pursue her, only to lose interest the minute she gave in. Every woman knows what it feels like to be taken for granted. These problems are common to most women, married and single alike.
So why do men love bitches? An important distinction should be made between the pejorative way the word is usually used, and the way it is used here. Certainly, Im not recommending that a woman have an abrasive disposition. The bitch Im talking about is not the bitch on wheels or the mean-spirited character that Joan Collins played on Dynasty. Nor is it the classic office bitch who is hated by everyone at work.
The woman Im describing is kind yet strong. She has a strength that is ever so subtle. She doesnt give up her life, and she wont chase a man. She wont let a man think he has a 100 percent hold on her. And shell stand up for herself when he steps over the line.
She knows what she wants but wont compromise herself to get it. But shes feminine, like a Steel Magnoliaflowery on the outside and steel on the inside. She uses this very femininity to her own advantage. It isnt that she takes undue advantage of men, because she plays fair. She has one thing the nice girl doesnt: a presence of mind because she isnt swept away by a romantic fantasy. This presence of mind enables her to wield her power when it is necessary.
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