Patrick King - Why Women Love Jerks: Realizing the Best Version of Yourself to Effortlessly Attract Women (Dating Advice for Men to Attract Women and Increase Confidence)

By Patrick King

Dating and Social Skills Coach at www.PatrickKingConsulting.com

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You hear it constantly.

Men will complain that the women they desire simply dont like nice guys like them, and that they are only interested in guys that treat them poorly and dont take care of them. He, of course, has unwittingly placed his relationship with that particular woman on a pedestal so high that he cant ever hope to climb it, even though he feels supremely entitled to.

On the other side of the gender fence, women will complain that all of the men she dates treat her like trash and generally seem indifferent to her presence and affections. She, of course, perceives these men as exciting, and doesnt recognize that a nice guy doesnt have to withhold excitement, charm, and personality.

If these sound like two sides of the same coin, its because they are.

What most people fail to consistently do is to separate the individual personality traits that they are attracted to from the people that they reside in.

Translation people might think they know what they want, but they often seize the wrong things! Many things look similar or near-identical on the surface level.

Heres a common case in point: a woman believes that she is attracted to independent and masculine men so she always ends up with men that are emotionally distant and inattentive to her needs because outwardly, they seem similar enough and can be attractive. See the misattribution?

This is what this book is about, uncovers, and seeks to solve.

How can the nice guys of the world (or anyone that just isnt a jerk) harness the flash and raw attractiveness that the jerk possesses in spades? How can we separate the individual jerk personality traits that they display and use them to our advantage in a healthy way?

In other words, how can we remain nice guys but attract women with the best of them?

At the most basic level, its pattern recognition and correlation analysis. If this is starting to sound scientific, its because Ive broken it down as such. With this in mind, lets revisit the statements from above:

Women dont like nice guys like me!

Incoming reality check. Women love guys that are nice to them and take care of them. However, they do not love the guy who makes them their first, second, and third priority and hangs on her every word and action or guys who pander to everyones happiness but their own or guys that secretly believe that fostering a close friendship with her will one day make her fall for you like a romantic comedy It was you all along you were hiding in plain sight I love you.

Its pretty easy to see why she would choose a jerk that challenges her and keeps things exciting over that nice guy, despite the negative long-term implications.

All the guys I date treat me like trash!

Incoming reality check. Girl, you just played by a guy that just isnt that into you. And lets face it, that probably made you all the more interested and intrigued at the outset. Again, its easy to see the attractiveness of a guy who loves to march to his own drum and has many priorities in his life besides you versus a guy who is always there like a clinging, suffocating shadow. Checkmate, jerk once again.

So given that there is a clear disconnect between what people think they want and what they end up getting, the following question is begged: regardless of who you are, how can you embody the traits that people think they want? How can you take advantage of the jerks traits, remove the jerk part, and embody the parts that women love?

Youll learn exactly how to walk that thin line like an expert in this book.

Ill break down the exact traits that cause women to flock to jerks like moths to a porch light. On the flip side, Ill examine the exact traits that make men get categorized and cast aside as boring, unexciting, and just nice. Finally, Ill tell you exactly how to ride this phenomenon to success and mastery with women.

Have your female love interests ever told you that they just dont think of you that way, or that they cherish your friendship too much to risk losing it? This book is for you. Do you do fine with the ladies and just want to create the most attractive version of yourself? This book is definitely for you.

Lets shed the stigma from the jerk label and harvest the fruits into the Jerk Complex .

Nice guys do finish last when they dont understand the Jerk Complex.

This is a point worth repeating. If youve gotten to this point of the book and are still skeptical of my intentions and lessons, you may have missed my main proposition entirely.

The typical perception is that a jerk is careless or indifferent about the women he sees. This might be true of the True Jerk, but I propose that the Jerk Complex is composed of traits that can be construed to look that way, but are actually overwhelmingly positive traits of a well-balanced man.

The word jerk is code for a number of things, and jerk arent always jerks per se depending on who you are talking to.

For nice guys, jerk is code for a guy who doesnt appear to pander to women, even upsetting them at times.

For women, jerk is code for a guy who doesnt appear to pander to women, even upsetting them at times.

No, that wasnt a typo. Those descriptions apply to the outward appearance of both the True Jerk and the Jerk Complex. While the True Jerk manifests these because he believes that it will (1) attract women, or (2) he is overcompensating for his own insecurities, the Jerk Complex comes from a place of positivity and self-assurance independence, conviction in their own beliefs, understanding of their own self-worth and esteem, and indifference to offending the peanut gallery.

He places a high value on his own time, and becomes unavailable and aloof as a result of the dogged pursuit of his passions and hobbies. He also realizes that a relationship, important as it may be, doesnt define him or consume all of his time.

The True Jerk doesnt text or pay much attention because he thinks that doing so will attract women, and he wants to minimize his chances of being rejected as much as possible.

The Jerk Complex will never overtext, and may sometimes be distant because hes so busy living life on his own terms.

Its a collection of personality traits and values that will offend and turn some off by their very nature but the Jerk Complex is entirely comfortable with it. And of course, that kind of attitude is guaranteed to be attractive to women.

So in the context of what were achieving here, Im isolating traits that jerks display and turning them into assets for everyone else.

The rest is typical human nature and interaction theory as will be clearly illustrated through the following principles. After all, studies have shown that inconsistent rewards are addictive isnt that exactly what jerks do, when broken down in the simplest of terms? You never know when theyll come through, so you are kept on your toes, and the anticipation has built such that when they actually do come through, its a surprising, joyous occasion.